When I met my best friend (about 5years ago) we were really close. We'd tell each other everything & I could trust him with my life.
I'm 17 now he's 18. When I was 15 he moved away. It was really upsetting & at that time I was raped and sexually abused so it was pretty hard for me.
Although we didn't live close, we still stayed in contact by phone calls, msn, text messages and emails. He helped me through everything.
About a year ago we had a really deep conversation & he told me he loved me & he had always wanted to be more than a friend. I felt the same way but I was to scared to say anything before then.
Next year I'm moving up to where he lives to go to University & hopefully to continue our relationship.
When we were best friends though I could tell him everything that was going on. But now we are more than friends I can't. It's like I don't want to hurt him.
How can I be as open as I use to be without fearing that I will hurt him?
2007-05-24 17:58:32 · 4 answers · asked by ★☆✿❀ 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
when you decide to take a relationship into another level, there is a phase in which you would feel like you don't even know the person anymore... it would make you wonder if you really did make the right decision...
as for your case, it seems to be a little more complicated, taking into account what you've been through...
does he know about what happened..? if so and he still accepts you, then you've hit gold... it's rare to meet someone who would accept everything about yourself...
give it time to work... don't be restricted in being you just because you are afraid to hurt him... there are already many instances in this world that just because one doesn't want to hurt the other, it ended up worsening the hurt...
just try to be open and just be yourself...
good luck..!
2007-05-24 18:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by sayu13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is a great guy. I am not sure what subject it is that you need to be open about that would hurt him. I would think the only thing would be if you were interested in some other guy. The best thing about a relationship with a guy you have been friends with ( and the reverse for guys) is that you have that basis of frienship and trust to build on for love.
Remember, you were open, and he still fell in love with you. That isn't going to change because you are open now.
Be honest, share who are you with him, good and bad. Nobody is perfect. But sharing and communication are necessary for a good relationship.
Just be happy that you have that love in your life.
2007-05-24 18:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wabby,your friend already knows everything about you that could pose a potential obstacle in a relationship.He must care for you more than you could possibly think.It took a lot of courage for him to open up to you about his feelings for you, he was willing to face rejection rather than risk not sharing your love in return.You were already best friends so you will have a strong foundation upon which to build your relationship.Take care.
2007-05-25 08:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by gussie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you said you always had the same feelings, right? so why the change. he always loved you and you always loved him, and you talked to each other just fine. you should stop looking at him like a guy and start looking at him as a person. whatever you said before never hurt him, so why should it now?
2007-05-24 18:10:09 · answer #4 · answered by moi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋