How can I absolutely hurt the feelings of bums who ask for money?

Question

How can I make them pay for violating my right to be left alone? How can I stop bums from expecting me to give them money to waste simply because of my race? How can I keep from falling for insincere niceness when these lazy con artists come up to me? Is there any way to cause them lasting psychological harm? Is there any way for me to send out signals that people will know in advance I am not an enabler and won't finance their liquor, pot, drugs, etc? It is a hostile enough world without lazy bums accosting you and demanding money every day and expecting something for nothing.

I will never be able to save up for my reconstructive surgery without all these people trying to steal from me.

Answer 1

Hand them a card to a rehab clinic

tell them you have 5 kids to feed and house(even if you don't)

Then ASK "how can you expect me to take food out of my children's mouth for your "habits"
and then
Laugh and walk away "saying besides you probably make more money than me!!"

Or the short version...give em the finger

Truth is they won't and don't care...Don't feel guilty There are plenty of resources available "if" they want to get their **** together.

Answer 2

I realize that it's different with women, especially a woman alone, but, as a man I always stop and listen to stories I've heard many, many times, and I thank the "bum", the human being, for telling me and put usually a dollar bill in his (or her) hands. This "bum" is a person, a living, human creature, as am I, though, I am a male--albeit a male who is old and visibly disabled. The encounter consumes no more than a couple of minutes...surely two minutes spent with a homeless person does me no harm...those minutes would otherwise be spent doing what...scanning the morning headlines? My routine if you will has been the same ever since I was a boy in Georgia. I do not mean to sound self-righteous, and if I do I am not being true to what and who I am in this world. I am not religious; I am, in fact, atheist. But, gosh, this "bum" is one of us. Some people on the street could be categorized as bums, yes, but as many, and maybe more, are merely out-of-luck. Reasons for that vary of course, and whatever those reasons, the number of the homeless in rich America is a disgrace, a bitter shame which speaks of our greed and arrogance and emotional bankruptcy. As a white male in this society I have been fortunate. And my good fortune continues although I am, as I said, old (I'm 71). I remain in the warm embrace of my life's work. And I remain a man who travels across his short span on this little blue rock as a man indeed. Again, it would be a different matter for a woman alone. Be safe.

Answer 3

Just tell them you don't have any spare change. if you don't want to be bother just keep walking past them. i am sure they won't chase you down the street since YOU are not the only person around.

Oh and one other thing to try and remember. they are a Human Beings who are having a hard time. some may have been abused some may have lost their Jobs. some may just like being that way which I DO NOT think is the case. maybe they have kids to feed. think about that for a minute.

I used to think like this i am sorry to say. but i got the urge to help them so i started working at a homeless shelter. it is full with the most wonderful loving caring HUMANS i have ever met. they care about people they only want a job so they can get back into the human race. just try and think next time you see someone like that. think what would YOU do if that was YOU?

Answer 4

Actually, I almost want to tell them, i will give you money only if you listen to my schpill for 5 minutes. Then i will find out exactly why they think it is ok for able bodied people like them to beg me for money. Why can't they work and do they think begging for money is a job? It pisses me off. I hear all those sob stories and i almost want to ask, do you want to swap stories? I have lots of sob stories along with multiple credit card debts and sometimes an empty bank account.
And i still work my *** off

Other than that, i do not want to hurt their feelings or cause them any bodily harm. And i know that their begging me for money has nothing to do with my race than with the fact that i look like i just had a good lunch

Answer 5

OK.. 1 thing.. you're a member of society, part of a community -- so I'm not sure you have a RIGHT to be left alone...
If you don't want to be bothered by people...stay in a succluded place and out of public places.

People who want to be left completely alone are called 'hermits'

If you sometimes want to be left alone.. and other times do not, or only want to associate with certain people.. then understand that this is inconsistent.
Not everyone if going to know WHEN and with WHOM you want to associate with..so you're gonna have people who approach you sometimes who you don't want to associate with.
That is why it is not realistic to go around thinking you have a RIGHT to be left alone.

As for emotionally harming bums -- Spitting on them can be very emotionally tramatizing on top of physically revolting..

My wife suggested having your friend's stand around and laugh at the bum.

Answer 6

Just ignore them. If you are that paranoid that you think every bum on the street asking for money is a con artist, than you have every right to just walk right past them and ignore them. There's no reason why you should have to insult the 95% of them who are truly homeless and just want to be able to eat one meal every couple of days.

Answer 7

Wow, are you kidding? I hope so. If not, only one part of your ranting deserves an answer - how can you signal that you don't want to be asked for assistance; Don't make eye contact, walk in a determined way, at a quick pace. Other than that, I don't think you really have a question here at all.