Dealing with a stressful situation.?

Question

My husband is quite affected by the high dose chemo he just had and will need recovery time. Here's my dilemma. I started a job as a part time bank teller last summer to supplement our finances. The trouble is even part time I'm finding I'm stressed because of my husband's health. I am tempted to quit even though I've worked really hard learning the job - there's lots to it and the staff have been very nice. I think I need to be home for when my husband is home from the hospital maybe.

Answer 1

There is a law called the Family Medical Leave Act. It allows you to take time off when a family member is critically ill. Your work is suppose to allow you time off in situations such as this. I don't know if the parttime status affects it, but I'm probably sure that it doesn't. Check into it. Just type in Family Medical Leave Act in your browser and it will take you to the site.

Answer 2

We all got various problems in our life. And most people do not know what to do in stressful situation.
After reading your statement I am impressed that you wanted to be with your husband that is really a good thought of yours. But as a third person if I look at your situation I will say, what if you would be at home with husband will it change his condition? are you a doctor? how will you solve your financial problem? with other problems finance is also the main cause of various conflicts.
My advice is, do your part time job as you got nice people around you which is hard to find. OK think like this:
Your husband is sick, you wanted to help him, you work earn money and help him with his daily chores. Just think opposite, your husband is sick, you got no money then imagine what next?

Do not think of leaving nice job no matter part time, think how to adjust your husband's problem.Write down on a memo, think if you are not home who could help, how you can arrange some thing etc. Surely you will find an answer.
After job you can be with your husband.

In the beginning adjustment is difficult but as a human being gradually we learn. Give a try please.

I wish your husband get well soon.

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Answer 3

That is a stressful situation, alright. Sometimes work can be a place of escape where you can actually forget about your situation at home and allow yourself to recover mentally. My husband is disabled and some weeks I can't wait for Monday just so I can get my mind off of the problems at home (money, kids, etc.). Having a clear head to deal with stuff is really helpful, so maybe quitting your job would just contribute your stress because you wouldn't have any place to step away from your situation and give your brain a rest from it all. Either way, I wish you the best! Hope your husband comes through the chemo with flying colors and is well soon!

Answer 4

Everyone deals with stress differently and you do have a dilemma. Follow your heart. Do you really need the money to survive? If you do, then you could look into something that you can do from your home. You really like this job, and you love your husband. If your husband really needs you,or maybe a friend can help you. You should talk to your husband too. No one can really help you here, you do what you think is best for everyone.

Answer 5

I am so sorry to learn about your situation. I know it's very difficult to balance things properly in these odd times. Moreover money is a key factor and what you were into was absolutely justfied but at the same time your husband needs you all the time because he will feel very lonely and depressed when you are not there. Try to limit your work and be with your husband as much as possible. If it's possible request your parents to come and stay with you so that your husband will not feel lonely and you will have time to do your work and earn with supplement money.

Answer 6

If you feel your husband needs you and your job is getting in the way, and you can manage without it financially, then speak with your supervisor about taking a leave of absence, or only being called in if they are short handed. I'm not sure if part time positions are covered under FMLA guidelines, and I think you have the be there a year to qualify but it's worth checking into. An ill spouse certainly is a hardship.

Answer 7

This is a very stressful time for you, I agree. Sometimes we need to do something to distract us from our personal difficulties,your new part time job could be this. If your co-workers are aware of your present conditions with your husbands illness, and will understand that at times your work may play 2nd to his needs, then keep working. You are only working part time, so you can/will still be there for your husband too. You will do the right thing regardless.

Answer 8

Hi I understand your situation and the way i feel about it is like this when I was sick very sick and my husband took of work he got more stress out then I did and on top of that I didn't have any time for me and the cancer patient needs there own time alone so i was very happy to see him go back to work and let me have some time to my self and he felt better because he could talk to his Buddy's at work. You both need time way from each other no matter what the ilness is

Answer 9

My friend let me teach you one of everyones favorite ways of dealing with stress. Buy a fake guy thats soft yet durable. Print out a picture of everyone you hate and put it on the dummy. Find a good stick of buy a safety sword and let loose on the body. Bonus Tip's: If you are really angry make a game out of it. 5 points head 2 chest etc. This will indeed lighten your mood.

Answer 10

you could allways get another job, you cant get another family, my parents havce missed out on so much of my brothers lifes from working so much, so if your asking money or family, family is definatly more important, because you never know how much time you have with the ones you love