I just turned 19 years old. I got raped when I was 18 and became pregnant. I had planned on giving the baby up for adoption. But, once I had given birth to her, I couldn't imagine doing that. I loved her so much, and I knew I could provide a good life for her. So, instead of giving my precious daughter up for adoption, I kept her. Did I do the right thing?
2007-05-24 16:08:58 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Does it matter what we think?
I think you did an amazing thing! I am proud of you for doing that.
I think you did the right thing, however I dont believe in abortions.
CONGRATS to you. You deserve an award!
THANK YOU FOR MAKING MY DAY BETTER FOR YOU SHARING THIS!
Ash
2007-05-24 16:12:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Many years ago, I attended a Woman's Conference and heard a mother and daughter speaking team. The daughter was conceived in rape and the mother tried to abort her, but the abortion did not work. She gave birth to the daughter, planning to give her up for adoption, but she just couldn't do it either. They had a beautiful, moving, and inspirational story to share about their lives together, their ups and downs and the lessons they learned along the way. The man who raped the mom was finally arrested for raping another woman. It was amazing to hear this woman and her daughter talk about their feelings for this man and the mom spoke of her eventual meeting of this man in prison. She forgave him for his crime against her. She said it was a terrible, horrible act of one human against another, but her wonderful daughter resulted from this act and was proof that good can come from bad. Yes, I think you did the right thing. This is your flesh and blood who had no say in her conception. With help from family, friends, and God, you will be able to counter the bad memory of those few minutes of horror with numerous happy memories of you and your daughter. You are a hero to your daughter and the two of you will have a special bond.
2007-05-24 16:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did what was right for you and your family - how can that be wrong?
Neither you or your daughter asked for the circumstances that she came about - you should be commended for being able to have enough love and compassion to keep her (I don't think I could have).
Also by keeping her, you have prevented her from having to search for you later and learn of the reason that you gave her up. I am sure that would be tough for her to learn. and tough for you to share. Right now you have control over that knowledge - and she never has to know how she came about, just that she was your miracle.
What a wonderful way to turn something so ugly into something so beautiful. Good luck to you! Your a strong woman!
2007-05-24 16:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by Momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know how i would feel if this happened to me
but i know that the little girl is a part of u and if u look at her and u feel love for her in your heart u did the right thing
i would like to think i would have kept the baby too
i dunno u just havta think could u live with a part of u being out there and not knowing where or how she was doin if u answer that u couldnt liv without her then u did the right thing
hopefully u have ur family backing u up
best of luck to u
and congrats
2007-05-24 16:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by Tink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I want to say that you have been very brave and strong to go through the tragedy. For your question, I think you did the right thing for keep your baby because there's already love in your heart. And it's a person who you created, no matter for what reason.
So stay strong, and may God take you through all the hardship.
2007-05-24 16:32:09 · answer #5 · answered by Cocopuff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you made a great choice! You would have to be so strong in the heart for that! I say you made a really great choice. Love is what keeps people going. Congrats on the baby and I hope you two have a wonderful future!
2007-05-24 16:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can take proper care of her, provide for her needs, and give her lots of love, then you did the right thing by following your maternal instincts and keeping your baby. Just keep in mind that your little girl will eventually want to know who her daddy is and you'll have to be prepared to answer her questions.
2007-05-24 16:16:43 · answer #7 · answered by devoted2denny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, i have a friend who had the same thing happen to her, she was raped got preg. and had every intention of giving it up till her family found out and told her they would help her raise the baby. SHe kept it and now has a beautiful girl who is 17months.
I am so sorry this happened to you, but if you decide to keep the baby you might look into counceling just to help yourself understand what emotions you may feel.
Good luck toyou
2007-05-24 16:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by ilovemykids 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
only you know whats right for yourself and your child. i give you much respect for your decision...I'm glad we have decent people in this world like you who didn't automatically reduce themselves to get an abortion...Now you can enjoy the wonder of being a mother to a beautiful child. Good job.
2007-05-24 16:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by PrYncEsSa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can provide a good life for your baby I think it's the right choice. ^^
2007-05-24 16:19:08 · answer #10 · answered by Theresa Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋