My friend and I have a mutual friend who is pregnant, and in a bad relationship with the baby's father. He treats her like crap, and makes her feel bad about herself, yet she's moving in with him and wants to stay with him no matter what my friend and I say. We're all seniors and I know there are a million GOOD guys who would date her but she still wants to stay with this ******! What can we do??
2007-05-24 15:20:43 · 16 answers · asked by LuvUrGirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, I appreciate the answers, but we have talked to her, and she's even recognized his bad behavior but the next day she says "I don't think he wants me anymore he hasn't kissed me in three days bah blah blah" so once again we're there to be like "shh...it's okay, he loves you blah blah blah"
2007-05-24 15:27:23 · update #1
she knows it and she's miserable...this does NOT make sense. I would def. get out of a bad relationship! we're only in high school...it's not like it's that hard...just leave. this is SO frustrating but I am trying to be there for her
2007-05-24 15:30:01 · update #2
you could always stop talking her into going back to him and just let her know/believe that it's time to move on. remind her that any guy can be a father, but a real man and a good man to be a daddy.
2007-05-24 15:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by dragonknight120 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, not a darn thing. I think a lot of us are wrongly hopefully that we can change someone. She's just got to learn the hard way, I guess. I don't know if focusing on the life the baby will have under these circumstances would open her eyes. Make sure she finishes high school and see if she can take some courses at a community college where they have day care so she can get a skill so she will be able to get a job and be self-sufficient. It sounds like she's in the midst of throwing her life away. Try to keep her on focus about her future and how she and the baby are going to live.
2007-05-24 15:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is two narrow minded to see. The best thing that you could do for is, is just be there for her.
She will need your support.
No matter how many times that you tell her even if you are blue in the face, she will not listen.
Just be there when he brakes her heart.
I guess the only logical explanation that I could give you is that she is pregnant and is scared to be label as a single "MOM".
She thinks that she is doing the right thing of being with the baby's daddy. Honestly like you said its not healthy. You need to try and convince her about the safety of that baby. If he is that much of a ** hole. Tell her that when this baby is born it is a whole different world. It is better to be with your friends that will help, then with that guy that isn't going to be there for you,.
2007-05-24 15:24:42 · answer #3 · answered by LA LA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I try to stay as far out of my friends love life as possible. Unless he is beating her black & blue, she'll have to see for herself. Besides there's a baby in the situation now. You shouldn't try to seperate them but, encourage a new behavior for him. Also wait after the baby is born to make a move, because sometimes a birth with make men change.
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2016-10-06 00:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not much you can do if you've already tried convincing her and she hasn't responded. You can show her some online abuse support groups; there are TONS of websites that are about situations like the one that she is in. All I can say is that you're a great friend for trying to help her, and good luck!
2007-05-24 15:26:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad...She has to see the light. I think she is thinking about the baby, and feels she can't raise the child on her own. Try to convince her that a single parent get raise their child just as much as a married couple. Tell her that he don't want to be father and he feels trap, but make sure she get alimony from him. Don't let him off the hook!
God Bless
2007-05-24 15:27:57 · answer #7 · answered by tony 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's really nothing you can do in these situations. These people have to learn for themselves. They just think you don't understand and dismiss what you say.
Just be supportive of her in general and be there for her at crisis time. And make sure you let her know that you are there for her and will help her if she wants out.
2007-05-24 15:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont stop being her friend no matter how bad she pisses you off for not listening to you. but, all yall need to do is just stay out of it and she will live and learn.. you know she loves this guy, right... just be the shoulder she will need in the future without all the "i told you so's". she will realize there is a good guy out there, but not without hurting first! JW
2007-05-24 15:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
be her friend, support her, try and make her feel good about herself, and be there to catch her when he breaks her heart. Trying to force her to see something she doesn't want to see may make her turn away from you. Your best bet is just be with her, and wait. She will see him for what he is, when the time is right
2007-05-24 15:25:33 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ ♥ ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋