When I got home from work last night I got the shock of my life. When I walked into my bedroom I found my husband and his ex wife laying butt booty naked in our bed together. They were giving each other a massage with hot oil and had soft music playing. I was outraged at what I was seeing and demanded that they both get out of my house. They each looked at me like I was crazy.
They said that they do this all the time. My husband and his ex have a child together that lives with us. They said that by laying in the bed together, it helps calm their child down and helps her fall asleep. They both claim that nothing was happeneing and that they just give each other massages when they are both really stressed out. Is this right? Should my husband and his ex wife really be laying in my bed together? Help please!
2007-05-24 15:03:10 · 36 answers · asked by Flushing06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like they want to have their cake and eat it to. I'm guessing the only good thing about their marriage was the sex, so this way they get to enjoy each other without the committment. And their feeble excuses don't hold much water. Would your husband understand if you brought home some guy to give you a massage naked if you were stressed. Their past relationship does not make it okay to lie around naked, if anything it makes it worse. If it was a fully clothed shoulder rub, I might believe them, but naked and oiled is not a platonic massage.
2007-05-24 15:15:07 · answer #1 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!! I would have done a bit more than told them to get out. Not only is it YOUR house but the b**ch was in YOUR bed using YOUR massage oil on YOUR husband. He is not hers anymore and she has no right to him. I'm sure seeing her with him then you with him is very confusing to the daughter, not to mention will require lots of therapy later on if she's watching them naked rubbing each other. What is wrong with them? Are they friggin crazy? She should not be seeing her Daddy naked. That's just wrong. I would have knocked her on her butt as she walked out of the bedroom! I would make it very plain that the ex is NEVER allowed in your house while you aren't home. EVER!!
2007-05-25 06:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by steeler_chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would kick his butt to the curb. No child needs two naked people in the bed for a child to calm down. So do not let them feed you that baloney. and you don't have to be naked to get a massage unless you want a "special" massage. The only massages he should be getting is from you.
2007-05-24 15:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by birthdaymassacrerox 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No they should not..
If he's stressed you should be the one giving him a massage and vice versa..
This is just wrong on so many levels..I would think it would be more damaging to the child to see mommy and daddy laying in bed together..Very confusing for the child..
If I were you..he'd better be sending the ex down the road except for visitation days..or I'd be sending them all down the road..
2007-05-24 15:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by Havin' a good day.. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you believe that I have two hot planet to sell you! There is no way he should have brought his ex's into your home and lay butt nakie in bed together. He wouldn't like if he found you the same way with your ex's.
Seem they're still have feeling for each other, to lie in bed again? nah....let him know that is his first and last time he have his ex's up in your bedroom nakie in bed. If he want to go back to her...then let him go....
2007-05-24 15:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absloutley not! Are you kidding!! You need to leave him seriously that is not right at all. For the sake of their son? If that was true that's even wrong and disgusting they shouldn't be laying around naked together or bathen together infront of a two year old! Either make him stop or make him leave you don't deserve this from him, I don't think they would just be laying or bathen together hunnie and I know it hurts but you need to get to the bottom of this and do something about it asap! Good luck and you will find better!
2016-05-17 07:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If is making you feel bad in your marriage,it should be your husband doing the service on you,and she can be invited only to watch.Let see how she will take that.
She is taking too much advantage of an ex,maybe ex-sex.But now,he IS married to another woman and that belongs to you.And in no way is part of her "child support"?Tell her to beat it off your husband's butty.If he wants to stick by her,he may get a second ex.
2007-05-24 15:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by amleth 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Naked massages? Umm, that is very inappropriate. Why would they be naked to try and calm a kid down. Sounds like your man doesn't know what he wants. You deserve better. If you really love him, I'd suggest a counselor. Otherwise, be with someone who loves and appreciates you. ...And doens't come up with ridiculous excuses!
2007-05-24 15:28:01 · answer #8 · answered by mypitbullrocks 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ummm Noooo, omg that is just appalling..........So he is cheating on you with his x wife!
I'd kick him out of the house, child together or not, what a load of crap.
How disrespectful laying in your marital bed with her like that, I'd say he and his x have some unfinished business, and i'd be seeking a divorce if it was me, that is cheating and totally unacceptable.
I wish you luck.
2007-05-24 15:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by smileyone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO way. I would tell him that if he wants to lay naked in the bed with his ex, then maybe he needs to go back to his ex.
2007-05-24 15:08:24 · answer #10 · answered by confused angel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋