was it best to let them do all the talking. how did it turn out for you? my plan is to say nothing to my soon to be ex husband and just let my lawyer eat him alive, is that the smart way to approach it since he cheated and abandoned me and my 3 month old for a 17yr old girl in high school who he is still dating.
2007-05-24 13:12:27 · 10 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
also, it is not illegal to date a 17yr old in this state.
i am the one who filed for divorce and will be getting full custody of my daughter s well as child support.
2007-05-24 13:14:19 · update #1
if your husband cheated, and you have a lot of issues in the divorce matter, it's best to leave it up to an attorney to handle things.
you can talk with your attorney and ask him to request your hsuband pay your attorney fees, since HE cheated and caused this mess... it's an unexpected expense for you, and his fault... sometimes a judge will grant this request.
if you are questioned in court, or if the judge asks you questions, remain as calm as possible, act like a lady and try not to present yourself as viscious or angry. the judge respects those who act respectable.
one more thing -- when you refer to the child say OUR daughter NOT my daughter... sometimes judges listen to this sort of thing too.
i'm sure you will get what you want since he cheated. i'm glad you're taking care of yourself, and i hope things work out for you, hon. take good care.
2007-05-24 13:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you hire a lawyer for your divorce?
On my last divorce, No, we worked out the terms for the divorce between our self, signed the agreement and got the divorce quickly. We walked away with out lawyer fees.
At this point, you have a lawyer, let him handle it.
Beware some states may require mediation before the judge will hear the case. If this occurs, prepare yourself and learn some of the facts about mediation, can be accessed on-line.
No matter if you use a lawyer or not; the terms of the divorce, especially when children are concern requires some agreement in order for the divorce to occur quickly and without huge court and attorney fees.
I wish you and the child the best.
2007-05-24 20:24:49 · answer #2 · answered by oldcorps1947 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definetely hire a lawyer! I did thankfully! My husband cheated on me too. In some states it is a no-fault state so it doesn't really matter what they do. Hire a lawyer ASAP so he can't take all your money and you are stuck with nothing. As long as you are still married and have no legal seperation you can get screwed over easily! Do it ASAP! Just make sure that you don't completely trust your lawyer to do everything you want -- check up on EVERYTHING! My husband tried to pay me out of my house without refinancing it therefore leaving me on the mortgage payment after we divorced. My lawyer didn't even catch it! Genius!
2007-05-24 20:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I hired a lawyer and told him what I wanted. My lawyer made sure I got everything. The only thing I did not want was the ex's vehicle and his clothes. The ex got those and the bills.
2007-05-24 20:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I filed for my divorce as well, and yes we do share a child togeter. We have a lot in common from reading your past questions. My ex was cheating on me as well, but with an older man. Present day, time has healed a lot of wounds and I know we made the right choice. I deserved better, and so do you. Please let me knoe how it goes.
2007-05-25 09:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. November 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hired a lawyer, and to keep things civilized you need to let the lawyers do the talking. The lawyer needs to hear what you have to say, but they are getting paid to do the talking.
2007-05-24 20:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by Joe S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i myself did my own divorce, but there were no children or as setts, but when u have something to loose, always hire an attorney,the less u say to your ex the better off it is, as u can't turn back time or undo any of this, just focus on getting past this, and moving on with life.
2007-05-25 16:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let them say what they have to say..When its your turn you hit the moral issues as in cheating..In California you can go to jail for cheating on your wife or hubby, thats why alot of people get paid alot when they get a divorce because of affairs.
2007-05-25 10:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I did and just keep your mouth closed and let your lawyer do all the talking cause that is what you hired him for . good luck .
2007-05-24 20:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do it, make him pay. Be smart, not stupid.
2007-05-24 20:15:46 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋