Can I be traumatised by something from my childhood that I did entirely on my own initiative?

Question

As a child I did something sexual that I am not proud of. Even though I clearly remember and do not think I am traumatised by it, but I am not sure if it has some influence on my life. Can I be affected by it (could it be manifesting itself in some way) even though it was self-inflicted?

Answer 1

if I've learned any thing it is that every one of us has insulted or embarrassed or wounded our selves in one way or another..ALL of us have done that... at one time or another...it's just not something most folks own.

Chalk it off to a lesson in humility..and the next time you meet a timid element in another person and don't understand what causes them to be so pensive...remember 'who' you are..under neath all your own masks.

Nobility and compassion are our higher characteristics...and we learn those lessons from those very truths of our own lives.
Count your blessings...you are astute and honest enough to seek wisdom beyond your own excuses.

i admire that.

Answer 2

It seems to me that the only way it is really affecting you is that you're STILL thinking about it, waiting for it to have some negative impact. If you lead a normal healthy life and you yourself are saying that it hasn't really "traumatized" you, then why are you waiting for it to?
It's not just children that do things they regret later, or come to find out they made horrible choices, adults do to. Just because something happened (self induced or not) doesn't mean that you're automatically going to have problems.

Simply put, calm down. Not everything is a ticking time bomb. If you're not sure it has influenced your life, it probably hasn't.

Answer 3

Psychologists are going to love to answer this one.

Ask yourself:
1) How do I feel about what happened?
2) Do I regret it?
3) Am I disgusted by it?
4) Is it something horrible that if anyone found out they would think you a pycho or freak?
a) do you care?
b) If so...why?
c) Based on the why...why?
d) Based on the why...why?
e) Based on the why...why?
5) or is it something others do or have done that in the big picture isn't as big a deal as you might think?
6) Manifesting??? Do you think it is?
7) How so?

Now you have your answer and no one had to give it to you. If you feel terrible about it...face it and move on. If you can't move on ask yourself WHY five times...there is the answer.

Answer 4

Oddly enough yes many self-inflicted child hood decisions can and do affect future judgment. We have all been their and learning to except what we have done is the best start to the a great change. good luck

Answer 5

I guess it could especially if you dwell on it long enough. Forgive yourself for your past and let those things go. Live for today and don't over analyze your childhood. We all did things we're not proud of when we were growing up, but it doesn't have to impact your life now unless you let it. If it really does bother you, seek counseling and talk it out.

Answer 6

yes you can by not dealing with it and still knowing about it in a negative way you can be doing more damage to your self then you realize by suppressing this experience your not allowing your self to deal with it. and this would be affecting you life in other ways that you may not even be aware of. find a person you can trust and talk to be it a friend or a DR.

Answer 7

We would have to know the details of the experience and also we would have to personaly know you to be able to tell how it has effected you. Best advice is this: if you think it is a problem, it is. Talk to a therapist about it.

Answer 8

yes. a child doesn't always know the out come or consequences of their actions. i would seek the help of a professional.

Answer 9

It's more likely that whatever part of your personality made you want it in the first place is probably still with you.

Answer 10

yes