Are wedding vows a joke?

Question

why do people get married if they don't honor the wedding vows? maybe we should change them to more realistic ones like:

if you gain weight (over 10 pounds, I'm out)
If you stop giving me sex ...I"m out
If you stop taking care of me..I'm out
If you stop cleaning, cooking etc...I'm out
If stop looking attractive..i'm out
etc...what others realistic vows should we use?

Answer 1

if you're hot,...I'm in
if you're sexy...I'm in
if you're happy with me...I'm in
if you really welcome me...I'm in
if you're open with me...I'm in
if you cheat me...I'm out
if you ever get pregnant...definitely..I'm out
if my mother-in-law's so annoying...I'm out
if you don't have any more money...l'm out
if you prefer uncircumcised...sorry I'm out
if you don't give me much pleasure...I'm out
if you get wrinkles...I'm out
if you're so demanding...I'm out
if you need money...I'm out
if you smoke...I'm out
if you're insane...I'm out
if you can't sustain more than five rounds...I'm out
if you're not virgin...I'm out
if you're lesbian...I'm out

Answer 2

I take my wedding vows seriously and honor them but obviously with a 50% divorce rate, not many people do. Yours sound more like the way some people treat marriage these days. Here's a couple more...
If you stop making enough money....I'm out
If I can't go out to bars with the guys and act single...I'm out
If you start to look old...I'm out
When the tough times come...I'm out
If I find someone more attractive than you...I;m out
Sad but true!

Answer 3

Wedding vows are supposed to be taken serious-
ly. The problem is too many people can't hold onto
the committment that comes with the vows. Act-
ually classes before marriage would be a good
idea, because the majority of people now-a-days
really do not know what they are getting them-
selves into when getting married. Marriage is a
responsibility of being committed to one another
for the rest of their life, which includes several
responsibilities towards each other and towards
the children , if that's the case. Too many people
don't realize it's not an easy road and marry for
the wrong reasons, such as , my friend did it so
I am going to try it, or I thought it would work, or
I just knew he loved me, and the problem is only
one party is really committed, and that right there
destroys the marriage because if two people do
not have the same love for each other and are
responsibility committed towards each other then
marriage will never work for them. Too many
are just not ready for that and they find that out
after they get married, then it's too late.

Answer 4

A honorable person takes all vows serious.

Sounds like you are not ready for marriage.
Divorce occurs for numerous reasons and few relate to any on your list. The number one reason for divorce is heavy debt.

Consider the following.
Years of research by psychologist have shown that most long-term marriages have some very common factors. Lack of any two or more of these factors indicates there is high probability the marriage will not last. (Long term –is defined as a marriage of more than 20 years)

1.Both parties married at age 25 or older.
2.Religious compatible (example: Jews + Hindu just do not work)
3.Common goals (someone likes a simple life, not chasing material wealth or career and some that is very goal minded for gaining as much material wealth as possible, together they do not make a lasting marriage. Another example, a conflict over having children).
4.Social economical compatible (poor + rich only works in the movies)
5.Financial responsible (debt is the number one cause of divorce)
6.Open Communications (agree that it is ok not to agree, tell each other your most hidden secrets, keeping the secrets from everyone, no name calling, and etc)
7.Both parties are very much alike (opposite may attract, but they do not make for a lasting marriage)
8.Sexual compatible (variety in sexual act + partner that finds some acts repulsive, does not make a lasting marriage.
9.Both individuals are not egoist. (a egoist believes that everyone would be happy by making them happy)

Answer 5

Now your vows sound a little one sided LOL ...
Most people do honor their vows, there is a point tho when some have to decide if either the abuse they are taking, if one partner is cheating or whatever they feel their limits are, that have been crossed...If they cant live in chaos, hurt and betrayal they need to get out...An unhappy marriage makes an unhealthy family, its better to separate....

Answer 6

ohhhh i got a few
if you cant get it up i am out
if you got bald i am out
if you get jealous i am out
if you don't mow the lawn i am out
if you don't take out the trash i am out
for men you are not cut down below= if you don't take a bath each night i am out
if you don't shave your back i am out
if you don't give me some space i am out
if you criticize my clothes i am out
if you follow me around and spy on me i am out
if you tell me what to wear i am out
i could go on and on.. dam did we have the same type of last relationship with out ex's

Answer 7

Thank you for these great examples of conditional love. Honoring the wedding vows takes two people who are committed to loving each other UNconditionally for a lifetime.
Way too many times, vows are spoken by selfish, immature people who are too ready to bolt when they are not getting what they want.
This is sort of like dumbing down the curriculum in schools. Is it all about making life "easy" or is it about holding to high standards and being quality people?

Answer 8

Wedding vows are NOT a joke.
People who do not take them seriously are the ones who make marriage look like a bad thing.

Many people marry too young and / or for the wrong reasons.

Answer 9

The vows were not a joke to my wife and I. For many, the vows are a conditional agreement, but then again too many things in society are that way.

Answer 10

Wedding vows is not a joke!!!
We get married because we are inlove and we want to have a fruits (kids) of our love...
Being married has a lot of consequenses but in return is true happiness...
Just keep your wedding vows because that is a promise LOVE!!!

Answer 11

Well, I'm not sure about your examples for vows, but my husband and I did write our own vows for our wedding. I think that making things more personalized gave our wedding a little bit more intimacy. We enjoyed writing them and it showed us what we value in each other.
Again, I'm not sure that yours are that great of an idea.....