How come a man tells you they want to marry you than they take it back? What kind of man is that of does that to someone they say they love?
2007-05-24 11:54:17 · 12 answers · asked by All about me and you 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A very immature man. A selfish man. A man who thought he had something to gain by issuing a decree of marriage. The guy probably didn' t think it through until he found himself in the situation and then he panicked.
2007-05-24 12:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by mzadamz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he looked at himself and discovered that marriage comes with a lot responsiblity he does not want at this time.
You may find these facts of some value:
Years of research by psychologist have shown that most long-term marriages have some very common factors. Lack of any two or more of these factors indicates there is high probability the marriage will not last. (Long term –is defined as a marriage of more than 20 years)
1. Both parties married at age 25 or older.
2. Religious compatible (example: Jews + Hindu just do not work)
3. Common goals (someone likes a simple life, not chasing material wealth or career and some that is very goal minded for gaining as much material wealth as possible, together they do not make a lasting marriage. Another example, a conflict over having children).
4. Social economical compatible (poor + rich only works in the movies)
5. Financial responsible (debt is the number one cause of divorce)
6. Open Communications (agree that it is ok not to agree, tell each other your most hidden secrets, keeping the secrets from everyone, no name calling, and etc)
7. Both parties are very much alike (opposite may attract, but they do not make for a lasting marriage)
8. Sexual compatible (variety in sexual act + partner that finds some acts repulsive, does not make a lasting marriage.
9. Both individuals are not egoist. (a egoist believes that everyone would be happy by making them happy)
2007-05-24 19:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by oldcorps1947 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is crummy that you were treated that way, but take the second offer not to marry and run. You learned a lot about this guy when he said that.
To answer the second question, a selfish, uncertain, unstable man. Sound like marriage material to you?
2007-05-24 18:59:59 · answer #3 · answered by Bob T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he's probably just telling you what you want to hear when he thinks you're "giving up " on him because you DO want marriage, then when he feels comfortable again, he tells the truth. Better pay attention to the big red flag waving, Girl.
Or you're gonna be upset when he DOES marry you, then tells you right to your face he never wanted to. HERE'S YOUR SIGN!
2007-05-24 19:35:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least he didn't take it back after you said I do. That doesn't make it any better but you have to look on the bright side of things or you'll go crazy trying to figure out why.
2007-05-24 19:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by #1 Lucy Fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he probably decided he doesnt want to get married after all...women do it too, better to back out before the marriage then during...trust me. be thankful he is being honest with you and move on.
2007-05-24 18:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by chantel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's just not sure what he wants yet or if he's ready for marriage. Be glad he told you now and not the day of your wedding! Just because he's not ready now, doesn't mean it won't happen in the future.
2007-05-24 19:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It says he NEVER takes love and marriage seriously. And it says something about your choice of men.
2007-05-24 19:07:57 · answer #8 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a man for you!!!
2007-05-24 19:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by whocarez 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im a guy i should know it iz only because they dont just want one girl for there whole life they want more realations with other girls
2007-05-24 19:02:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋