I lost my best friend six months ago. ( I was robbed at gunpoint a week prior) and I left his house abruptly without much of an explanation. ( I was definitely going through alot). He ended the friendship immediately. Then I lost my loving relationship with my daughter. I have failed with bonding with her since my release from prison 5 years ago and now she can't stand me. My son's grandparent claim me as moody and inconsiderate to their feeling though they are complete assholes and never liked me from day one. My mom and sister feed me with a long handled spoon. I was a trip before I matured and got my head on straight. It seems now no one wants to deal with me and they hate my guts. I tend to be a bit moody but not out of control. Basically I am saying that everyone in my life has turn against me and I am alone and I can't deal with it. Am I really a bad person or do people hate when you set boundaries and not allow them to take advantage of you.
2007-05-24 10:37:35 · 8 answers · asked by J.T.B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well I tend to get mouthy and have mood swings sometimes. I may have said a few nasty things but nothing heavy. As a whole I am a good, generous loving person. Whenever I slip up people just tend to say the hell with me. And the simply drop me like I never was of importance.
2007-05-24 10:56:09 · update #1
Most people do hate it when you set boundaries,some because they want to take advantage of you and you stop them,some because they're just nosey and love having a say in your life.
Not all people though.
In my opinion it's perfectly healthy to set boundaries.
But is this really the problem?
I mean...can't it be something you're doing wrong in the way you're trying to approach them?
You should think about it and find where you may be wrong.
I don't say that for sure it's your fault....I'm just saying that it's a possibility and you should search inside you to find the answer.
If not,then you just have to talk to every single one of them calmly and sincerely,find out what's bothering them.
And don't forget that the bravest thing you can do (if you've done something wrong) is to say you're sorry.
I wish you luck and I hope you'll find the answers you need from your friends and family!
2007-05-24 10:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by Jen C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like in the past you've made some decisions that did not benefit you or those around you. You cannot sweep these under the carpet and expect everyone to greet you with open arms. However, you don't need to live a life of regret and self recrimination either.
Time to start looking forward and moving forward.and it sounds like you've started this process and are already making changes. Congratulations. However, changes in your relationships with others will naturally follow. Some will like and support the changes and some will not. Look into a 12 step program like AA. Because in addition to learning how to live your clean and sober, `12 step programs than can help you reintegrate yourself back into the society of family and friends and navigate the obstacles and changes you will be faced with.
I think your next journey in life will be to learn to forgive yourself, forgive those around you, and find a way of being in the world that honours and respects who you are as you develop the strength and tools to live joyfully while always being accountable. Check out The Four Agreements. I recommend this book at least once a week to friends and family.
Good luck.
2007-05-24 11:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me it seems like because of your moody behavior and your past and stuff your pushing people away... when you are un aware of the fact.. You have to remember that in this life you will have ups and downs and not everyone is perfect... people have there own troubled life and problems to worry with as it is and you being moody and grumpy isnt a good adition to it... if anything there eliminating at least some of the problems (not that your a problem but you seem needy and for some that may be an issue) Needy in the sense that you crave for the affection of people to determine your self worth, and that is not how it should be. Your self worth should be determined by your accomplishments and goals.. NOt people. Be your own person and dont let anyone decide who you should be.
2007-05-24 11:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's always easy to blame everyone for why you are cut off! Take a look at yourself! Do you have qualities that would make people want to be around you? If you have messed up with your family that normal,but try and rebuild each relationship day by day! One relationship at a time! Don't be upset if you don't get results immediately some wounds take longer to heal than others! But this time cut from your loved ones may do you some good ! Look at it as time to better yourself and grow as a person! GOOD LUCK
2007-05-24 10:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by erica k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't hurt to apologize for the things you;ve done or said in the past that may have been hurtful to them. "I'm sorry" can have very healing affects. It sounds like they may still have trust issues with you from before when you were going through your wild time. You should really try to talk to your daughter and get that relationship healed, no matter what it takes. You may need to ask her forgiveness or just listen to how she feels about things without getting angry or upset. You said you can be moody so work on that and admit that to your loved ones and ask them to work with you as you try to work on yourself. Don't give up on your family. Do what it takes to work through this. You will be much happier and more peaceful.
2007-05-24 11:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what did u do to make them cut you out there life it has to be something for this to happen
2007-05-24 10:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't see any reason why people would act that way you seem nice to me.
2007-05-24 14:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by james_stailey@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
aw ill be your friend and not cut you out if you whont me tonythrtiger8000@yahoo
2007-05-24 10:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by clifford d 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋