i'm the only child and i feel pressured of geting married and having kids...i dont want either of them but when my mom sees a newly married couple she almost cires!! but when she sees a newborn baby she actually cries cause she knows i'm not going to give her any! thus me feeling pressure, i dont want them but i feel that as an only child i should so she can just give me a danm break!!!
2007-05-24 09:46:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Heed this warning!!!!!You should be seeing red flags all over
this guilt tripping parent. She's not even thinking of you, just
herself. Are you too young to move away until you're too
old to have kids? If she wants to feel pressure because of
her inability to accept your wishes, let her have all the
priviledges. You do not owe your mother a child, but she
owes you the respect of your wishes. Can you imagine
what kind of mother you'de be, if you had a child for your
mother and not yourself? It's insane. I think you need to
put some distance between you and your mom for a
while till this "baby" hysteria settles down. So irritating.
How old is she? If she wants a baby so badly, why doesn't
she adopt one? A lot of kids need homes.
2007-05-24 09:57:16 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shlane you are an adult, don't let her get to you. I know that is tough. I felt the guilt trips too.
I waited until I was good and ready to do what I wanted to do, not what my parents wanted. Heck I even warned them I might do things in reverse, have my child, then get hitched. If your mother loves you, she better deal with it.
My other half went through something like that too, because even though he has a brother, they are so far apart in age and his brother is gay, he was pressured about grand kids. He did not let it get to him either. He told them back off or lose him. They backed off.
So sing that mantra, every time she pulls her stunt.
If she does it after you tell her to back off, don't talk to her or see her for a week. Then speak to her again. If she does it again, which she invariably will, cut her off again but for 2 weeks. If you make it to a month, she will realize just how serious you are about the annoying pushing about marriage and kids
2007-05-24 20:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by thequeenreigns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an only child, my husband is an only child and I have one daughter because that is what life gave me. My husband is my second husband and not the father of my daughter. His family took it hard that he married me and I was infertile by the time we married. People will just have to deal with our decisions. NEVER have a baby, which is another human being, unless it is YOU who want it. Tell your Mom a 60 year old woman just had twins, why doesn't she look into that.
2007-05-24 16:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you sweetie, I am the mother of an only child and her choices are her own
2007-05-24 21:10:55 · answer #4 · answered by beachy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what i did, disown your family as soon as you can and live you life the way you want to. when i turned 18 i was off to basic training for the army i didn't care that there was a war i just wanted to get the hell out of there
2007-05-24 16:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by hydes420 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋