24..is it right to be pregnant..too early...?

Question

I'm married, its alomost 2 yrs since then. I was not trying but thought if it happens then it will be for good cuz my husband was eager have one. Now i am pregnant...but i still feel i am too young..i am happy to conceive...but just sometimes tend to think and ask myself.."is this right", "is it too early" or maybe God given..im not sure..deep inside i know this ans it bothers me sometimes..i do not want to miss out on all the fun stuff..like taking vacations every time...like going anywhere without any concern...being free of everything..will all these just stagnate after i have a child..?
Opinions?

Answer 1

I'm 25, I've been married for almost a year, and am 20 weeks pregnant with my first child. We tried for 8 months to conceive this little boy, so I'm ecstatic about the pregnancy, though I do wonder how my life will change. I have made the decision though that my husband and I will continue to have a fun life for ourselves and our son after he arrives. I think just because you have a child doesn't mean you have to sit around on your couch all the time watching cartoons. Your life will be what you make of it. Sure, getting out of the house will take a little more time, and outings will be a little more of a challenge than they are now, but I look at my life as wonderful, and know that it will be even more so after my son is born. I'm not going to allow being a mother to turn me into a boring, sedentary person!

Answer 2

I think that having kids at any age can be difficult for some people, regardless of their age. There are some sacrifices that have to be made, but for the most part, you just add one more person to your plans.
I would have to admit that my husband and I had children young, and two of them very close together, and it has put a stop to certain things, or has made them much more difficult. But I would rather have my children than the things I'm missing out on.
It can be a hard adjustment, but it can be done. It just takes a little more planning etc.
If you have a supportive family, with moms, aunts, dads etc. who will be able to watch your baby/child once in a while so that you can have some private time with your husband, that will be a blessing for you!
Talk to your husband about your fears. Talk about some of the more specific things that you're worried about, vacations, going out, etc. Maybe you guys can already put into action some private down time and continue as best as possible after the baby is born. Start working out things now, so you don't feel overwhelmed and "stuck" at home all the time after the baby is born.
Congrats and best wishes for a happy healthy pregnancy and a lifetime of fun and love with your family.

Answer 3

I am 24, though will be 25 next month and am pregnant with my first. I was married for 1 1/2 years before getting pregnant. I also thought the same things at first, because I had really wanted to go sky diving and get SCUBA certified. However, those feelings quickly subsided as I know I can still do all the things I wanted to do pre pregnancy, post pregnancy. Also, you'll have a child to share in those memories. Did you talk to your husband before about these feelings? Obviously the options are abortion and adoption but I feel that neither of these are "real" options in your case because your husband wants a child. Hopefully these feeling will subside. Just think about the positives about having a baby and the miracle that you and your husband made. GL!

Answer 4

It can be a shock at first. Especially if you werent trying. Life is a gift from God, whether people see it that way or not.

There is a purpose to you being pregnant.

Give your mind and body time to retain and process everything. Get as much knowledge about pregnancy as possible.

When you hear the heartbeat, see them on the scan, feel them move you will really connect with your baby and you will be surprised you ever doubted yourself.
You will still be able to do things you want, vacation, party, and so on.
Maybe not right away but you will be back to normal eventually, AND you'll have a child, so it will be doubly satisfying.
Be confident that you will be a great mommy and just live each day knowing you have a wonderful blessing.

Congrats!

Answer 5

I am 23 and having a baby in like 2 weeks. My husband and I were married a little over a year when we found out and we were for sure not trying. I was so scared I wouldn't get to live like a normal 23 year old and have fun and stuff. I felt so selfish. I am so excited now though. I have never been happier about anything in my life. The excitement will come I promise!!! I mean when can you ever be ready for a child? I still feel scared, so it's normal. Good Luck

Answer 6

Hi, I am 25 years old and I have 3 children. I was afraid of the same things you were.... loss of fun, free-time, kid free vacations, etc. At first, it was indeed a tough pill to swallow. Then many things have come to light since. I have lots of energy to be with my children, and am able to be fit and active with them. My husband and I still take a vacation (by ourselves) once a year, courtesy of Grandma and Grandpa. Yes, I cannot just run to the store for something without buckling up kids and packing them to the car, but I do have pictures on my fridge, kisses and hugs at bedtime, and 3 little people who depend on me to keep them safe, happy and loved. My husband and I sometimes look at the other people in our age groups, partying at the bar, working hard in their career etc. and wonder if we are missing out. We realize though, that there are many benefits to starting a young family.

We will be in our early 40's when the kids graduate. We won't be too old and tired to enjoy our life. In fact, we will most likely have more money, experience, and marital foundation to do those things we enjoy the most. We will also be able to be there for our grandkids and be able to have fun watching our children become parents.
Even though it is hard sometimes to be a young parent, the fun doesn't stop, it just changes.
I guess in the end, for me, it boils down to the fact that life is too short to wait for those things you want but aren't necessarily ready for.

I hope that this makes you feel a little better and I wish you the best of luck...

Answer 7

well i found out at 17 i was pregnant for the first time and everything has worked out i am now married and we have a second son together and expecting another in january his parents watch the boys sometimes and take the older one camping on weekends so we get alone time and even get to go hang at clubs with friends if we feel like it but for the most part we love spending family time together and that other stuff seems less important i think things will be different when you see the baby in your first ultrasound and when you feel the baby kick for the first time and when you start buying things and finally when you get to hold and see that beautiful little blessing that is a living expression of you and your husbands love for each other you will feel different i hope this helps

Answer 8

Well to be honest if you listen to your reasons it sounds as if your reasons are self centered reasons. You are a married woman. Your husband wants one, and you said if it happens it happens. Well sounds to me like it happened. Now it's time to be a woman and start thinking about how you can raise your child unto the Lord. I hope that you are seeking God in finding out how you should be raising his Child. Dont worry after your child is born you will never say you are too young...Look at all the under age kids who have no husband. Your over 18 and you have a husband...now do Gods will... I trust you know what that is...right?

Answer 9

Ooooh, sweetheart. You are NOT too young!!! I promise. I am twenty nine. I had my daughter almost 5 years ago. I also have a 15.5 month old son. My mom? Had me when she was your age too! You will be fine. I promise. You do have to take into consideration packing extra stuff for the baby and making frequent feeding and diaper stops...But you can still take vacations. Maybe not spur of the moment, but you don't have to give up on fun stuff...And though challenging, being a mommy in and of itself IS fun. All the best to you. A bit of trepidation is totally normal.
Love and hugs.

Answer 10

I was 21 when I had my first,and life has been good ever since!Having a child in your 20's doesn't mean the fun is over,it just means the fun will have to be had at appropriate times,in appropriate places,and with a new family member in tow.Don't worry too much,first pregnancies come with alot of questions and are scary at any age.You'll all be fine and when you see your babies little hand wrap around just your finger,you'll know it's all worth it.Congratulations and God bless.