i know you always feel for a loved one but i mean to the point you can never see yourself in another relationship.
i lost my girlfriend in 2004 and i still cant see myself ever being with anyone else
2007-05-24 06:57:48 · 9 answers · asked by steelwarrior 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Time will reveal what else is in store for you. Grieve as long as you need. The older you get, the more you have to deal with losses through death. It's nothing to be afraid of, because death is part of life... and what you survive makes you stronger and wiser as a person. I hope when somebody else enters your life one day, she will benefit from that... remember- you, too deserve to be loved wholly and unconditionally while you walk on this earth. Your girlfriend had the privilege to be loved by you.
2007-05-24 07:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi I dont know, I have only ever lost my mum, which doesnt mean I cant move on like that.
For years though I was jealous of my mates out with mums etc. ( my mum was young). I got kind of adopted by some mums which was nice.
My dad married again eventually though, so there is hope for you. I know that sounds really lame sorry. I suppose you have heard it all before.
I do think you can meet someone who will allow you to still have photos of her, and visit her grave and admit you love her. Thats the main thing the understanding that goes with it.
Because you would still be together, and you cant deny only death took her.
Further than that I cannot help only to say that it happens when you are least looking for it. xx
2007-05-24 08:39:43 · answer #2 · answered by babyshambles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my boyfriend for 5yrs now and Im only 20! so he is a big part of my life and I love him with all my heart. If He died I would not bewith someone else or i would never get over his death. Not because it would be impossible but because i love him so much, he is the only one i could truly give my 100% and that would not be fair to the new person. He would always be present in my mind even if Im with someone else and Im "happy" and I dont think that a good relationship will work out like that. I am sorry to hear that you lost your girlfriend I must be awful and terrible...I cant imagine your pain. Do what your heart tells you! and you dont have to get over their death...you loved them! of course you have to think about them...always! but that doesnt mean to be sad and depressed forever... you can always think about them and yes you can still be in love with someone who died... true love never ends.
2007-05-24 07:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by Vegetarian Princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think like someone else up there, it takes time (UGGGHHH--- who DOESN'T hate to hear that!?)- I mean, it sucks to hear, b/c you don't want to just sit around and sit around and sit around waiting for that time when you will be "okay with it." But think more about that phrase "It takes time." You kind of think when you hear that "Okay, so maybe a year-or two." Maybe for you, it'll be 5 years, 6 years, 7 years (cuz it's already been 3 years and you're still hurtin).
Just remember- you don't have to "get over it." You will never "get over it-" She'll always be a part of you, a very significant PART of you. You never have to let her go- so don't worry about forgetting her or losing her in some way.
A death of someone you love is literally THE worst thing that can happen to a person, but it's okay to let someone else in-someone else who will love you as much as she did. And that someone wont' just be "someone." That someone will have a name-that someone will be your love. Allow love in.
My condolances.
2007-05-24 07:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry to hear about your loss, really I am. Things like this take time. And its different for everyone...so its ok if you have not gotten over it yet....that will eventually be easier to deal with.
There are things that you can do tho to make it easier. You can stay busy doing things you like, finding new placesto go and people to meet. You cant always dwell on whats happened....thats not healthy, even tho it will always be on your mind you can still try and live life to the fullest. Once your heart heals it will let you find love again...it takes time, you will be ok...you have friends and family that love and care about you...:)
2007-05-24 07:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by leave me alone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends from person to person. Some never enter in another relationship after the loss of their true love and some get over it in due course. But it is true that the death of your loved one takes away a part of you permanently......
2007-05-24 07:04:56 · answer #6 · answered by P'quaint! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well its hard but after a bit you have to love someone else
and if she dided love you but you loved her it wasn't so post to be so just move on I've never had a girl Friend but i love someone but will probably never be together so your not the only one plus there the right person out there somewhere
2007-05-24 07:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
anything is possible.. but the odds are in your favor.. some things just take more time.. it literally took me a decade to get over my brothers death.
give it time (I know that sucks but it's true) and if you just can't see yourself moving on on this issue alone.. try to talk to a councilor.
2007-05-24 07:03:00 · answer #8 · answered by pip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
anything is possible...with time....
2007-05-24 07:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by A.C. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋