Besides asking what is another way to find out if your husband is cheating?

Question

He actually rides to work w/ a female co-worker. As far as I know he has never cheated on me, but I'm just getting a little worried. We only live a street aw ay from each other and she came over one night and he ended up taking her home cause it was late and it took him almost 20 min. when it shoudl have been 2 min. Am I just worrying for nothing. I have asked in a round about way but he seems to get so mad and thinks I'm crazy for thinking something like that.

Answer 1

I would put a end to this right now! You are right for being worried, then again this whole thing could be innocent, no since in just waiting around and finding out later that there is more to it then he's letting on... Next time he has to drive her home follow them. Spy, and in the mean time tell this woman that things between your husband and her doesn't look good and your watching her in a round about way. Ask your husband how he would feel if the shoe was on the other foot! And let him know that if he's up to no good you will make his and her life hell.

Answer 2

Girl all you have to do is keep your two eyes wide open just in case.
Next what you should do if you are suspecting that he is cheating on you you should smell his closing I know that sounds sick but do it. Sometimes when men are having a affair they come home with a scent of women perfume or they even could have their breath kicking probably like puss*.
Or check his wallet for any numbers or his phone or email etc.
Or just do what an investigator would do follow them hide behind a bush and see what is really going on.
But you must always be prepared for the worst.
I am hoping to God that nothing is going no with your husband maybe you are jumping way out of extreme but don't let your guards down at any time.
Not to scare you off but if the lady lives 2 minutes a way your husband shouldn't take 20 minutes unless they were talking about there work in which I hope they was.
Don't worry I know that your mind is raising just relax a quite bit. I say that when people do wrong things in life things will get out in the open eventually and they will pay. So for now set back and open your eyes.
I say that really maybe nothing is happening but if your husband keeps coming home late and acting weird then I say you should start getting an investigator.

Answer 3

If they work together and they are only 1 street apart, then it makes sense for them to carpool. Honestly, 20 minutes when it should only have taken 2 minutes is nothing to be worried about either. If it was 2 hours, THEN I'd be worried. Why not suggest to your husband to invite her over for supper? You'll know by his response - if he's nonchalant and doesn't really want to spend the time with her, you're good. If he's nervous and doesn't want her to come but doesn't say why, more investigation is warranted. If he readily agrees, you have nothing to worry about because there is obviously no tension between them at all.

Try not to let your imagination run away with you. Take care and good luck!

Answer 4

Most women and men can't be friends unless they are gay. They usually end of developing feelings for each other. I'd watch him, discourage that riding together too. Watch showering patterns, disappearing longer than normal, anything out of the ordinary. With the divorce rate at over 50%, you are never wrong for being a bit concerned, just don't let in consume you.

Answer 5

That he gets mad at your questions is not good. He may not be doing anything wrong, but by spending so much time with her he is not respecting your feelings. He surely knows this, but is choosing to spend time with her even when it upsets you. Thats not ok. Even if he isnt doing anything. Some guys spend time with women they arent having affairs with simply for the outside attention. Problem is, it could turn bad and he is putting his need for attentin first. Practical ways to catch him are to hide and watch them together if you can, make him think you are gone when you are really home ( and watching), maybe put a listening device in his car, etc.

Answer 6

I used to do all kinds of crazy stuff. I would follow my husband. I would sit out side of places he was. I'd check the messages on his phone and I'd check out every number on our cell phone bill. It made me insane!
I am older and wiser now. If something doesn't sound right or seems weird, I ask. If I don't believe him or it still doesn't make sense, I tell him so.
Eventually, if he is doing something wrong, you will find out. Secrets never stay secrets long.
By the way he was having an affair and we're divorced now. Trust your gut. I was right.

Answer 7

Without knowing the entire situation, anything is possible. A work relationship is the most common place for a fling to happen. When people are together for lengthy periods of time, without the trivial day-to-day "relationship" problems, with common interests (usually work stuff); it is easy for feelings to grow even in the most committed of men.

In my opinion, we men are always hungry. We must continue to remind ourselves that dinner is best served at home, even though the little snack in front of me looks delicious!

Good luck.

Answer 8

Explain to him that this is making you uncomfortable. Let him know that you would rather he find a way around this situation. It may be in your interest to as well make a list of ways he can make you more comfortable as to defuse the argument before it starts. It is important that you BOTH are comfortable. If he is unwilling to compromise I sure hope you have thought of what YOU want to do next.

Best of everything to you and yours!

Answer 9

You know your husband...is 20 minutes enough time to do any deeds? And why didn't the coworker walk home if you're only a street away? I do agree with you it's a little strange...

Answer 10

What a bastard! How dare he get mad with you - you love him and obviously care. She must be a nasty piece of work, coming over to your house being all 'nice' but having a hidden agenda. You need to get proof somehow. Can you order a listening device over the internet and plant it in the car, so as you can listen to their conversations when they travel to work? That might give you an insight into how close they are?