My ex that I dated for four years called me last night and said she had some catching up to do which is strange, because she changed her number solely because she didn't want me to contact her on account of her new man's orders.
First of all, I wasn't the crazy ex. I only called her ever so often to say hi like a friend would. Second of all, she had not contacted me at all 5 months prior to this random call. Third of all, she told me that she couldn't be my friend at all around the same time because of her new boy friend. He's very insecure and hates my guts...which is strange seeing how she left me for him. I was doing fine not talking to her any more and then she comes crashing into my life again. Pleeeease...this has happened to me too many times with her. She says she is going to talk to him and tell him that she will be my friend.
Honestly though, what kind of "friend" leaves you high and dry after 4-5 years of friendship on account of a guy she's known for 1 year?
2007-05-24 05:57:06 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, I took the advice leaning towards ending the friendship. Here's how the conversation went.
Me: After last night's discussion, I have realized that it is no longer in my interest for you to be in my life. Your new man doesn't want it and we've tried too many times and failed. You had your chance at being my friend and it didn't work. That's all I have to say.
Her response:Well I am sorry you feel that way. I was really going to try...maybe you can move on after all the pain of caused you.
That was it...badda bing, I hung up after that. That crazy woman thinks that she still runs it, "maybe you can move on..." pshhhh...she's insane.
2007-05-24 06:41:53 · update #1
She's getting bored with him and wants her ego stroked. Tell her you're not interested in talking to her and to not call you anymore. Then hang up. Don't give her a chance to talk and if she does, don't believe anything she says. She is no friend. Beware of her. She could hurt you again.
2007-05-24 06:02:24 · answer #1 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is using you to either get back at him for something he said or did, or as a safety net. When she needs to feel better or feel like someone cares about her, she calls you, because she knows you did (maybe you still do). And by you taking her calls and speaking with her, you are keeping that notion alive.
It is time to tell her that although she meant alot to you in the past, you are moving on with your life, and while you wish her well with it, you no longer want to be part of it, then change your number!
2007-05-24 06:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by mrsmommaid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is one who loves you. She has history with you and feelings as well. She does not know what to do with them. You were probably 100 times nicer to her than the Neanderthal she is with now. You cannot help her unless she comes to you with a black eye, in which you must. Do not put more energy into resolving this situation than is absolutely necessary. Good luck.
2007-05-24 06:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say to her that you no longer feel it is appropriate to have her in your life, out of respect for her new man's wishes, she can't have everything, sounds like she doesn't want you but wants to be close enough to keep you hankering after her and not let you move on.
2007-05-24 06:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she is either no longer with her bf or she is getting bored with him and wants some fun, either way I would decline her offer politely, if you don't she will think she can do this to you every time, and it's not fair on you to keep playing you in this way.
2007-05-24 06:03:48 · answer #5 · answered by Helen C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time for you to be in charge. You decide whether or not she's your friend. Don't let her make the decision for you. Maybe you should change *your* number!
2007-05-24 06:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For get about her and move on. Yuo dont need such a person in yoru life. Change your number.
2007-05-24 06:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by SG GAL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to be Mr nice, just tell her off once and for all,unless you could not give her up. should you give in the future will be troubles.
2007-05-24 06:04:10 · answer #8 · answered by Gew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want to be your friend. She is feeling you out to see if she made the wrong choice. Don't meet with her, don't talk to her.
2007-05-24 06:00:41 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN...............as far and as fast as you can and DON"T LOOK BACK!
If you really don't want her freindship let her know that she had her chance and that you are over her.
2007-05-24 06:01:01 · answer #10 · answered by blazing_fire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋