i met my b/f in the internet , we finally met after about 6 years. the thing is he always claimed to want a true love, and i figured he would be a rue love also..when i went to see him and while in his name on the internet some girl came out saying he was suppose to meet him, and said he would not be on line so not to IM him cause it would not be him on line ..it would be family (since it was over the holidays) everyone that IM ed him did not know about me at all...then i found some private chat that was saved on his computer (while arranging his pictures for him, which he asked me to do) and i found him ofering to another girl what he has offered me .. to relocate and help her get settled ..now he says its me and i am acting childish, and that internet is not reality...(how can that be?) we met on the internet...does this make sense to you? is it me or am i right about not trusting him anymore
2007-05-24 04:14:57 · 10 answers · asked by liltexas36 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are most definitely right. It looks like he is doing double duty and you are going to get hurt worse than you're huting right now. Get out and move on and break all contact with him.
2007-05-24 04:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by huskergo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Liltexas
The internet is a strange “reality“. It is a surreal place, where the lines between fact and fiction blur. It is also a place where people do not have to tell the truth and can show a completely different personality. Unfortunately, you seem to have found an unreliable person to exchange messages with. Now that you have met him in person, judge for yourself what you think of him now. He may or may not be the person for you … but his ‘infidelity’ on the net does not say much for him. If he has promised some other girl the same as you, you probably need to dump him.
2007-05-24 13:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by Noel O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds iffy. I know if you already have trust issues with him, then it is going to be a rocky relationship. He sounds like he has some issues. I would get out of there. Especially if he is trying to put the blame on you, instead of owning up to what he had done. Not good. Girl you got your whole life ahead of you. Do what is best for you. You don't want to be with a guy you always have to worry about, and question every second. Good luck.
2007-05-24 11:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by Heather D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have entangled yourself with a liar that lives in fantasy "on the net". Whatever you do, do NOT marry this person. It's best to get out now. Take it from ME, who knows....if you stay in this with this PLAYER, you will wind up with nothing more than a broken heart. Especially if you end up spawning children with this loser. If he's lying to you and hiding these things, and still doing them, he's not really into you anyway. And he can say the internet is not "real"....but the people in it ARE, whether they are lying about their true self or not....and he can meet up with them just like he met up with you. You're better off, cutting your losses here...and getting out while you're ahead.
2007-05-24 11:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
While I'm not downing "internet dating" you do have to realize that you're taking a chance. This is someone that can very easily pretend to be someone else, or pretend to be someone he isn't. The problem is, you haven't physically been around him, haven't really had time to see him in person to get that "vibe" we all get from people. My advice to you is to let it go. It sounds to me you're looking for something serious. If you weren't, then hey, this would be ok, but it just doesn't sound up your alley. Drop him and go out and find yourself a real guy. Best of luck to you.
2007-05-24 12:03:58 · answer #5 · answered by Starry Eyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You put all your trust into a guy you never met. You put your hopes and dreams and life into a guy you never met. And now you are surprised to find out you weren't the only one he was doing this too? What planet do you live on?
2007-05-24 11:18:54 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your right. dont trust anyone on the internet. EVER!
2007-05-24 11:24:35 · answer #7 · answered by Deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would trust him for minor things. He can be your friend but, if the other person wasn't you, be wary.
2007-05-24 12:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are totally right not to trust him....
and totally wrong from the beginning to get involved in such net-relation.
2007-05-24 12:16:21 · answer #9 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moral of da story......plz dont make bf on internet!!
2007-05-24 11:28:04 · answer #10 · answered by shreya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋