For the guys. How do men really feel about a stay at home mom in 2007? Appreciated or despised?

Question

When I grew up, my mom was a stay at home mom with 7 kids. Even though, I realize that there have been a lot of changes in society since then, not to mention most women cannot afford to stay home to care for their children. I would like to have a mans point of view. We appreciated our mom, for all she sacraficed for us. My dad saw her as a source of strength. But, nowadays I am not sure this type of woman is appreciated. Many may even consider her lazy or unambitious. But, when a woman has 7 kids, she can't be lazy. She has too much work to do. Men, please share your thoughts. Would you want to be married to a stay at home mom?

Answer 1

I would not mind it. If she wanted to work that's cool too. But with the cost of day care my buddy found out that his wife's paycheck would basically only cover the day care for their two kids. So they decided why let strangers take care of the kids, so now she stays at home. If it works out where my wife can afford to stay home I would let her. I would much rather have the mother of my children watching them and taking care of them rather than a day care. Not that day care is a bad idea. It gives the kids a chance to interact and play which is very good for them to develope their social skills. So after all that my answer to your question is that if I could afford it and my wife wants to, I don't see a problem with a stay at home mom nowadays.

Answer 2

Depends entirely on the agreement made between you and your guy and also on your financial situation. I think a stay at home mom or a stay at home dad is a good thing because one of you is always at home with the kids, and kids NEED that nowadays more than ever. It may also make sense financially because, depending on how much income the lowest income earner brings in, it may be cheaper for one of you to stay home than to pay for day care for a bunch of kids.

This is not an easy question to answer. I wouldn't want the woman I'm with to feel that she 'has' to be a domestic if she really wants a career. But, I wouldn't be disagreeable to having a 'housewife' either. This is why I say it depends on the agreement you make with your partner. If I had a choice, I would choose to be married to a stay at home mom.

Answer 3

I never consider a stay at home mom lazy. Families have to decide what is best for their particular family. If that means mom stays at home and cares for the kids and the house then she has a lot more work to put into it then she would if she was leaving the house every day (unless she works in construction or something like that). She has ambition, not for her self at that time but for her kids since she believes she is the best thing for them rather than day care or a sitter. Whether the decision is economic or practical it is a lot of hard work coming for the next 10 to 15 years.

Answer 4

Appreciated appreciated appreciated!!!

The feminist movement was about women being give the choice to go out and work, be treated equally, etc etc. It didnt make it compulsory!!!

Just because a woman chooses to stay at home it doesnt mean that she is lazy or unambitious, If i had a wife and the finances were right and she WANTED to stay at home and be a better mom for the kids then i would have no problem with this as long as i didnt have to come home from work and do housework!!

I prefare a girl to be more femine, caring, kind and needy. Who wants to marry a girl with more balls than them??

Answer 5

My wife is a stay at home mom. We both feel that it is in the best interest of our children that there be a parent in the home. We have less money than some of our friend with two incomes, but we see it as worth it to be able to raise our own children, instead of having some nanny or day care raise them.

The ultimate responsibility for the development of a child falls upon the parents. So why trust that job to someone else?

Answer 6

Yes, I'd appreciate that. I think only hard-core feminists would look down on women who take that path in life. Now, if all the kids are in school during the day, I think there might be some opportunity to get a part-time job . . . but I wouldn't push the issue unless we were in need of money or I was under too much stress at work. Have a nice day!

Answer 7

If we had 7 kids, I would definitely try to help out so that the mom wouldn't have so much to do. If she wanted to pursue a career, then I would try to find a babysitter or a day care to take the kids to so that she could fulfill her future and be happy. If she wanted to stay at home and be with the kids, I wouldn't mind that either. Whatever would make her happy.

Answer 8

I'm not a man, but I am a stay at home mom. I cant afford to stay home but cant afford to pay childcare. There is no win win. If I work, all my money will go to childcare, but if I stay home there is no extra money coming in. We are low income and live on one income and live with my mom (she is about to kick us out). I am not lazy but sometimes there is nothing to do because you did all the cleaning the night before. I am more mentally drained instead of physical drained.

Answer 9

A stay at home mom is probably the hardest job on the planet. My girlfriend stays hom now that the kids aren't in school. She might work nights, but to me, its stupid for her to work at a job, and then pay $200 per child per week for child care. By the time its all over, the money she is making at work is enough to cover the child care. She likes to work, but its kinda dumb for her to do that, and let someone else rasie her kids, when she can do it herself. Its not like we are losing money either way.

Answer 10

I suppose it really depends on how well the husband can provide for the overall income of the family as to where the status is of the mom in this situation. And it really depends on how career-motivated the woman is when entering the marriage and if the situation changes due to kids, husband's income, style of living they want, etc.