male exotic dancer/stripper?

Question

i am 28 and when i was in college i would dance for girls at parties and stuff. i was told i can do it for a living. i work out a lot and am big into physical fitness. i have a great career, but my life is bring, professional,etc. i am going to keep my career, but i would like to strip for girls at night part-time. the thing is that it would have to be a secret or i will lose my career. how can i advertise myself and where to get the work? in college girls would just ask me , word of mouth type of thing. but now i am in dallas, texas and dont know how or where to advertise myself--help anyone???

Answer 1

You are in the "Marriage/ Divorce" ..go somewhere else!!

Answer 2

First, a comment to other Answerers: Ethan HAS posted on Singles/Dating, and 3 other categories, including Wedding--the only place he's getting answers as good as here, where the connection is the bachelorette thing. As for this category--are divorcee parties a good market for male strippers?
Second, Sugar among others makes the point that you can't keep your career and strip, and she's absolutely right. I mean, would you believe even a sitcom where a guy's in your proposed situation, Ethan, and he ISN'T found out and forced to make a choice?
So you have two options:
1. Do something else to show off your great bod, something respectable enough that when you're eventually and inevitably found out, it won't hurt your career. That would presumably be PG-rated modeling, done under another name to indicate respect for your profession. (It doesn't make any sense that using another name matters, but I think your bosses would all agree it does.)
2. If that's not going to float your boat the way stripping does (and I can't imagine it would compare), or if your career won't even stand modeling: Consider dumping that and supporting yourself as a stripper. It's certainly a major income cut, particularly at first, but if you also adjust your spending, and get professional advice on investing, you might actually be financially okay by the time you age out. (If you don't mind going gay-for-pay, stripping for guys, you might be able to keep going for years longer; many of us have a daddy/bear fetish that I don't think str8 women share.)
Before you go for option 2, however, you ought to get professional advice on how good you really are, how much you can make immediately and potentially, maybe take dance lessons to improve your act (up to the point where it won't improve your take any further), get liposuction to achieve incredible abs instead of a merely good set, and whatever else goes into being a truly bombshell stripper. For one thing, you'll probably have to consider relocating and/or going on the road a lot.
Afterthought: You don't say what your professional career is. There MAY be an Option 3. Or I may be fantasizing; you'll know better than I do, Ethan.
Say you're a lawyer, you *could* set up independent, so that you don't have any bosses but your clients. In that case, somewhere in my office I'd keep a comparatively small pic of myself at the thong-only stage. That way, every potential client is eventually going to ask about it, you tell them that you're a part-time stripper, and they either decide to retain you or not, with full disclosure (you should pardon the phrase). And some of them will ask for your other business card!
On the other end, it wouldn't hurt to offer a strip as "Ethan, the Lusty Lawyer (and He Really Is One)," starting from a full 3-piece suit with a briefcase--which you'd later pick up and skin out of your thong behind. Make sure you have some of your lawyer cards in the briefcase. (Incidentally, the suit-&-tie thing is another gay-guy fetish.)
ADDED LATER:
In the Home > Travel > United States > Dallas category, where you gave essentially the above answer a "wow" (thank you very much), Ray Michael notes: "We've given you answers to this question in the past and they've removed the question. You've also posted this same question in 5 different categories. Are you asking legitimately or are you just trying to get shock value?"
Be nice if you let us know the answer to that last. And what you decide to do--either in reality or in your continuing fantasy, as the case may be! You could include those answers--or a link to your blog, or whatever--in your comment when you choose Best Answer here.

Answer 3

First, a comment to Basketcase88: As mentioned by others, it's the bachelorette thing. (Yes, that's spelled correctly, even tho Answers' spellchecker hasn't heard of the word.) More interestingly, Ethan has posted in 5 categories, and the only place he's getting answers as good as here is under Marriage/Divorce, where the only connection would be divorcee parties, if they exist. Go figure! Second, I think IndiaBombayRice has a good start on the answer, Ethan. Like others, he says you can't keep your career and strip, and he's absolutely right. I mean, would you believe even a sitcom where a guy's in your proposed situation and he ISN'T found out and forced to make a choice? So you have two options: 1. Do something else to show off your great bod, something respectable enough that when you're eventually and inevitably found out, it won't hurt your career. That would presumably be PG-rated modeling, done under another name to indicate respect for your profession. (It doesn't make any sense that using another name matters, but I think your bosses would all agree it does.) 2. If that's not going to float your boat the way stripping does (and I can't imagine it would compare), or if your career won't even stand modeling: Consider dumping that and supporting yourself as a stripper. It's certainly a major income cut, particularly at first, but if you also adjust your spending, and get professional advice on investing, you might actually be financially okay by the time you age out. (If you don't mind going gay-for-pay, stripping for guys, you might be able to keep going for years longer; many of us have a daddy/bear fetish that I don't think str8 women share.) Before you go for option 2, however, you ought to get professional advice on how good you really are, how much you can make immediately and potentially, maybe take dance lessons to improve your act (up to the point where it won't improve your take any further), get liposuction to achieve incredible abs instead of a merely good set, and whatever else goes into being a truly bombshell stripper. For one thing, you'll probably have to consider relocating and/or going on the road a lot. Afterthought: You don't say what your professional career is. There MAY be an Option 3. Or I may be fantasizing; you'll know better than I do, Ethan. Say you're a lawyer, you *could* set up independent, so that you don't have any bosses but your clients. In that case, somewhere in my office I'd keep a comparatively small pic of myself at the thong-only stage. That way, every potential client is eventually going to ask about it, you tell them that you're a part-time stripper, and they either decide to retain you or not, with full disclosure (you should pardon the phrase). And some of them will ask for your other business card! On the other end, it wouldn't hurt to offer a strip as "Ethan, the Lusty Lawyer (and He Really Is One)," starting from a full 3-piece suit with a briefcase--which you'd later pick up and skin out of your thong behind. Make sure you have some of your lawyer cards in the briefcase. (Incidentally, the suit-&-tie thing is another gay-guy fetish.)

Answer 4

Start with the local colleges and when you get work from them then just take some business cards or flyers with you and pass them out at the parties you are working at. And be sure to build a website. That's very important in this day and age! Word of mouth will get around.

Answer 5

Why are you posting this on marriage/divorce? Post it on singles/ dating instead... anyhooooo... I'd say ask a girl you know who's single and whom you think is attracted to you, to let you do a bit of exotic dancing at her next party. Or you could always throw a party yourself and be your own guest of honour - this kind of thing can NEVER be a secret because you will be "out there" in more ways than one, and someone knows someone and soon, at some or other party, someone will know someone who knows you - how embarassing if a college rocks up!... Consider how much you like it and how much of a career stopper it is before evaluating wether you want to persue that angle. If you do, then full steam ahead.

Answer 6

You need to check with your current employer's restrictions on outside employment. You signed a contract when you were hired, hopefully you actually READ that contract before signing. In signing that contract you agreed to adhere to ALL of your employer's policies and standards, it is up to YOU to find out what your employer's policies on what you WANT to do are. If your employer is against what you WANT to do and you go ahead and get caught doing so your employer can hand you your walking papers next morning without giving you notice. So yes it is possible you could loose your career.

Answer 7

Don't do it. You'll wind up taking a gig, and someone will recognize you from your work and then you'll be "outed"

If you are determined to flaunt yourself in public, look for "chippendales" or "bachelorette parties" and talk to their booking agent and get jobs that way, through a third party.

Or just strip for your girlfriend. She may get a kick out of it and your life may become less boring that way.

Answer 8

Create you own website without showing your pic. Or you can pass out business cards at colleges.

Answer 9

go 2 a place like a puzzi bar n find a few girls who would pay good money for a good big juicy ball! mmmmmm!

Answer 10

this question doesn't belong here.Get a normal hobby no one wants to see you strip