me & my BF have been together for more then a year.. and pretty much have been living together the whole time. we are both in our 30's. we have had an insane whirl wind relationship & have gone through things most relationships never do! there was always something insane going on.. but most of it was me always saving him from something.. himself.. his job.. his family.
I was the one with the good job mostly supporting both of us. and we were both SOO happy & loving and planing our wedding. just so in love!
we recently moved to florida where he is working for my family. now I dont work. he makes all the money. there is no more insane issues. no more problems. everything should be perfect..
yet our relationship isnt anymore.we barely talk we have had sex once in the last two months (when it was almost daily)
it kinda feels like we are brother and sister living in the same house.
he is miserable and so am I. but we want it to work. somehow. we just dont know where to start or how
2007-05-24 03:50:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you both need to take a weekend aay from everything, totally communicate with eavch other, cover every aspect of your relationship, and come to an agrement. Good time to look to God for help. He can help you with your problems. Hold hands and look at all God's creation. He created everything for the two of you to enjoy together. Good luck and may God Bless you as you go through these tough times.
2007-05-24 03:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys should start some at home relationship counceling. I think everyone should do this. In an interview of John Travolta, he said that his wife and he had such a strong relationship because (I think it was once a year, but for real relationships in trouble especially, I say once a month) they get together and have a big talk. He said that after a year of life, you can become an entirely different person. You have different views, passions, goals, annoyances, curiosities, priorities, etc. People just change. In a relationship, you have new needs, wants, time slots. It changes, too. As a couple, you have to get together and talk openly and honestly with eachother often about your lives, concerns, hopes, inside and out of the relationship. Especially in a time like this when so much has changed, you guys have not remained unchanged. For this reason, what has always worked for you as a couple, no longer is. You guys need a new game plan. Work on open communication in the relationship most impotantly. Make it a priority if you really want a change, and like antibiotics, don't stop when it improves. Keep up the meetings in order to keep the relationship healthy and strong throughout your life. Share this idea with him, and if he is willing to stay loyal to the plan, get out some relationship journals and get started immediatley. Good luck!
2007-05-24 11:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by marisela138 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What caused this to happen? Look at the problem and talk it through.
Communication is the only way to keep the relationship alive and well.
2007-05-24 10:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, welcome to the real world that comes after puppy love is over. Go to couples counseling.
2007-05-24 10:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk talk talk talk talk TALKKKKKKK
just do it
and youll be really happy
2007-05-24 10:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋