Would you want to have a marriage/partnership that was like your parents?

Question

Please say why or why not or perhaps what you would like to be different or the same.

Answer 1

Absolutely. My parents have been married for 45 years and are still great friends. They have their niggly moments, but have been through so much together and still have a laugh.

I hope I have half of what they have had.... they are not rich by any means, we always 'got by' and had to do without a lot when I was a kid, but I never felt neglected or without love. That's the most important thing.... all my friends had the latest gadgets, trainers, etc.... but I could see that what I have with my parents is 100 times more precious than what they had.

Answer 2

My parents' marriage is perfect (almost, since 'nobody's perfect'), so they're great. They met by chance and married the same day they met in. Marriage in a record. They loved each other till now (27 years) having a 23 year old girl and a 21 year old boy. Well, they are good, yet I don't wish my marriage to be the same. For one reason only, they didn't know each other well enough (and I don't mean sexually, since our culture doesn't allow that before marriage). I'd like to know more about my husband-to-be to prevent divorce in the future, since my father and I don't believe in this kind of thing. I don't like it, it creates so many fractures which affect the children much and destroy many homes. Maybe when it's so difficult to live but then they must try to go on for the sake of the kids.
Anyway, knowing my husband will enable me to know what his good and bad aspects are. Suppose there is are differences between us (I don't just mean age, but other things also). Also, if I find some fault in him, I might try and accept them if he doesn't change by time, as true marriage is not based upon changing ur partner but changing yourself to be able to mould well with your partner.
Thank u for the Q.

Answer 3

I like a different marriage/partnership as my parents all because they went through hell to get to the place they are today in their marriage. There are things that my mother took from my father that I would never take from a man like cheating and lying. I rather walk away and start new rather than stay with someone who don't appreciate me and treat me with respect.

My first marriage was a disaster but I hope that my next one will be better. I don't believe in making promises that can't be kept and also making plans for the future that can be changed.

Answer 4

Never in a million years. My mother has been married & divorced 3 times! She left her first child with his father & NEVER talked to him for 30 years. She had another child & adopted me 7 years later & treats me like she did her first child. She was an awful mother. Horrible!!! She's shallow, sick and pathetic. I'd never in a million years want to be like her in those respects.

I think it's my place to provide as stable an environment as I can for my children. I'd NEVER divorce my children's father and run around after another sick alcoholic man who chased me at the end of loaded guns. Nope. I definately don't want to be like my mother.

When you're 9 years old and your parents send you to live with another family it really warps your brain. What was it that my mother couldn't stand about my father? She knew he was a drunk when she married him. She married a drunk and years later she decides she doesn't want to be married to him because he's a drunk? What about the stability of her children's lives? Why not stay and figure out a way to be happy? I've never seen this woman break a sweat or wear shorts without panty hose.

This woman has never been able to evaluate who would be a proper mate. At least I was smart enough to marry a man who is highly intelligent. Yet even with this my mother had to make the crack when we were playing some crack "he can teach school but he doesn't know his right from his left." I let it go. We were playing some game you're suppose to play with little chips but my brother decided to use quarters in an effort to get some money. Funny I somehow won all the money. My brother also had to make the crack that this game is a non thinking game. Guess that's why I won.

Answer 5

Yes, their marrage was very good, unfortunetly my dad died very young so i only remeber their marrage through the eyes of a 6 year old.

What i do remeber are kind, loving and caring parents. The short time i knew them as a couple was very nice. They seemed to communicate well with eachother. Also they shared the work load evenly.

I admire the strength my mum showed after my dads death (sudden adult death syndrome). I know it must have been very hard for her so respect her very much.

I am sorry if you wanted people who can remember their parents properly (or indeed still have them) but i thought it could help if i answerd too.

Answer 6

No not my parents cos they spent most of their marriage arguing and finally split last year after having made me and my brother listen to their constant arguing for god knows how many years!! But I would like a marriage like my grandparents. They were madly in love from the day they met and even though my grandpa died a few years ago I know they'd still be together now if they could. They truly were soulmates. So sweet! x

Answer 7

No chance. My dad had an affair for 6 years of my parents marriage, going on while my mum was pregnant. When they finally divorced, he was married again within 2 weeks!

So nah, I would like to have a happy and faithful marriage.

Answer 8

NOOOOOOOOOO WAY!!!!

my mum has been married twice and had 5 kids by the time she was 30 so i don't thinks so shes 40 now and has slit up with my step dad 3 years now. i remember when i was 6 going to this mans house with my mum while my step dad was at work and saw my mum kissing him i told her i was gonna tell my step dad and she told me not to so she got me a happy meal from mcds to kept my mouth shut lol. then she had an affair with a bloke at the top of our street. so no i would not like too have a relationship that my mother had. i want the opposite but not 5 kids and i was the second oldest.

Answer 9

I would be very lucky to have such a relationship. My parents both loved each other very much and it kills me to see how unhappy my father has been since mum died. I think love like that is rare, and whilst I know I have the capacity deep down to truly love someone, I don't know if anyone could feel the same way about me.

Answer 10

I would rather be like my grandparents. People knew what a reationship was then and how to maintain a happy one.

My parents did a good job as well... they've been married longer than I've been alive so that's saying something.

I think I was raised well with proper morals when it comes to marriage. Not like people now who find relationships disposable and cheat and have 900 children with 800 different mothers. Ick.