I thought I was in love at the age of 14. We were never official but when we were together, he was all I wanted. There were some experiences we shared that were new to me, maybe not him, but that transformed me into the person I became. I never saw him in a bad light, even when he was unfaithful to his girlfriend with me. I ran into him a few years later and one time, just once, we slept together. I had a son after he had left to go do whatever he needed to do and didn't find out if it was his son until he was 3. So now, we rekindled a friendship at the beginning of a new relationship I was in. I didn't like the girls he was seeing and stayed through some visits to just be near. I stayed in the faithful relationship I had and had a little girl and got married. Now he has a wondeful girl and they are expecting. I think about it every now and then, were we both too chickensh*t to try? He and I will forever be a part of the other's life. Is the first love that's so hard to get over????
2007-05-24 03:35:23 · 9 answers · asked by Alle Leigh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
* It was 7 1/2 years ago and I didn't know he had a girlfriend until after. ONCE. I knew I would always wonder about his fideliy and honesty (or lack thereof) and maybe that has been a blessing to really wary me away from that pursuit. My question I should have phrased was more of terms of acceptance. I am married now to the man who that I am meant to grow old with, that loves me truly, faithfully, unconditionally, that would fight for me. He even has to fight through my walls. See, it's not a question about cheating or my character. I will be faithful to my husband. I love my husband. I was asking more of the process to be less concerned about the past and still for my son's sake keep a close relationship. We are friends, we are family. My husband and him get along fantastically, his girlfriend and I are also working on being comfortable with each other. She is to be step-mother as my husband is step-father. My son is his son. That's all I am trying to get. How close should this be?
2007-05-24 05:24:37 · update #1
I think you should move on and allow him to move on as well. It is alright to have good memories about the time when you were together but don't forget that there was a reason why you broke up. Keep a good relationshipw with him for your son and remember the good times and try making some memories of your own with your husband. Good Luck!
2007-05-24 03:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First love is def. hard to get over. I think that person is always a part of you because like you said that person made you into the person you are today. There are always going to be things that remind you of that person. A smell, a certain place, a look someone might give you that reminds you of your first love. As long as it is not interfering with your current relationship I don't think it is a bad thing that you still think about your first.
2007-05-24 03:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think of you are able to 'love' somebody & end loving the guy whilst that guy or woman hasn't replaced. It skill which you on no account truly enjoyed the guy in the 1st place... it takes place whilst human beings are on a rebound... it may ensue which you think of you're finding new love all over returned till ultimately the freshness fades & fact flashes decrease back into you.
2016-10-13 08:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your a little off balanced! And, your actions speak VOLUMES about your character by you sleeping with a man who had a girlfriend. Pathetically, you are not even capable of seeing anything wrong with that act as you stated, "I never saw him in a bad light, even when he was unfaithful to his girlfriend with me." Get some therapy!
2007-05-24 03:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me a long time to get over my first love. I think that it is hard because we build it inot more than it really is and it is not easy to get rid of the ideal we have of the other person, reality is often worse.
2007-05-24 03:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like True Love.
It's not easy to forget someone you really
love.If it was it wouldn't really be love you felt.
But for your sake and his you need to try to move on.
Maybe you will find someone else to love and it will help
to take your mind off him. Good Luck, I wish you the best.
2007-05-24 04:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is very hard to get over a first love, it take some time i kno kinda wat u mean only cuz i was in love wit a guy 4 3 in a half yrs and it was the same age as u; and he moved away wit out a trace that was 5th grade and i haven't seen him since and im now a jr soon to be SR and it took me a few years to say its time to move on..& to this day i still think bout him bout thats it is think i think bout wat me and him shared and wat we had and wat we could of have if he was still here wit me....but that all i can do is think...so at least u guys have eachother around ...
goodluck
2007-05-24 03:44:02 · answer #7 · answered by crazysmith187 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What love was there? Sounds like you were in puppy love and he used you for a one night stand, and you let him. Get over it.
2007-05-24 03:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want your marriage to last, pls redirect your focus, it may be hard, you can do it, have done it before.
Please let go and have a new life.
Its up to you.
2007-05-24 03:42:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋