i am not a baby person and i am not selffish either although it me seem so but ive bought the baby two gifts and her some weights and she still hasnt picked it up she comes by everyday she looks at them and pays no attention to it but i dont say anything because if she really wanted it she would say so i think its fake if you dont want something but you still say you want it just not to hurt someones feelings.we have a very open friendship hell we tell each other how a poop looks after we take a dump we have only been friends your a year.
2007-05-24 03:34:06 · 14 answers · asked by asani1982 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Definilty not!!! Its crazy once you have children, the friends that don't have children see you differently. Give her time its a new world for her. Sometimes we aren't always organized to allow us time to exercise and the million other things she wants to do. The last thing i would do is befriend her. You'll have children eventually and see how things change. Once she gets the hang of things she'll want her adult time with friends!!!
2007-05-24 03:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by mnmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why buy her weights, is she fat since the baby, or is that just a message you are sending her. Gifts do not a friendship make. You are not a baby person and not selfish but in the same sentence you say it seems so. What is your desire to keep this friendship, what in commen do you have expect poop. You dont give your age but the whole thing sounds like a very young person that is jealous of her friends baby, grow up and move on.
2007-05-24 10:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by john h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people aren't comfortable asking for things. If you purchased a gift for someone (or their baby) then you should present it to them...they shouldn't have to come to your house and say "where's my gift" or "is that the baby's gift"?
Apparently there IS time for you two as you said 'she comes by everyday' so why end the friendship?
If you like this person as a friend, then why end things? Even if you only see each other once every few weeks or months, it doesn't make them less your friend...
However if you do not care for this person or think they are a good friend, then do what you feel you should do. This is your choice, who to have in your life.
2007-05-24 10:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will never know how difficult it is to take time out for yourself and your friends until you have a baby yourself. your friend is not doing this on purpose. she has a very strong priority now, and she needs to tend to it. do not end the friendship, because she still needs someone to talk to. she will feel lonely and think that she no longer has someone to reassure her that there is still life after a child is born. I would say that you need to schedule your outings with your friend, and make sure that she has a babysitter to help her out. Plan ahead of time, so that she can get her thoughts together. As far as the gift goes, bring it to her house. it is not that she does not appreciate it, but she has so much going on in her life, that she does not have time to do even the simplest things. Please be there for her.
2007-05-24 10:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by jessrich1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with "Babe Hear" I can't believe you want her to ASK you for the gifts YOU bought for her! You should have given them to her.
She has made time for you especially if your saying she comes over everyday. Which I applause her that she was able to do that, caring for a child is alot of work & sometimes friends have to be pushed back a bit because your child is now FIRST.
I can't believe your jealous of the time that baby is taking from his mother...
2007-05-24 10:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by christina h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is being fake then don't be around someone like that it is a useless freindship at this point if it's beacuase of the baby then you dopn't want to be around go your own way. You can't have both worlds if your freind is that important you will be around for the benefit of hernot for the baby she has that job already!!!
2007-05-24 10:38:44 · answer #6 · answered by zeethevampyre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. If you're not a "baby person" she's not going to be interested in non-baby/child/parenting things for probably 12 years. At least.
She's a mommy now. Get used to it.
2007-05-24 10:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What its just a baby thats a crapy way to end a friendship.
2007-05-24 10:38:34 · answer #8 · answered by Northern hottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont end the friendship that jus be DUMB over a baby i mean come on if u guys are such good friends then SAY sumthing
2007-05-24 10:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by crazysmith187 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your relationship is close and i wouldn't end cus ova a baby i dont like babies and my best friend is pregnant
so no i dont think you should
2007-05-24 10:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by Hot Momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋