Every time my father in law comes to my house he is always winking at me giving me little sly smiles. At first I thought that I was just being paranoid but now i'm sure i'm not. Just the other day as I was dusting my house in the nude, he walked over to me and started massaging my breasts. I don't know where he came from or how he got into my house, I was stunned. When I asked him what he was doing, he said that he just wanted to make sure that I didn't have any lumps that would lead to cancer. My father in law is not a doctor. When I told my husband about this incident he just laughed and said that it was normal behavior for him. He even told me that his father has slep with many of his ex girlfriends and don't be surprised if tries to sleep with me as well. Is this right? Should my father in law be able to feel me up and sleep with me anytime he chooses? Help please!
2007-05-24 03:27:46 · 76 answers · asked by Flushing06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No it is not alright at all, and frankly that act was sexual harrasment and may even be a form of sexual assult. Please get to a proffesional soon to speak with someone about this. You have experienced something that no one man or woman should experience. This is not a cultural thing, and it is not a man thing, this is WRONG!
Please if this is true I couldn't stress more how that was wrong. It is an unwelcome advance, this is a major issue. And it seems that your marriage isn't as good as it should be.
There is a major problem in it that your husband had the repsonse that he did.
Please if you have a cell go outside, tell your husband your taking a walk, or you're going to the grocery store, just get out of the house and call this number it is free.
National Sexual Assault Hotline • 1.800.656.HOPE • Free. Confidential. 24/7.
You are not the only person that has had something exact or similar to this happen to them and be confused about it. But YOU can prevent it from happening again or going any further!
If your husband doesn't change his mind about how he feels about this you need to go and stay with a friend for a while. If your father in law came into your house with out your knowing and did what he did to you, you aren't very safe there at all.
You need to see your safety as the number one thing, and if you have any children you need to get them out of that environment aswell if your husband wont change. You also should file a police report. They may not do anything, but they have the report and if this problem esculates they have this incident already on file. And you never know you may find out that your father in law was charged or did time for rape before, and that can be just the thing to get you the heck away from that house and your children if you have any.
I hope you love yourself more than anything an insure your own safety. If your husband has all the money there are places women can go if they feel unsafe in their home, you can even go just for a night until your husband realizes the seriousness of it.
Also you and your husband should get counseling together about this. If you have a minister or pastor you can even go to them. And if you have children you def need to have them talk to you or someone else to see if that man has ever touched them in a way that is sexual or uncomfortable.
Good luck, and stay safe
~your fellow woman
2007-05-24 03:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Okay you didn't explain the situation very well...but what i'd like to know is why were you walking around your house naked while there was company over, even if it is family (in-laws)? You said that your husband says his father has slept with his Ex's...Now you have to question your husband as of how he really feels about you if he thinks it's ok for another man to sleep with his wife, especially if this other man is a relitive, not to mention his father. It's not ok for any man to, especially your husbands father, to make unwanted sexual advances to a woman. I don't know where you're from but in the states it's called sexual harrasment and it's illegal and he could get jail time for doing it. It's not ok and it's not normal, and if the behavior continues you may want to think about removing yourself from being put in the situation...
2016-03-12 23:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nned. When I asked him what he was doing, he said that he just wanted to make sure that I didn't have any lumps that would lead to cancer. My father in law is not a doctor. When I told my husband about this incident he just laughed and said that it was normal behavior for him. He even told me that his father has slep with many of his ex girlfriends and don't be surprised if tries to sleep with me as well. Is this right? Should my father in law be able to feel me up
2014-10-03 11:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are ridiculous!! you come on here where some people need real advice and ask ridiculous questions like why can't your 13 year old marry a 27 years old and why should you have to sleep with your sisters husband and why does your boss put doo doo in your paycheck or and one of my personal faves why cant i take my 19 year old son into the restroom with me?
Of course I don't know what's more pathetic that you keep asking these questions or that people keep answering them as if you are serious!!
2007-05-24 03:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by juda75 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The real question is who dust they house in the nude, with the doors unlocked. Seems to me like theres more of a security issues her. You need some new locks.
And if that was your reaction when he was rubbing your breast you must have liked it. For him to even get close enough to you without you noticing to do that is a problem. You didn't smack him, so you enjoyed something about it nor did you run and put some clothes on. It sounds like you stood there in the nude and had a converstation with him. I think you want him.
2007-05-24 04:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by WhiteCoco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This really sounds like something out of a "B" rated movie. If this is actually true I would have to say the your husband and father-in-law have a pretty peculiar type of relationship. I personally am a true Alpha male. While I am not the jealous type enough evidence of someone trying to seduce my wife will send me to the brink of homicide regardless of who it is. What is mine is mine period. When I was single if a woman is taken then I would leave them alone. That is part of the Code that I live by because I would want someone to do the same for me. If you are uncomfortable with this you really need to explain this to your husband. If not then I guess enjoy yourself... who cleans in the nude anyway?
2007-05-24 03:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by soulsearcherofthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Two things: 1) Why are you dusting in the nude while your father-in-law is in the house? Get a grip girl!!!! and 2) Any father-in-law that wants to sleep with or feel up his daughter-in-law needs some psychiatric help. Run away and run away fast!!!!!
2007-05-24 03:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by upnorthguy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well as the saying goes if shes not good enough for her own family shes not good enough for ours!! lol (sick joke).
This family is rather wierd and obviously as his father has done it before which is probably why his son never got married to any of his ex girlfriends.
Its a distinct possibility that your next, why your asking if its ok is also rather wierd does this happen in most other families? No!!
Still at least this time he married you before his father got his slimey hands on you! You never know in a few months time they might get the old family address book out and ring up great grandad and long lost cousins to see if your up for pulling the train!!
You have to live in USA! PMSL!!!
2007-05-24 03:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by tangled 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
where some people need real advice and ask ridiculous questions like why can't your 13 year old marry a 27 years old and why should you have to sleep with your sisters husband and why does your boss put doo doo in your paycheck or and one of my personal faves why cant i take my 19 year old son into the restroom with me?
2014-10-03 11:19:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
od enough for her own family shes not good enough for ours!! lol (sick joke).
This family is rather wierd and obviously as his father has done it before which is probably why his son never got married to any of his ex girlfriends.
Its a distinct possibility that your next, why your asking if its ok is also rather wierd does this happen in most other families? No!!
Still at least this time he married you before his father got his slimey hands o
2014-10-03 10:51:37 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋