Is it wrong to have this fantasy, and should I tell my wife?

Question

I have a fantasy of my wife making love with another guy. I am not very well endowed, so the thought of her being with a hot studly guy is a big turn on for me, should I tell her about it

Answer 1

Sure. A husband and wife should be able to talk about these things.

Answer 2

Not being well endowed is absolutely no reason for not having fantastic sex with your wife.How loving is your wife?Fantasising during love making is conducive to good sex.Could your wife handle that if you told her?Think about this.Do you both fantasise during love making?Maybe she fantasises just about the same thing as you do?In you sub-conscious you might be trying to help yourself through "helping" your wife(fantasising about her with a "stud").It might actually help her--if she needs it--if you both had the same fantasy.Everything depends on you both and your relationship and how you make love.It's hard to give you a straight out answer without knowing a lot more about you two.If you cannot decide consider seeing a Sex Therapist.Good luck.

Answer 3

A sexual fantasy, also called an erotic fantasy, is a deliberate fantasy or pattern of thoughts with the goal of creating or enhancing sexual feelings; it is mental imagery that an individual considers to be erotic. These fantasies have great variation in their makeup and purpose: they can be long, drawn-out stories or quick mental flashes of sexual imagery; their purposes range from obvious sexual motivations, such as sexual arousal and reaching orgasm, to simply passing the time or helping a person fall asleep. Sexual fantasies are nearly universally experienced and can be positive, negative, or even both. A person may or may not wish to enact their sexual fantasies in real life; some may find their fantasies completely unacceptable — or even physically impossible — were they to be transposed into real life.
Unless you want her involved in enactment and you know that she is somehow inclined i would keep them what they are your fantasies.

Answer 4

My husband had the same fantasy. I didnt (and dont) like the idea of being with any other man, women, yes, but he is the only man I want. But, I did it a couple times for his fantasy, he really enjoyed it. Tell her about it. Or, you can try going to a swingers club just to be with each other. Maybe, it'll happen there.

Answer 5

Dude she is your wife/best friend. You should be able to talk to her about anything. If that is your turn on that tell her, things just might open up and she may tell you what turns her on like maybe another woman. This is normal to talk about things with each other. If secrects have been kept in this world no telling were we would be today. Good Luck.

Answer 6

I think it's ok to share fantasies, it might spice things up; but it should stop there--don't try to have the fantasy acted out in reality. Don't worry about size--if your wife is happy, that's what matters, not some meaningless measurement.

Answer 7

I'm not sure I'd want my husband telling me that. I asked my girlfriend this same question and she had the same answer. Now, if it was two women, we'd get it, but something about you being the underdog isn't attractive. Do yourself a favor and by her a big vibrator that you can watch and fantasize with, right by her side.

Answer 8

if u guys are a real couple u must be truthful to ur partner. if u have a fantacy just keep ur eyes secrectly on ur wife, then if it is correct go to ur partner and slowly discuss about the issue.

Always try to be with ur wife in this situation. reach the matter beating about the bush.(by cajoling)

Answer 9

Why? What would be the purpose of sharing your insecurities? Why not learn how to make love and compensate for what you think is lack of endowment? Its not the size, it how you use it.

Answer 10

Keep that one to yourself, buddy. Go get some counseling if you feel that inadequate. I wonder if your wife has ever said anything about your size. If not, stop beating yourself up over something you can't change. Instead, be the best lover you can be, then you'll never leave her wanting for anything else than what you give her.