my husband always conpares me to other women?

Question

putting them on a peddle stool in other words am crap at things in general its getting me down and am starting to believe him why does he do this

Answer 1

HE PUTS YOU DOWN TO MAKE HIMSELF FEEL BETTER, AND SO YOUR SELF ESTEEM GETS SO LOW YOU THINK NOBODY ELSE WILL WANT YOU,THAT WAY HE FEELS BETTER. START DOING THE SAME TO HIM, WHENEVER HE SAYS SOMETHING BAD ABOUT YOU OR COMPARES YOU TO SOMEBODY DO THE EXACT SAME BACK AND SEE HOW HE LIKES IT ! X

Answer 2

women have a problem, and I hear this all the time. As a joke (that seems to be true) my guy friends say, "if you beat her she'll stay, if your baby her she'll stray". Take a look at your relationship, he down grades you and criticizes you. He wants to make you feel like you can never be good enough for any one else therefore you'll have to stay with him because he'll make you think he is the best you can do. Do not let him do that to you. You are better than that, do something about it. believe it or not there are still good men out there. good luck.

Answer 3

He does it as a form of abuse, to keep you down and make himself feel high and mighty. Return the favor. Start smiling at cute guys and mention that if he would work out more he might have a tight butt like the waiter. Tell him that so an so's hubby makes way more than he does. Etc... Maybe when he feels the hurt himself he will realize why you want him to stop.

Answer 4

He is doing this to boost his own ego. Believe me if he approached any of these women he is comparing you to they probably wouldn't even give him the time of day.

His actions are uncalled for, he can only have this reaction on you because you are letting it affect you.

Don't look at this as you being the victim. Like the Phoenix, rise from the ashes and grab hold of your self respect again. Take extra care in your appearance (I'm not saying you don't already) I'm saying take extra care. Get him back, make him worried when he sees men turn their heads to look at you.

Once you have gained some of your self confidence back it will shine through and men including your husband will start to take notice.

Answer 5

Well fck him and his stupid poxy mind games. He has no respect for you if he compares you to other women.This is cowardly tactics to control you by causing low self esteem,which has obviously worked.Play him at his own game+the next time he makes a comment about another girl, say "God, you must be bloody desperate to fancy that trout". Also, adopt a good sense of humour and laugh at his stupid comments, ridicule is not what he wants but upseting yourself is.Get montivated down the gym+ get the attention+confidence you deserve and just tell him that he has insecurity problems+fight back. You did not give him permission to cause you hurt so don't allow him to!

Answer 6

After reading all the other answers i think you have enough advise to show you why he could be doing this. But i will leave you with this thought.....every bloke assumes the grass is greener on the otherside...its not but they will attempt to mow it anyway....let him go with the better woman....then go out there and improve yourself and when he comes back kick him in the gonads and tell him you`ve found a greener grass yourself.Happy Mowing.x

Answer 7

it's about being in control, start comparing him to other men, he won't like it, but then you can say now you know how i feel! also ask yourself if this marriage is what you really want or need, as someone keep putting you down is downright cruel, and not the way a man who really loves or respects you would be acting

Answer 8

Tell him that he married you the way you are. If he wanted to compare you to other woman, then he shouldv married them instead of you. Tell him that he should stop comparing you cos u ar an individual. Dont let him get you down. Every one is unique in their own way, and frankly I beleive if that your hubby thinks that you not good enough, he should go be with someone who is and leave you in peace.

Answer 9

I think there is some kind of incompatibility factor there at the moment. You should have an honest talk with him about the problems you're having with him and try to move to a new level in your relationship.

Answer 10

I was what people called a 'live wire', always laughing, joking, full of confidence, when I met a man like yours.......

Took me a long time to see thru him and by then I was low, flat, depressed and no self-esteem.

My advice Bin Him NOW.........dont let the b@std get you down.

Answer 11

This is called mental abuse - he doesn't hit you physically, but he sure as hell is hitting you mentally. He sounds a right ....(oh please don't make me use bad language)...

When he does it again, look him straight in the eye and say to him "well I can't be all that bad, because you're still here". If he carries on doing it, try doing it back. I wonder how quickly after he will stop.