My 15 year old daughter is pregnant by a 17 year old, can he go to jail?

Question

My daughter is 5 weeks pregnant by her boyfriend, who is a total loser!, can he go to jail because it is against the law for a 15 year old to have sex. I keep telling him that if he doesn't get a job and help support the child he made, then I will start legal proceedings against him. Can I?? He is such a loser, he does drugs (pot), he won't keep a job, and he is in trouble w/ the law. What can I do?

I have posted this ? for support from other people. For those of you who say it is my fault and where was you when this act was taking place, I have talked till I was blue in the face to my daughter about this guy with no luck. He had my daugh. convinced that he was sterile because of an operation he had on his testicles and I didn't find out she was having unprotected sex until she was already preg. and as far as me teaching my child morals, I have taught my child everything I could have about the rights and wrongs about life and other people, I guess I left out the part about trusting and believing a ******* jerk-off!! And he is a loser, he doesn't go to school, he has lost all credits, he has been in trouble with the law most of his life, he is not even allowed in his parents house alone. I did not let my child go anywhere with this loser. I tried to keep her from him and it only pushed her to him. I don't care if he is only 17, he made this baby and he should have to step up. NOW!

Answer 1

uh no, there is a statuate of limitations, they are only two years a part and he isn't even 18 so NO!!!!

Answer 2

Well here is the harsh truth because of the 2yr law meaning once you hit (18) you can not date or have sex with any one 2yrs younger than you and if you are (17) you can not date or have sex with any one that is more than 2yrs younger or older than you so no you can not have him arrested however you can take him to court over child support which will fore him to have to get a job or serve time for failure to pay

Now the tough question for you are you going to make you daughter keep the baby or is adoption or you becoming a new mother on the table you need to look at all the factors in the equation it is not solely the guys fault that you daughter is pregnant and she had something to do with it to so you need to be looking at punishing her just as much as you want to punish him

Just so you know if you go with abortion she doesn't have to have his consent to have it
However if she goes with adoption you will have to have his signature on the papers agreeing to place the child up for adoption or else him to take over full financial responsibility the moment the child is born



To all of you telling her to file rape charges you are absolutely incorrect filing false charges if the sex was consensual will do nothing but get her in trouble and once the baby is born he has a legal right to see the baby no matter what grandmother thinks so unless she can get a court to find him a threat which is unlikely she will have to find some way to come to terms with this

Answer 3

Whether you can take legal action against him depends on the laws in your area. (You don't say whether you're contemplating legal proceedings about the under-age issue or the potential lack of child support.) Whether it would be a good idea to have him arrested is an entirely different question.

Lots of people who are now OK seemed to be total losers at 17. Don't judge people too harshly.

However, if he's going to be a good provider for your daughter and grandchild he should go back to school, not be out looking for a job. Anyone who has left school at seventeen is always going to have limitations of income, unless they win the lottery or something.

My advice is to urge him to get back into studying, not threaten him with prison. At the least, at his age he should be learning a trade or skill that will provide him with a reasonable income in the future.

BTW, if everyone who ever did pot was taken off the streets, there would be no middle class left!

Answer 4

holy crap she's only 11!!! I'm sorry I don't mean to sound rude but you let her go out with a 17 year old!!! I don't really know how to respond to that. But anyways I guess I should help. Well I would NOT let her live with this 17 year old boy. I also would not let her still see him. Once the baby is born, just teach her some skills and then just make it seem like it's her little brother/sister. There's nothing else you can do.

Answer 5

It really depends on the law in your state. I would think that you could get rape charges on him, as well as, make him support the baby. But in doing so, the judge will probably ask you, why you didn't stop your 15 year old from having sex, where were you while the act was taking place, why you didn't know what your 15 year old daughter was out doing, etc... It might be hard to prove your case if your daughter says she consented to having sex with this guy. I do know that the judge will order him (or his parents) to pay child support (more likely him). But again the rape charges depend on the law in your state, as well as, what kind of judge you get. The judge might think you are neglectful if you aren't prepared to answer his questions for you, so be prepared. I wish you the best.

Answer 6

Don't place all of the blame on the guy, he sounds like a big loser, but hey, your daughter chose to get pregnant by him. Since he also isn't over the age of consent then you cannot have him prosecuted for having sex with your daughter. You and your daughter can file for child support though, and it will be awarded to you. But that doesn't really mean much, men skip out on child support payments all the time and not much is done about it. Good Luck, after your daughter gives birth make her get the birth control shot or something or she'll end up pregnant again.

Answer 7

I don't think you should try to put him in jail. Your daughter had sex too...if he didn't force her, she's just as responsible for it as he is. It's not fair to put him in jail. And I really don't think you would get very far with only having sex with your daughter as a case. And a lot of young kids smoke pot. It doesn't make them a "loser", it's just not a good choice. I agree that you should try to encourage him to get a job and take care of his child. And when your daughter is old enough to get a job, she should also. You should be most concerned with helping your daughter, but you should also encourage them to stay together and take responsibility for their upcoming baby. Down the road, a baby will most likely help shape both of them up. If they both try to make things work, when they're in their 20's things could be a LOT better. They could be married (or at least together still) and responsible with a beautiful 5 year old.

Answer 8

What are you trying to do here? There's only a two year difference between them. You know good and well there's nothing illegal about that.
And if he's such a loser, why did you allow your daughter to run around with him anyway?
Too little too late lady. You should have kept a better eye on your daughter.

Answer 9

This same thing happened with my sister and my mom tried to file charges against the guy she was with. It honestly depends what state you live in. In the state of Utah (obviously where I am) if you are 15 and older, you can be with someone under the age of 18. If youre 18 and older, you can be with someone up to 10 years older then you. Id look online at your states laws or make a few phone calls. It really just depends on where you live.

Answer 10

Since he is under the age of 18 there is nothing you can do.But you can get child support from him when the child is born.And he will have to pay or he will end up in jail until he pays his child support.Sorry to hear your young daughter is pregnant.But the good news is you will be a grandmother and have a bundle of joy in your home soon.I would not worry about the boy right now and just help your daughter and be there for her and start planning for the arrival of your first grandchild.

Answer 11

probably not!
I understand where you're coming from though. I feel your pain. Sadly, he won't change until he's ready to change. That's the hardest thing to accept, trust me. Just continue to support your daughter (I hope she's doing right). If you've always supported her and she respects that and you, she'll appreciate that...and you shouldn't have to worry about her being a great mother...even if she has to do it alone. 15 is pretty young, but sometimes parenting grows us up and matures us a lot. My mother is against having pre-marital sex, let alone having a child out of wedlock. I had my son out of wedlock (wasn't that young though). She has always supported me. Now, til this day she brags about me, my accomplishments, and parenting styles. So, you see support really helps...especially after dealing with the guilt of having a child out of wedlock. I have apologized to my mother, over the years, for the hurt and pain I've caused her...and she continues to reassure me by saying she's proud of me, even as a single-parent and that she knew that she could trust me. My son's dad has been dead-beat since he was 2. But I continue to provide my son the best...and I PROMISE he won't become another statistic. Hope everything works out for you. Congratulations! You get to watch a new little life begin. Best wishes....

-Lady_wisdom