My wife and I argued so I left. When I returned home I found the door locked. I forcefully entered my house, through the door, while she was calling the police. I was charged with domestic violence because she wrote out and signed a peice of paper saying she was in fear of her safety.
Now, my wife is remorsefull and just wants me to come home. We have a history of arguing and calling the cops but no physical violence.
My wife and I will never be the same again. This over zelous police officer has turned our lives upside down. What can I do to keep this police officer from wrongfully taking anyone else to jail?
I went to araignment and pled not guilty. I'll be at the lawyers office friday.
Anyone have anything similiar happen? Please help.
2007-05-24 00:08:07 · 9 answers · asked by john p 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have to totally agree with Suzie! You two are asking the police to interfere and then when they do you don't like it. You two need to stop calling the police for your arguments (your like little kids fighting and going to your parents about it, like tattle-tailing). If you two can't work out your problems without having to call the police, then you need to grow up or split up!
2007-05-24 00:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have to concur with the above posters; it is not normal or healthy for either of you to be involving the police in your personal squabbles and if either of you feel the need to, then there is something seriously wrong in your relationship. By either of you calling the police, you choose to make what should be a private matter a public one.
The police officer was just following procedure and as your wife chose ot file a Complaint against you. Police see domestic disputes all the time where they start out as arguments and as the parties get a comfort level of how much yelling, screaming and demeaning each other, what may have once just been that escalates into increasing violence.
As your wife has already signed the Complaint, the Prosecutor is not going to need her cooperation or testimony to pursue the matter further if they choose to do so, especially as there is a history of calls to the police for domestic matters in the past. The good news is that if you did not lay a hand on her and there is no evidence of actual violence, your attorney can likely work out a Plea Agreement where you complete either anger management or marriage counseling and after successfully completing a program the charges could be dropped.
The important thing will be for you and your wife agree to never involve the authorities again because you do manage to get out of this with no criminal charges and you/she continues the pattern, then if you do, one or both of you are likely to end up in jail.
2007-05-24 01:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the police officer just got fed up at being called out every time you and your wife argue. Having constant arguements, and then calling the police is not a sign of a very healthy marriage. If you want to continue being married to each other, I would suggest that you go to counselling, and try to discover the reason for you constant arguing . You should also learn how to settle your own problems, instead of calling the police, who are not marriage counsellers. I have never been in that situation, but am sure that your wife can, if she wants, withdraw the case against you. Please find yourselves some help, so that this does not happen again.
2007-05-24 04:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by sparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get marriage counseling fast show the court that you are at least willing to work with some kind of therapy.. You now have a bad rep with the police, anytime a woman call the cops and use the word FEAR.... You are screwed they are going to want to protect this woman at all cost.. OK so get your wife and your self in to some kind of therapy fast...They are not going to leave you alone till you guys stop calling the cops.. Is their jobs is what they are there for. The police didn't turn your life upside down you guys did with all the arguing and fights.
I hope you consider what I suggest. It will help. Good luck.
2007-05-24 01:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To bad your wife signed something to incriminate you. Just go speak to the Prosecuting attorney and see if he will drop the charges. And if he or she does not.Then have your wife to not testify against you. She does not have to testify against you at all. she may be supeened to go to court when the time comes. Tell her to take the fifth when it comes time for her testimony. Without a wittiness, they have no case! Period! Your wife has the right to tell them she wants to take the fifth. And take it all the way to a jury trial if you know good and darn well that you are being harassed by an officer and when the jury sees that your wife doe snot want to testify they will drop it more then likely or reduce the charges. Good Luck to you and Don't get the police involved again. Unless the two of you really do need the Police then that's great! Just my opinion is all. Glad to help out!
2007-05-24 00:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by SecretUser 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a history of arguing and calling the police - and this is some how the police officers fault? Your wife wrote out a paper that said she feared for her safety - and this is some how the police officers fault?
Are you out of your mind? This police officer was not "over zealous" he was doing his job! You and your wife need to get your lives together and stop calling the police for stupid reasons. Do you not see anything wrong with the way you two are behaving? Calling the police, locking each other out, writing statements claiming to be in fear of your safety..........the only people to blame in this situation are yourselves!
2007-05-24 00:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by Susie D 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First off don't blame the police officer. You need to understand that he/she see's these situations all the time and the majority of domestic violence cases the woman gets the crap beat out of her and that makes them sick, especially if they could have done something to stop it from happening again. What they don't know is the relationship between yourself and your wife. If she decides to drop the charges then the case is dropped. Just keep in mind that the more the police are called for domestic issues, the worse you and your wife will appear in all criminal justice entities. pull it together bud.
2007-05-24 00:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by alice in wonderland 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mate, the police officer is not the one who argues with your wife all the time and gets kicked out of the house! Dont worry about him, its you who needs help. In this day and age there are plenty of organisations you can turn to for help. As a man I know this can be difficult to do, but it is worth it! Make up and live in peace, what is there to argue about? If you REALLY love this woman you both should be able to sort out your differences carmly. If not, get out and find your true love. Cheers and good luck.
2007-05-24 00:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by petermrlw 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I should let it go to court if i was you then the truth will come out under cross examination .your wife could also have the charges dropped if she realy wanted them to be.but if you get cleared in court i suggest that you have the police frce for wrongfull arrest.as for your wife she broke the law when shelocked you out of your home especisly as she did not have a court order to keep you away from the home.as both your names are on the rent book or on the deeds of the house and this gives you as much right to be their as she does .but if you are guilty of beating up your wife then i hope they throw the book at you .by the way mental cruelty also comes under domestic violence to so think about it.because if you are inocent then this is what she has done to you.
2007-05-24 00:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by joan_tipton 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋