I get upset easily with the things which i dont like ? How to control my anger and remain calm?

Answer 1

Try to see the other side of the coin. Find silver lining in dark clouds. You will have patience and when that comes you will feel relaxed even in an adverse situation.You calmness will return when you philosophise over the rudeness. You should do some yoga as well.

Answer 2

Getting upset is a part of human tendency so there is nothing bad about it but to cheer yourself up on them you should take the tasks which u don't like as challenges.
For staying calm,take a break and chill urself.After this think cool-mindedly of the things which annoy u.Do not try to reason urself right every time as the other person may also be right and try to overcome ur anger and accept the fact.
If u are right then try to convince others.Do not ruin ur own mood if the other person is at guilt.

Answer 3

I've dealt with anger issues a lot in my life, but every day I seem to be getting better. Here are a few suggestions.

First, determine why it is you are getting angry. It is a normal reaction, do not be frustrated with yourself, as this will only exacerbate the problem. But when you pinpoint /why/ you are angry, as opposed to what is making you angry, you can begin to understand how to not be angry.

I wouldn't suggest avoiding situations that are going to make you angry, as that's completely unrealistic. However, I would say that you should be able to define your limits. If you are in a conversation and you can feel the anger building, be honest with the person and let them know that you need to cool down, that if the situation continues your anger is going to escalate and you don't want that to occur.

Take deep breaths. It sounds corny, but honestly, if you focus on just your breathing, your heart beat, it will calm you down. Let the tension slip away with every breath, allow yourself to relax.

Try to find humour in situations where it is appropriate. Sometimes laughing is my favourite way to deal with issues that normally would have pissed me off to no avail. Life doesn't always have to be serious. In fact, it's a lot more enjoyable when it isn't.

Finally, there may be other factors that are contributing to your anger. I don't want to speculate or make a judgement call, but external things like drug or alcohol abuse can effectively create an individual who is very prone to explode quickly.

I wish you the best of luck in your searches. One last suggestion is to find an outlet for your energy, something creative (or destructive) that is not harmful to yourself or others. Meditation also does wonders.

Answer 4

i also have the same problem as u and i don't think its really easy 2 control anger and remain calm. u can try to ignore those situations by involving yourself in other jobs.u should close your eyes and think about something u like.
you should make up your mind that u'll not get upset.drink water quickly. these tips can b beneficial if u remember them when u r angry otherwise these r of no use

this has worked 4 me nd hope it works 4 u too

Answer 5

Anger is one thing which all of us can't control. But yes there are solutions. The first and obvious answer is to develop more compassion, and before reacting to a situation, take a few seconds. Watch yourself, watch your reaction every instant. That's the best way. And apart from that, practice meditation and also a lot of pranayama. It will surely help. But the best thing to do is start watching your thoughts and reactions. Be an observer.

Answer 6

A kite can not fly independently and unless there is a string, non one can control the kite. human is like that, sometimes a string-less kite. All our actions and experiences are based on our thoughts and ideas of life. Unless there is an aim, search for a goal, emotions are taking controls over us. One who has an aim in life would be having one/tenth of mistakes than one ordinary person. Have an aim - a small aim after which another aim. Be active, don't pay attention to things which do not contribute something to our future.

Answer 7

Sorry for your nature. You should read different types of good author books relative to social life - religious. When you get more knowledge you will start understanding others on their basic need, mental status and the situation in which they tell or act.
And I am quite sure that you will slowly make them understand which you think the right one.
Sorry again, but, you will definitely overcome with your anger.

Answer 8

Well, I'm a lot like you. The tiniest things trigger my anger. The one thing that angers me the most is when my fellow classmates act stupid or when they try to cheat off my papers and get angry when I don't let them. When these incidents occur I simply have to close my eyes and count back from 10. I've actually had a teacher, my favorite one at that, come over to me and tell me I look like I'm going to punch a person I'm angry at. It was actually very funny.

Answer 9

I had a bad temper. I taught myself to recognise things that triggered it and avoid them or prepare myself for them if I could not, and eventually few things trigger my anger. Make getting angry a conscious process, not a reflex.

Answer 10

just do yoga.or if u are not able to control go to one room and lock the door and sleep.... if not say some thing or think something in ur mind which makes u happy.i think this is the solution