first year she do good job. but now not so. She take care my baby from birth. and she stay and sleep in my house. sometimes she like to use my things (cosmetics, eat my foods etc). Now she very often to do not polite. Should I say the hard words to her?
2007-05-23 23:57:10 · 4 answers · asked by angel a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Are you doing anything at all to upset her? Do you treat her as a person or as a household appliance? Do you treat her like she's beneath you? How about this, sit down and ask her if she needs to talk to you. If she does then LISTEN. When she's done then it's your turn to talk. Understanding comes from being "on the same page" so to speak.
2007-05-24 00:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First try and find out if anything is bothering her. She might have some personal problem with her own family. Or maybe you hurt her in some way, and you don't know.
I had many sleep in maids in my time. Some after a while start feeling like you can't get along without them, so they take advantage.
One of them while I was away for 10 days on vacation with my husband had a real good time when I was gone. She wore my clothes, slept in my bedroom and had some company over and ruined my dining room table. She had put a hot dish on it and it left a large round mark on the finished wood table.
I would start looking around for another housekeeper on her day off if you are not satisfied once you talk things out. Even if she has family problems which is sad, she is still your employee. It does not matter if she is your mothers age. She should treat you with respect, as you should her. You hired her as a housekeeper, you have your family to deal with and that should be your first priority.
2007-05-24 07:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My god thats worse then trying to make out what an illegal is trying to say when they are in a rush! what is Flatus? Did you mean fart or flatulate? Fact is people fart everyone farts from the day you are born until the day you die you will fart get over it atleast she's not standing there telling you to sniff it or giggling about it. As for her using your things, she wouldnt be using them had you not given her permission atleast one time. Eat your food, she's a live in nanny when we had live in nannies they were more then welcome to consume the food in our home because lets face it the salary we pay them for living with us isnt as high as we'd pay if they came and went from our home since room and board are figured in when determining their salary. If you want her to stop eating your food increase her salary so that she can buy her own and give her more time off away from the kids and house so that she can go buy it. You said she's the same age as your mother and raised your child then give her some respect.
2007-05-24 07:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you are concerned with the way she is acting, sit her down. Tell her the good things about her work. Then calmly tell her that there are a few things that you would like to see changed. List them and tell her that you appreciate her cooperation in this matter.
Thank her for her service and you are in business!!
2007-05-24 07:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋