Do You Vilify, Belittle, Humiliate, Insult, Degrade, Demean and Objectify others for Your own ends? Are You the sort of person who is 'strong' enough to let others suffer for Your beliefs?How far would You go in order to get everything that You wanted?When was the last time You lied about another person in order to get an advantage?Do You really care if I ask these questions? Do You really care about Your answers?
Someone just told Me that She is prepared to do "anything" in order to further Her career and get to the top of Her chosen profession. She is a lawyer. Do You think She knows what it would take?
2007-05-23 22:54:13 · 10 answers · asked by Ashleigh 7 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I put this question in the "Women's Studies" section rather than "Psychology" for the very simple reason that You get a better class of response from the participants here than You would from a group of "psuedo-psychologists". Genuine people invariably give honest answers.
2007-05-24 18:07:24 · update #1
Wow - finally an insightful, thought-provoking question!
This should really be in 'Psychology' not 'Women's Studies'.
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As for your question:
I personally do not seek empowerment at the expense of others, but am well aware that I am capable of doing that. Most people are.
This is something that I see around me all of the time. I see it more daily in form of passive-aggression. People making snide, jokey comments that, on the surface, seem harmless, but they are constructed in such a way that the person who is delivering the 'joke' or 'comment' is not seen to be out-rightly attacking another person's character. It is much more subtle and insinuating rather than blatant assault.
It's a production of a person's ego. A person who cannot handle full-out confrontation will try to climb the hierarchy of any given social setting through subtle belittling.
People in the general social forum will not even notice these tactics, and often the aggressor will not know they are doing it either. In reality, it is the sign of a weak mind if a person has to resort to these tactics. Also, they do not normally hack high-stress combative situations, as they cave very easily when the spotlight shows their own weaknesses.
I prefer honest, up-front communication. I say exactly what I feel and that leaves no room for ambiguity. Everyone knows where they stand with me.
Anyway - good question!
2007-05-24 03:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by Feta Smurf 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know someone who has a very powerful job and has met a lot of politicians and powerful businesmen alike. He says that of all the professionals he's met, the lawyering profession is the only one where he has seen more bad than good.
In order to rise to the top of the top I think there's no question you would need to do things to differentiate yourself from others, and if you're a moral person those things might make you question yourself, but I don't think you actually have to cross the line of immorality.
2007-05-24 02:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by Thom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my career, the climb upwards revealed much about myself. I was not married at the time, and had no children, so I could commit myself fully. And it paid off...I achieved my goal. But to what end? I had no friends left and no one at home.
This is the plight of many who choose an aggressive career path. But those are personal sacrifices and do not directly impact others. The climb to the top is only satisfying if you can stand up there - perhaps alone - but can look back and say that you hurt no one in the process and don't regret any of your actions.
2007-05-24 02:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The only people I am aware of at the top have steam rolled through everyone. But some people think that Oprah is loving and innocent and never used anyone to get to the top. Now, is that possible?
2007-05-28 15:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by observing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For those that are prepared to do 'anything' to get to the top should also be prepared for a very miserable, lonely life. If that's what they want, so be it.
You wouldn't catch me doing that, I'd rather live a happy life somewhere in the middle than be lonely at the top.
Regards, Penny xxx
2007-05-24 00:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by Vanessa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course not! For my part, I'm trying to make feminism a master morality, not a slave morality that has to rely on the something else being bad (or evil first).
Being strong in oneself means not having to do something so foolish as to make others feel bad.
(Sorry for expressing it in Nietzschean terms but... it's what I often do.)
2007-05-24 01:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't. I empower myself as best as I can without stepping on anyone else's feet. This woman you're talking about sounds like the stereotypical "bitchy boss." She should watch herself.
2007-05-24 07:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a caring sweetheart. But even if she attains her goals, will she be happy?
2007-05-24 09:53:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we live vicariously through her
2007-05-24 08:57:50 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-05-23 22:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by booge 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋