I want to avenge, my ex-wife has cheated on me, and now she thinks she can be free, with hurting me and my kid

Question

She has hurted my kids as well, I do not understand. She had everything she could want. I have spent time and all I could give to her.

Answer 1

Tucker down fireball - you aren't going to hurt anyone but yourself and your children with back and forth coo coo vengeful behavior.

Answer 2

You are in dangerous territory my friend. Revenge is never the answer. What if you lose control and end up in prision? That will really hurt your kids. I know first hand how painful it can be when a spouse cheats. The very best thing that you can do is let her go. Let her go and try to have a relationship that is civil at least for your kids sake. I know it's hard to imagine doing this right now, but it will get easier over time. Just don't do anything stupid. Start working out if you don't already to get out some of the agression. That really helps. Good luck!

Answer 3

Yeah, well, if she's your ex-wife, guess what, she doesn't just think she can be free, she IS free. Sorry to hear about the hurt she caused you and your kids and all, but them's the breaks. Stop wasting your time with pointless thoughts of revenge. Instead, focus on building a future for yourself and your children, and some day, you will meet someone new to be happy with.

Answer 4

whatever you do, you must still be a strong role-model for your children. make sure and let them know they had nothing to do with why their mother is being this way and that you will always be there for them. Let them know you are hurting also, but that you are all going to get through this together.

I am sorry your wife has done this to you. The more time you are spending thinking of revenge, is the more time your children will see an unhappy father.

I know it is so much more easier said than done... and the wounds are still very raw right now so you just have to take things one step at a time.

Answer 5

Rather than worrying about your ex, it seems to me the best thing you can do is focus on being a good dad, a positive role model for your child. Move forward and don't get caught up in the past.

You say she had everything she could want, but obviously that's not the case. For whatever reason, your relationship wasn't what she wanted. Concern yourself with making the next one what you both want, not avenging a dead marriage.

Answer 6

Please think about the consequences of your actions.....even from your child's prospective. Be a role model and be the better person from this point on. Two wrongs don't make a right is what my mother taught me.

I KNOW its easier said than done...and believe me...I am talking from experience....I am not giving you a bunch of fluffy chat here.
Give it some time....it will ease the betrayal you feel...the pain is still there but it does ease over time....for me its been 6 years. In those six years i have moved on and made a better life for myself..I have found someone who loves me and appreciates the kindness I give him and we enjoy each other immensely......please focus on the future...don't waste your energy on the past......you seem to be a good hearted person with a broken heart....start mending it.

I hope you think before you act.
Take care

Answer 7

Cool it hot pants: so who are you going to hurt, the next guy, or what, it's going to snowball down the line and, maybe the next guy is going to have a diamond ring on his finger and his name is going to be Leroy Brown or he's going to have a Razor in his sock, get the picture sweetheart?

There's no sense to what she did but, there's also no sense to what your saying either. Make yourself the better man and end it right there for the kids and you. Tell yourself your better than her. Give her the benefit of the doubt.
Ask her what her problem is, what she wants? if it's a divorce? what? you'll forgive and forget, this time, she's got a "freebee" this one time, and one time only. Don't look for this other guy, don't ask his name, don't even try and find out his name. It'll only create trouble down the line.

Answer 8

When you say "she had everything she could want" are you talking about material things only? I hope not! Because men are often obsessed about "providing" and they forget that women need more than that. What should I do with clothes, jewelry and money if I'm lacking love and tenderness?
If this wasn't your case at all, it means your a sensitive loving guy and she didn't deserve you anyway. You're way above revenge. Move on.

Answer 9

Revenge is a dish best served cold.

As mentioned before, sleep with as many of her friends as you can.

And start dating hotter and younger women and parade them around showing how much happier they make you then she ever did.

She may eventually try to comeback, but stay strong and kick her to the curb. Because if you forgive her and let her back in, she will have one and you will only prove that you have no balls.

Answer 10

You obviously did not give her everything she could want. There was at least one thing you did not give her. Otherwise she would still be there. Figure out your part in this. Correct this, and find the perfect woman. Don't waste time on revenge.

Answer 11

The best revenge is living well. Instead of concentrating on her, help your children get over their pain. Don't let them grow up miserable. Be a good father and a good man by loving your children and moving on with your life. There are other women in the world and one of them is waiting to love you. Don't ruin your chances with her. Get yourself together and move on. Best wishes!