My wie and I are getting divorced. She had a physical affair back in December. We got back together and then she abruptly changed her mind. The dishonesty has driven me crazy. She swears there is no one else. The because I snoop I found a message she evidently intended to send to a number but send it to her email.
It reads, "
-----Forwarded Message-----
>From: @message.alltel.com
>Sent: May 23, 2007 5:32 PM
>To:
>Subject:
>
>Maybe I could walk with u awhile, rest beneath ur smile, everybody
>stumbles now and then and needs a hand to hold... Its a long trip alone"
So do I confront her or leave it alone. This is I am almost certain to a lawyer she is in the works of a business deal with. I have suspected at least an emotional affair.
2007-05-23 21:22:22 · 14 answers · asked by ZenMonkey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if i were u i would just leave it alone........... i realize it must be hard but if u are splitting up anyway is there any point of dragging that up just for another argument????? at the end of the day u gotta do what u think is best no matter what people advise u on here........... it is ur life and do what u think is right.......... good luc..........xxx
2007-05-23 21:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have got two arguments to make. the first one is on the basis that u don't really know who that email was sent to. maybe it's a quote she heard somewhere and wanted to save it so she sent it to herself, i am saying maybe. or maybe she was going to send it to a friend, u never know. if u really love her,and feel that u could give this a shot, confront her. u will know if she is lying the minute u tell her. it shows, in her expressions, her level of anxiety, if she flips out, u'll know. at least then u would know in ur mind that u tried ur best, and it didn't work out because of her, and u r free of blame. the second argument is that why did she change her mind? she seems to be giving mixed signals, ending it and swearing she isn't seeing someone else. in any case though, i would think u should confront her. i wouldn't want to live with a doubtful conscience all my life, gnawing at me, thinking that i had a chance to right it all and didn't make an effort. just give it a go, u stand to lose nothing.
2007-05-23 21:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by naj.ss86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the point anyway? You're divorcing, right? So, who cares if she has an affair or not! Your marriage is over, so, just LEAVE HER. Move out and cut her out of your life: she obviously doesn't deserve you! She already cheated on you once and that LEGALLY will have a serious importance to decide the financial aspects of your marriage, so, don't bother dealing with her anymore!
2007-05-23 21:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by Love_my_Cornish_Knight❤️ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to confront her,fact is she had an affair, can you live with her the next 10 years knowing she did what she did ??
2007-05-23 21:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by aunt_webby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should confront her coz if u dnt, it will bug u for a long time. Confronting her is the only way u'll get answers from her and since she is ur wife, u shud b able to tell if she is lying to u or not. Trust ur gut feeling on this.
2007-05-23 21:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is playing games with you then you have nothing to lose id start off by saying something like i enjoyed the email that you sent me make her sweat a little I'm sure you've memorized it or you can confront her but gently or she ll be on the defensive and if she says something about your snooping try being honest about the trust issue.
2007-05-23 21:32:33 · answer #6 · answered by Idonotknowyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider the laws in your state first. I am from California. I know 20 men that are divorced. Of the twenty, two. my self and one other were not forced to declare bankruptcy. and I may yet.
2007-05-23 21:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by howtoms 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to a lawyer and present your facts to them and get the ball rolling. It doesn't sound like she is serious about staying together and she sure isn't trying to work things out with the two of you.
2007-05-23 21:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can make a copy and give it to your attorney. It sounds like poetry to me. And since she sent it to herself, she may have liked it and there may be nothing more to it. I am sorry, but, it really does not prove anything only your snooping through you wife's things and invading her privacy.
2007-05-23 21:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah confront her, be a man..
there are no rooms here for a girl like that
have divorce..she's just playing with you and does'nt care for you but instead she cares for her other man..
so think..
be a man dude
there's a lot of women out there who can eventually make you happier.
2007-05-23 21:27:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋