My boyfriends and i have talked about it for a while and now for a fact that whatever it takes we will get married. The problem is telling my parents. They already have a clue that we want to be married, but im not sure how they will react if i tell them we are wanting marriage now. I know he is the one. It hurts everyday when im not able to see him cuase i dont get to see him alot. I don't care if we live with my parents, and neither does he. We don't care about where we will be or what we'll have to do..we just want to be together,...but time is holding us back,..and we are afraid of what my parents would say or do about us getting married. I have one more year of school, and then ill go to beauty school for a year or so. He has a job already. I promise to focus on my school and career even if im married, becuase I want us to be able to move into a house oneday then have children. I just wish we could be married. Im not just another teen who thinks she's in love.what do i do...?
2007-05-23 20:38:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You actually are another teen who thinks she's in love. However, you may be correct.
How long have you been going out for? I mean, realistically, getting married at 16-17 is a pretty iffy thing to do. If you can commit to the idea of marriage, then you can commit to being together until you are both older, can't you?
Sorry if I come off as harsh, but it's a pretty bad idea.
2007-05-23 20:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by Enigmatarius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard because your looking at all these answers and thinking why are people answering like this, I know what I'm doing. Because they have and I have been there.You are to young and believe it or not your saying right now (NO I'M NOT) !! Remember this question on yahoo when your married, because you will go ahead and marry him because we are wrong. You will end up pregnant divorced and single because from your age now, and when you get older you change and it's hard to tell that to someone that is young now because they know everything. I know I did anyway. Just remember this answer to yahoo because you will look back and say everyone was right why didn't I listen. Your parents have nothing but your best interest at heart, and when you become a mother you will say why did I put my parents through all of that. How old is your boyfriend??? I'm know it's seems harsh to say these things and it seems hurtful, but I promise if you asked this question you should look at it that if there all the same that we probably are right about this. You will also regret not living your life at your age because as you get older you start thinking I missed out on alot and then you want to experience (I DID SO I KNOW) even though I was 25 and had twins I would done so much over if I could turn back time. PLEASE THINK ABOUT THIS IT'S A SIGN!!!
2016-05-21 08:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being minors, you will have to have your parents sign for you to be able to get married. I am sure that you seriously feel your feelings for each other are real. And that is good.
BUT....
If you don't care about where you will be or what you will have to do, then do not get married as this is NOT the words of a mature person.
You must have your plans just a tad more planned out than "we just want to be together". Remember, failing to plan is planning to fail.
Marriage is a BIG commitment. There will be times that are so bad and times that make all others worth it. Love is not the night before but the morning after with the dirty crappy diapers, dirty dishes, stinky laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc and most women work to boot. You want to go to school. Can you see yourself pregnant, tired and studying then coming home to do the above duties of a wife? What, you think he will do the chores? Think again. Most men don't. They come home and sit on their butts in front of the tv. Plus you have the added bonus of wondering if your husband will come home in a good mood and not complain about his low paying job (17 and in a good job? Doubt it) and blame you because most people blame the ones they love. And I do love my hubby but men that do 50% of the household obligations are few and far between.
Don't get me wrong, marriage is great WHEN there are two mature adults working at it. It takes a lot of work. Take a good look at this site. Read about all these people that are married and are cheating on their supposedly beloved spouses. I love my wife but I love my girlfriend more. See what I mean.
Just wait. Seriously. If it is meant to be, it will be. Don't rush into becoming an adult. You only have about 20 years to be a kid and hopefully with a long life, you get to be an adult for about 50-60 years. Enjoy your youth.
2007-05-23 21:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by califdreamer_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are way to young to be thinking about marriage. If you guys truly love each other then time will be on your side. Accomplish some things so that you guys will have some strong ties to bring to your relationship. Finish school, save some money accomplish some really important goals. With marriage comes responsibility, patience and endurance. Just enjoy being kids for now, hold on to what you have and if you guys are still together in a few years then work it all out then.
2007-05-24 01:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by mom4+3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait wait wait!
You do not want to be tied down with all this marital stuff,you are truly full of the feeling that you two are meant to be together but i am almost, actually,absolutely sure your folks will go crazy if you tell them that you are thinking of marriage.
It is now the time to be understanding yourself go to college perhaps earn a few dollars be self sufficient and then at 24 or above start thinking of a home.
You will not enjoy having another kid as your MAN,wait till you get a little bit older.
2007-05-23 21:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by papa askofu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but how long have you guys known each other? It might be a lil too early. Just try to live how you guys are living now. If you both can hold onto this, it shows that you are well capable and ready to marry. It shows that you both can wait for one another and go through hardships that you both may encounter. It makes it more fun when you don't see each other everyday b/c when you do see each other, it's exciting.
2007-05-23 20:45:42 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are just another teen who thinks she’s in love. And I don’t believe you’re anywhere near ready to be married. In my personal opinion, you do not sound mature enough to be married.
“It hurts everyday when im not able to see him cuase i dont get to see him a lot”
That’s not a reason to get married, and it’s not an indication that what you’re feeling is actually love.
“I don't care if we live with my parents, and neither does he.”
You don’t care about being responsible? That’s a child’s attitude. If you have to live with your parents, you’re not ready to get married.
Bottom line….assuming you live in the U.S.--if you’re under 18 you cannot get married without parental permission. And if you were my child you’d be hearing the word ‘NO’. But you’re not my child, so maybe your parents will not say ‘no’. All you can do is ask them.
2007-05-23 23:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some more time. You can't possibly know each other well enough for marriage, you are too young to know your self. Get out and date others, find out what you reallly want. You only think you know everything now. It won't be until you are older that you realize what I say is true. You don't want to rush into marriage and possibly have children with someone you are not compatible with, marriage and kids are hard enough with some one you are compatible with. Grow up first before you commit your life to someone else. Ask your parents what they think, they have lived a long time and know alot more than you do about life. Give them a chance to council you, listen to them.
2007-05-23 20:52:41 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it!!
I know exactly what you both are going trough, because 24 years ago I felt the same way abut my wife, we married at a young age I was 22 and she was 18 and freshly out of high school and now after 23 years of marriage we are now in the middle of a divorce, supposedly catholics are not supposed to divorce but here we are she wants to live and enjoy her freedom she never got when she married me right after high school, and if you don't believe me go by the statistics in which every young couple that marries young end up in divorce.
I know it hurts and its painfully not to see each other but its nothing like the pain of a divorce in a few years later. good luck in your decision.
2007-05-23 20:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by mabuloong 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say that, but you are a typical 16 years old girl. Marriage is nothing special, not in this age. Believe me, it is just a paper. Love is in your heart, love each other and enjoy to be together. If your love is strong enough, you can wait and marry later. We all were in the same age. I can understand you, but please believe me and don't make this big mistake. There is time to be an adult and to take responsibility..... Enjoy your time now.
2007-05-23 21:33:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋