Will I get a good guy to marry (well settled, good looking & very loving?

Question

I am 23yrs old, very beautiful. I got married in court when i was 18yr .the guy was good a little elder to me, but later wen V lived, V realised our difference of opinions, i was still ready to live wit hm, but hs financial standing was too weak & he nvr supported me, in other words, he was immature. I couldn't wait until he could get matured & change things. our parents realized our mistakes & V mutually got divorced within a year. Overall it wasn't a proper marriage also. My parents supported me a lot & never reminded me of the past. We had no children or anything. We didn't marry in church. Since then I continued working & lost interest to pursue a 2nd marriage. Now I am doing very well at work & holding a good post in an MNC. I have considered marrying in a proper way but I am not getting good proposals. Many of them come up with random matches, assuming my past to be some big crime. I want to marry a good looking man who is also doing well & god fearing. No online matrimony plz.

Prefer not to be given suggestions of shaadi.com or any other matrimony sites. They are more fraudlent than any other. I am to scared to register with these.

Answer 1

First thing which I have to digest from your statement you got divorced by mutual consent within one year of your marriage. Dear the very fact you say you got married in court then this must be a marriage under the Special Marriage Act, 1954, according to which any divorce by mutual consent can be taken only after one year of such marriage, & the final order of divorce is given only after 6months of filling of such divorce petition, no doubt the period of one year can be condoned on special cases, so we should say you got this one year period condoned for getting this divorce? The order regarding such condonation & decree of divorce must be with you as issued by the District court. If you never got married under the Special Marriage Act, 1954 but got married under the Christian Marriage Act, 1872 before the Marriage officer which is also considered court marriage by Indian Christians, as you say you never married in a Church then such a marriage is covered under the Indian Divorce Act, 1869 . So if in your case you married under the Indian Christian Marriage Act, 1872 how you say you are divorced & that too within one year as divorce under the India Divorce Act, 1869 itself provide few grounds for divorce & that too difficult to prove that it takes years to get a decree of divorce from the District court which is further confirmed by the High Court as it is only a decree nisi passed by the District court that too takes six months after such decree made by the District court. In all if such divorce happens under the Indian Divorce Act, 1869 it takes many years to finalize. Now after all this legal position first makes the fact about your first marriage & its dissolution very clear before you search for a new match. It hardly matters now you work in a MNC drawing a good salary, if the fact your first marriage has not been properly dissolved you cannot marry a second time at it will amount to bigamy which is a punishable offence under the Indian Penal Code,1860.

Answer 2

Its sad but the fact is that you have a history .... which will make most of the good guys as per your expectation run away from you .... and secondly it would not be advisable to hide your past from someone you are going to get married .... in normal circumstances to find a good match is so difficult ... and in your case a bachelor person accepting you proposal has to be angel .... the only right thing for you is to search for a well-settled divorcee/widower just like you ... its the only solution you got .... and why are you running away from matrimonial sites .... i am sure the proposals on the site are much better then your 1st husband .... remember in arranged marriage a girls age is very important to get a good proposal ... so don't just sit and wait for Mr. Right...

Answer 3

OF COURSE U WILL FIND A GUD MAN. but u will have 2 b patient &search for 1.
but u should b matured enough 2 realise that
1.good looks should not b one of r primary requirements.
2.one does not get everything in life. u have to compromise somewhere. if a person has 10 good qualities,he must be having 5 bad ones also. no human being is perfect.
3.seems to me that u r an indian. there r lot of people in india who take a lot of interest in other people's affairs.they have a opinion on every successful marriage,every unsuccessful one, & so on.[please learn 2 ignore such people.
u r doing well in yr career.there is no reason that u wont get a gud match.u r still very young. but please dont keep any bad feelings for yr ex husband.forgive him and forget. god bless u

Answer 4

You know your past is a problem and certain things cannot be undone. And if you are an Indian choice is even lesser, get rid of all your aprihensions first. Get into thos marriage portals it will help.

Before everything you need to first learn to prioratise relationship more than money and learn to adjust for in a myarriage there are lots to adjust between the man and woman and with the either of them's folks and there are going to be 101 difference of opinions and if you cannot adjust to it why ruin your life again??

Answer 5

Reading between the lines of your post, it sounds like the only qualification you described of yourself was: "I am very beautiful" and the first qualification of the person you want to marry was: "he needs to be handsome".
I maybe wrong but in your subconscious it seems like looks are very important and that's how you are getting into trouble. My best advice to you would be to wait a few years until you are a bit more mature and know what you want in life besides a husband and then try to find a mate. Otherwise you might run into the same problem you ran into the first time.
Good luck :)

Answer 6

Totally disagree. I'm not one who is full of myself, but I would say i am attractive....I've been hit on a lot and have had no problems meeting men. I am with the love of my life (I'm 31) and I would NEVER be unfaithful to him, or even THINK about it. He's a very attractive man, and it's obvious he attracts many women, too.....but I trust he will always be loyal to me, as well. We love each other and plan on growing old together. We both have kids from previous relationships...and a baby of our own on the way! He was faithful to his ex wife for 17 years, even though he was unhappy....and believe me, he could have any woman he wants....but his soul chose mine :)

Answer 7

From this you just sound cold. As if marrige is just the next logical step, not because you want to be in love and want to be with that person. All i can tell you is every woman wants that top 1 percent of men, so what do you have that the others don't? Bet your a good cook right :)

Answer 8

The fact that you consider that the proposals as not good shows that you have grown and when you see a right man you will be able to tell.So wait for the man that will accept you as you are and then you will be happy.Dont repeat the mistake you made.

Answer 9

Beautiful is not the only word to qualify a good woman. Make sure you have at least half of the attributes you are looking for in someone else.

Answer 10

hi Deanne,your question oozes plenty of immaturity itself, let me tell you how, if you've truly loved that boy you would have supported him in his bad times presuming at least you were working, in the mean time because of your love & support he would 've taken the initiative to find proper employment in order to support you financially, & you did'nt knew about him being insufficient to support you financially? on what basis you guys got married without being financially fit?did no one in the family told you about that?how can you just dump him?marriage is for keeps & is meant for matured people& as rightly said by vijay have you checked the legality of your divorce?after marriage you need to make lots of adjustments & here your MNC job & your goodlooks will fail to help.what if in your second marriage you find the guy who marries loses him job after marriage you will dump him?as a wife you need to support your husband in good times as well as bad times, this is what your marriage vows call for at the altar, your parents need to tell you a thing or two about how to make a marriage succesful,first get your priorities right before getting at the altar,maturity, understanding & sincerity makes amarriage successful,meet people who's marriage have lasted for years they will guide you, attend the marriage preparation course it will give you a proper insight about marriage.i am a christian from bombay,you need to develop patience