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i am of the school of thought that you dont push your decision on your near and dear ones....so i make it a point to explain the pros and cons of the decisions i make for now or for the future....but i find that my spouse is so unconvinced bout it...and even after we hav settled on an issue we are back to square one...it gives me a feel that its getting useless explaining her ..but seriously i dont like to push...are all girls the same????or is it shes listening just becuase she has too...and ultimately just push her thoughts no matter what????

2007-05-23 19:23:27 · 6 answers · asked by anand 4 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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hey dude .....you said you have decided.....so if you have decided than whats the point in dicussing over it.....just let the matter go.....your spouse should be fine...........(may be fingers crossed)..............ultimately your spouse loves you...........don't forget.............."love is scarifice to see your partner happy"

2007-05-26 02:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by sonu 1 · 0 0

I agree that there's no sense in being pushy and I also prefer to use the rational approach of detailing the process I used to weigh the pros and cons of a decision.

If your spouse does not respond well to you explaining the pros and cons of your decisions, I would recommend that you either try to explain your reasoning in a different way and/or have an open and honest discussion with your spouse about communication styles. Some people need more information when making a decision or feeling comfortable with someone else's decision, others do not.

Also, if you're approaching the situation by making the decision and then later discussing it with your spouse, you might want to try discussing the problem BEFORE you make any decisions that affect both your lives. Part of the responsibility of being in a relationship is that you don't always have to make decisions on your own so it's important that communication begins early and stays constant and open throughout the duration and after the resolution of problems and conflicts.

2007-05-24 02:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by Sue DeNyme 2 · 1 0

Perhaps you are not actually settling the issue. Maybe she is only backing off, but still feels strongly about the issue. You sound like two very strong-willed people. Marriage is give and take. One of you will have to give in, in the event of a disagreement, or you will have to compromise. Don't make the mistake of thinking that it is over just because she quit talking about it for the moment. She may be trying to think of a compromise or another strategy to convince you that she is correct.

2007-05-24 02:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1 0

I think it depends on the topic. If we are arguing about where to go for dinner I think there is some room for being persuaded. If we are talking about a huge decision like whether to have children or moving half way across the country I think both parties really need to make sure that they are being heard and the decision still needs to be made together to the best of your abilities.

2007-05-24 02:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by opalescent_angel 5 · 0 1

Oh contrary, you are pushing your thoughts on her and then upset when she does not agree. Be happy you are married to a woman that thinks for herself, I am sure she hears your pros and cons, just doesn't agree with your final decision.

2007-05-24 02:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0 1

well this question has me totally confused, so the answer is ........A. or is it True?
2 points

2007-05-24 02:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by Patrick G 4 · 0 1

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