i have a boyfriend and i am in a relationship with him for a year and a half now. and there is this guy. he was after me for years til now and never give up although i asked him to. so, it happens that there was once i was really down and facing this huge problem. my boyfriend didnt sense that there is something wrong with me. he went to bed very early and left me alone. i didnt disappointed because i am the one who didnt tell him i am having problems. but the thing is, this guy, he sensed that i was down immediately after chatting with me for like only a few minutes. i felt that he is really sinsitive and very caring. he even sent a song i really love to cheer me up. he had been there for me for years but i have never had any feelings towards him. but this time, i really felt touched and started to notice his care and love for me. am i falling for him? or am i just touched because he cared for me more than my bf do? what should i do with this feeling?
2007-05-23 19:01:07 · 11 answers · asked by colver 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I really dont think youre falling for him. Most guys cant tell emotions. However there are a few that can. I think that this other guy was just there in your time of need and you feel since your boyfriend wasnt it doesnt make him a good boyfriend. This other guy just lent a sympathetic ear and that makes you feel good. This good be mistaken for having feelings for him. You say youve never had feelings for him before, so you probably dont now. Did you tell this other guy that your boyfriend just went to bed? He may have heard that and needed to act upon it thinking he might get to you by saying sweet things when your boyfriend didnt. Maybe your boyfriend did know how you were feeling and thought maybe you just want to be left alone. You should talk to him and tell him how you feel and that you want to talk and not be left alone. If this other guy has respect for you, hed let you be because he knows you love your current boyfriend and are happy with him. Ive been in the exact situation but a friend told me to talk to my boyfriend about it and he said that he thought I wanted to be left alone. When guys have problems or are down, a lot of time they just want to be left alone, as my boyfriend said he did when he felt that way, so they assume you do to. Dont let this other guy ruin your relationship. Talk it out!
2007-05-23 20:50:03 · answer #1 · answered by MyLilAubrey6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just a little bored with your boyfriend right now. Life is full of disappointment everyday and you will have lots of days like that. You can't just turn to someone else every time that happens. Men are not all that aware of emotions a lot of the time. You are right about one thing you have to talk to him or he won't know! This other guy has been after you a long time you said & he is still at it. How many other women does he pay attention too? Some men are just opportunist that's just what they do. I think you should go to your man and make him aware how you are feeling, Maybe you can talk about it. If you get married to him or anyone that is just what you do!!!!!! Don't throw away a long relationship cause of communication problems TALK!!!!!!!
2007-05-23 19:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love means care, feeling and all those stuff that make u feel supported by someone.
I don't think yr curent bf is caring that much.As you may have noticed it, the other guy is caring for along time and now you are so touched.There is somethng u admire from him.Yes, u r falling for him and it can happen that u break up with the current bf beacause,later on you will see him careless and not loving him anymore! Good luck!
2007-05-23 19:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should decide if your present boyfriend is the right one for you. Forget about this other guy for now - concentrate on your boyfriend. If you decide he isn't the person for you - and it sounds like you have some doubts - then break up with him.
You're probably going through a lot of issues right now and it's important to decide if your boyfriend is going to be there for you.
The other guy may still end up being a good friend for you, but don't start playing one against the other in your mind.
2007-05-23 19:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by Shaky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one....Maybe you should talk with your bf about how you are feeling...maybe not about the other guy if you dont want to bring him up...but about the fact that you feel that he doesnt come to your side when you are down...and he doesnt seem to realize how you are feeling. There is nothing wrong with talking with the other guy and just seeing how you really end up feeling about him...maybe you have had a change of heart...but definately talk with your bf and see if he realizes he hasn't been there as much when you needed him because you are feeling down. I hope you figure it all out...but dont make any rash decisions...feel out the other guy and see if your feelings are true, because its a good possibility.
2007-05-23 19:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, i love the fact that you noticed that. I think the other guy is for you. Most people have a hard time judging who is best for them so your not alone. Its always hard to realize when its time to let go but the other guy has been waiting for you and will appreciate you so much more. that's my guy perspective on it. Good luck. The hardest part is going to be tieing loose ends with your b/f.
2007-05-23 19:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by Tony F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will be in love with an unbeliever or somebody with completely diverse non secular perspectives. even if, it is what God says approximately that undertaking. 2Cr 6:14 Be ye no longer unequally yoked alongside with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath easy with darkness? a marriage between a believer and an unbeliever could be perplexing and young ones could be born and raised in a house devoid of business enterprise initiating in Christ.
2016-10-05 22:57:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Bokkie everybody goes through that in thier relationships, you just needed some1 to care for your feelings! you don't love him you admire him for noticing that you have problems, and as a friend that he is he is just looking out for thats all, thatys what friends do!
2007-05-23 21:31:39 · answer #8 · answered by Shy Kaapie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he was so nice to that you were touched let the feeling go and be more open to your man.
2007-05-23 19:10:06 · answer #9 · answered by Adrianne R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone-------if the person cares so much---why is he disrespecting your man?
2007-05-23 19:05:46 · answer #10 · answered by destine4_69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋