I went to graduate school 600 mi from home. My mom made me feel SO guilty about "leaving her." I came back for 2 yrs to get married and now I am in dental school in the same city 600 mi away from home.
This past time when my mom started making me feel guilty for moving, I started having these horrible dreams every night where I was being chased and no matter what I did, I couldn't run away fast. Eventually the person chasing me would grab me and I couldn't fight back. Then I would wake up.
One day, the dreams were gone. So was my guilt. No matter how much I love my family or how much I hated to leave them, I had no more guilt. I couldn't even cry when my mom's tears started pouring out.
Do you think my nightmares had to do with guilt? and secondly, how can guilt just go away? Thanks
2007-05-23 17:59:07 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Ok, what I am going to say you may not like, but it's the truth and will eventually help you. Ready?
Your mom is a master manipulator and is damaging your life. You need to find some courage and deal with this woman head on. What to do? You need to sit down with dear old mom and say that you have a life, she has hers, its time for her to cut the apron stings and let you live.
This is a very sick relationship, she is not allowing you to grow up. She is being very selfish and controlling. Stop her now before she ruins your marriage and your life. Guilt goes away when we realize we have people in our lives that are creating situations to make us miserable and we deal with them, not allowing them to control or manipulate us any longer.
Get some counseling, she has been doing this all of your life and it has had an affect on you that will rob you of a happy life.
2007-05-23 18:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guilt is a powerful tool. It's your life to live by your choices and once you know that, in confidence, chances of your nightmares descinagrating are high.
2007-05-24 01:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by e_u_banana_breath 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋