I have a daughter who is 2 (His stepdaughter)
I have been with my current Boyfriend/Fiance for 7 years and he is still married to his ex wife because she refuses divorce...and he feels threathened by her. So do I.
He has 2 sons (my stepsons) , age 13 and 17 and he pays for everything they need including the proper food. Is She entiled to half of our new business that we started 3 months ago?????????
The new business is starting to go very well!! ( A dream come true).
I am nervous that she may have some rights, I do not know about and will act on them.
We are finally able to make a better life so we can take better care of the children and send them to university.
Also, can I be his fiance if he is still technicially married on paper.????
2007-05-23 17:55:30 · 15 answers · asked by Katz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You remain with a guy who doesn't have the decency nor balls to divorce, yet he wants to still play house while legally married? Interesting.
He can not marry you, until he divorces her. How you expect to marry him? Commit polygamy?? He has to divorce her sometime.
That "sometime" was yesterday to do so!
Seven years is now an excuse of pure laziness.
You should not be threatened by her. Stand up and divorce her.
If she refuses the divorce, take her to court and the courts will finalize it. She doesn't have to agree, to make a divorce happen you know.
Plus, if he is filing separate on tax's legally and the separation is legal by law, then no she does not have obligations to the company.
He is a wonderful dad to have such involvement. However, the children remain to be paid for their great education etc. Not her be paid the money to do so, get what I mean?
You can be his fiance. but you can not be his wife until he divorces the first one.
2007-05-23 19:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She would have 50% of his share if his name is on the business. Technically as long as he is still married you would not be considered his fiance by the morals of some people. I would say that after being with him for seven years you are already married to him in your heart and you in his. I would contact a lawyer to get proper advice here and see if everything could be put in your name only. Why do the both of you feel so threatened by her? This is horrible that the two of you cannot move on in your lives because of her. This is so sad that she may be holding something over your heads. She sounds like an evil and vindictive person. After seven years you would think she could lay down her weapons and let her husband move on in his life. What is bad here is that by law he is still responsible for her financially and what if she were to run up a big hospital bill that he would be liable for? If something were to happen to him medically she would have all rights tell the doctors what to do with him. If he died (hopefully not) she would have rights to everything including keeping you away from his funeral! She could even have him cremated and take his ashes home and flush him down the toilet. I am sorry but these things do happen in life. People are very vindictive out there and she seems like the type. honestly I really advise that you and him need to see a lawyer and hopefully he will sugest a way for him to get divorced from her and will tell him what he needs to do. Best wishes sweetie I hope everything turns out for the both of you.
2007-05-23 18:39:43 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your daughter is NOT his stepdaughter, and his sons are NOT your stepsons if he is still married to someone else, ...and how can you have a daughter who is two but you have been with him for seven years and that isn't his daughter?
I am happy for your new business venture, but your situation sucks. Yes, she is entitled to part of this business thing because THEY ARE STILL MARRIED. And NO, you cannot be his fiance if he is still married to someone else.
Do you really want to be with this guy who is "threatened" by his ex-wife? She cannot just refuse a divorce, so they don't get one for SEVEN YEARS. That is ridiculous. He could have at any time gotten an attorney and filed for divorce. He is lying to you if he says he is imprisoned in that marriage.
2007-05-23 18:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by jenteacher2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say he is "technically" still married you really mean he is still "actually" married. Don't fool yourself with words like technically.
Bottom line: He's married, has been for a long time. You seem to think this is all OK. He is using you. If he wants a divorce then he has to file for a divorce. Tell him to be a Man. She can refuse it all she wants, the Judge will make it happen anyway. Get a restraining order while your at it.
2007-05-23 18:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His wife can sue for a portion of his stake in the business. If he were to pass away unexpectedly she would get any benefits and property in his name. You don't have to wait on him. You can consult with a divorce lawyer and figure out what you can do in your particular state. Thy've been separated for more than 5 years so it would just be a matter of filing legal separation papers.
2007-05-23 18:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 05:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by arrocha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey he wont divorce his wife cause he still loves her, he wants his cake and ice cream too...also another reason why he wont leave cause he know she can get half of everything he owns, get child support, and alimony( he is not stupid) he is not your fiance' trust me, he is still married...if anything happens to him tomorrow who is the owner of his estate, who makes all the final decisions, who gets everything...if you say the wife..you are quite right.....i was the wife at one point and yes my husband had a mistress, who thought he would leave me for her....he told her he was not leaving me, but she thought she could have all of him...well i never took him back but he did take her for a ride for a few years, using her credit card, she paid for a lot of their trips,she also helped him get his business started.......i hate to say it......but whenever i was in need for sex, i could call him anytime day or night he would come and get it, she would call him while he was with me, he would always tell her it was over between us and that we dont deal with one another.well i got tired of everything and left him alone completely, filed for a divorce myself, which almost drove him crazy, and when he was finally free, he would not marry the mistress, cause he still thinks to this day that he will have me back...also things got worst with their relationship. I'm getting most of his money now, that bothered her, also...she caught him cheating on her......my advice to all women who fall in love with a married man.....if the man cheats on his wife, he will do the same thing to you..things may seem good, and he may even be a loving man, but trust me if he was unfaithful to his wife he will be with you also, my advice to you.....get your name off his business, and get your own, whatever belongs to him as long as he is married, it belongs to his wife...if you stay with him look foward to dissapointments, unhappy times, and if he does not get a divorce...you will always be the other woman
2007-05-23 19:13:06 · answer #7 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know much about law but how is that possible? I'm assuming that he's moved out of the house? You really need to get that settled before she tries to stake actual claims in your business.
2007-05-23 18:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by mrsncm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a daughter who needs you. She WON'T learn from your mistakes. But, she WILL learn from your actions... If you want her to grow up Focused and In Charge of "HER" life, then "YOU" will have to be Focused and In Charge of "Your" life. I hate to tell you this...But, His "WIFE", Another Woman is Running Your Life! And He's LETTING IT HAPPEN! And Your putting up with it!
If you really want some perspective...There is a book you should read. "He's Just Not That Into You" by. Greg Behrendt
2007-05-23 19:16:24 · answer #9 · answered by Trisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a lawyer. Now. What is he afraid of -- is she going to shoot him? Time does not dissolve a marriage. Laws vary from state to state, so spend the bucks to get some good legal advice. Don't get into an argument with her, let the lawyers handle it. Your b/f needs to get some backbone.
2007-05-23 18:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋