when ever I go on our home computer I notice that in the tool bar there's porn sites, but when I ask my husband why he says he's not going on them but every time I use the computer there's more sites popping up so I believe he's lying to me. And I think if he'll lie about this then he's probably lying about other things. I really want to leave but we have two kids and I don't want to hurt them, I'm just not happy anymore..What should I do.
2007-05-23 17:24:10 · 30 answers · asked by Castro 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's easy to record someones keystrokes and websites. There are a lot of companies. . do a search. Sounds like you have more problems than you are mentioning. Don't do anything rash especially when kids are involved. You can set yourself aside until your financially able to provide for the little ones. Remember the more stable the environment for the kids, the more stable they will turn out, and the easier time you will have with them during adolescence. At least try to keep them in the same house & schools. Good Luck
2007-05-23 17:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't just give up on your marriage because you are "just not happy anymore". Marriage is not a disposable thing. You also have two children involved, do not leave! You need to work things out. A lot of men look at porn on the internet. It's how men are, as long as your husband is not sneaking around and having an affair then relax. If your kids are at an age where they can go on the computer, talk to your husband about the sites and let him know you are concerned because you do not want the children to see it. If there are other problems in your marriage I would try to seek counseling. Goodluck, and stick with it for your children if nothing else.
2007-05-24 00:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You kind of answered your own question. Leave him, you are not happy, you think he is lying to you, which he most likely is, porn can lead to meeting people and cheating, and you deserve better and so do the kids. Anyone will tell you, kids know when a marriage is not happy and they would rather be from a happy broken home than a horrible one with two parents. Make plans before you leave and be prepared. But I say do it. He ain't taking marriage seriously.
2007-05-24 00:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A way to check what sites he's visiting would be to check your history. There is a button you can click in your toolbar that has one green arrow and it's next to the favorites button...atleast that's the set up on my computer. Now, this will only show if he hasn't figured out how to clear the history. I think leaving at this point may be kind of drastic. You basically are needing him to admit he is doing this and then you want him to seek help to quit doing this. If you are 100% sure he is viewing these sites and he isn't willing to admit to it or seek help then yes, I would consider leaving. Ultimately, you need to decide what is best for everybody involved and have a plan to make that happen! God bless...I know it's tough!
2007-05-24 00:53:22 · answer #4 · answered by porkchopsgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you leave your husband be certain he has done something wrong.
you have children and you need to think out the whole scenario before you cut and run and maybe create a giant problem for all concerned.
at computer shows the booths with the largest crowd and that sells the most are sex related.
unfortunately, we are all confronted with nudity and sex every day of the week.
it is also very available on the internet. you would be shocked at the companies with sex oriented materials on their site.
i can imagine your husband cruising along and he sees something interesting. maybe he clicks. you see his travels ask him, he is embarrassed and tells you a story.
should you leave him?
lets say you are walking down the the street and you see an attractive man and you look him over twice or more. should your husband leave you?
in marriages there will be ups and downs and mistakes!
are you perfect?
are you holding a monopoly on virtue?
i doubt it very much!
don't be so quick to deprive your children of a father.
if you are perfect, maybe you can give the world some advice.
2007-05-24 00:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by ramni222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I went though the same thing. We have a daughter togethe also. I caught him twice though, after I was suspecting him of seeing porn sites. I was really going to leave his ***, because I told him before that I don't like that kind of stuff. And that if he needs to see that stuff, I must not be good enough for him. He never really wanted to admit it until recently. He's probably afraid that if he admits to it, you'll leave him for sure. Just try to sit down with him and talk sincerly about this issue and what is on your mind...even that you're thinking of leaving him and that you are unhappy. It just might make his realize what he's doing. but don't ever just stay with someone you are truly unhappy with just because you have 2 kids. You wouldn't want them to do the same.
2007-05-24 00:37:42 · answer #6 · answered by Mommy of 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you seriously considering leaving him for looking at porn? If he is just looking and not cheating on you then you are being ridiculous. Men are very sexual and sometimes need more stimulation than their wife's can or will give. If this is his biggest offense try talking to him and find out if there is something that you can do to fulfill his sexual desires so that he doesn't need to look at the porn. I wouldnt throw a marriage away because of this, I think that you may be a little insecure.
2007-05-24 00:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should leave your husband for looking at porn(if he is) but its not good that he's lying. Does anyone eles have access to the computer? If not, dont pester and nag just sit him down and let him know whats up. Looking at porn shouldn't be something to hide, if there are ''funny'' emails or text messeges then thats somethnig to really worry about.
2007-05-24 00:31:34 · answer #8 · answered by mrsncm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your husband that you are not ok with this crap and this is disrespectfull to you. god...I hate these nasty whores that do that. They have no respect for themselves and men just think they are great. You are the third woman tonight having the same problem.Men are just down right gross!! What the hell are they looking for in these images??? It is absolutely terrible that a man has to stick his head in a toilet! I would confront him with it and tell him if he does it again you will bash in the computer with a hammer and knock their **** and *** right off the screen for him. Tell him that you will put so much excitement in his life over that he will be so afraid to get his wacker dacker out to take a leak in his own bathroom! I sware to the high heavens this is becoming a very major problem in many relationships. I am sorry sweetie but these men make me so angry when they do that !!! ....and I just cannot stand how some men feel that they represent what a woman is all about. They are idiots that are perverted and sick. Best wishes and you have a good night.
2007-05-24 00:40:53 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
May be is addicted to it and
check on the sidebar heck history or on the top where it says tools and help.click on history
if u don't love him anymore and he is making u feel bad then try to talk to him and ask him if he is being on those porn website say that ur not going to be mad tell him is normal for guys since they are always horny or tell him that u both need to watch one together
and if u don't trust him
then just leave him
becaused you don't knowwhat he is doing behind your back
2007-05-24 00:34:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋