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Question

At what age did you stop co-sleeping with your baby? My daughter is nine months and we stopped at 3 months but my friend wants to continue til her baby is 1yr and I think that that is too long. Thank you

Answer 1

We have been off and on with this since he was about 3 months old. He is now 8 months old. We generally bring him to bed with us because we enjoy him being there. Now we bring him in because he rolls over onto his tummy and I hate it. I have been regularly co sleeping now for about a month. I am trying to get back to him in his nursery so I don't screw up my really great sleeping baby! I do think it's okay once in a while but not all of the time. I think that if she keep co sleeping for a year it could be a problem later.

Answer 2

just stopped now at 11months and i loved every second of it. I know many people have different pre conceived ideas but like most parenting issues only the parents can decide what's best. what about people who would dare say that you are wrong to have bubby in bed till 3 months. I know what they should be told and that is to go stick it.


just to add- your baby sleeps in your tummy right inside of you for a whole 9 months, what is the harm in another 9 on the outside. Your friend might be mistaken in setting a time though as it should happen when the time is right.

Answer 3

I stopped co-sleeping a little after 6 months, but at 9 months I still bring her into bed after my husband wakes up in the morning. If you friend is still comfortable with the arrangement then that is all that matters. For me, when I realized that my daughter and I were disturbing each other in our sleep, that was when I decided to transition her into her own room. I think it is different for everyone. Often, the longer you co-sleep, the harder it can be to change the arrangement.

Answer 4

My babies always end up in bed with me at first (I am a lazy breastfeeding mom and it just so easy). Around 4 months they sleep a little longer and so they go into the playpen in our room for a month or so then they go into the crib in their own room. I wouldn't go to a year because the older a child gets the more likely they are to be opinionated about it but it isn't a big deal. That child isn't going to sleep with his/her parents when he is 15. Since we feel it is too long, it would be too long for us, but if it works for them that's cool. It might be better for them for a lot of reasons. One of the hardest things about being a parent is coming to terms with the idea that what is right for you may not be right for another family and that you are still right and so are they. Parenthood brings insanity, doubt and guilt. Don't let it get you. It won't hurt your friend or her baby and it doesn't make you any less of a parent for moving your baby when you did, nor does it make you friend any less for not. Just moms doing what works for your family and your kids. Best wishes.

Answer 5

I have a 6 and 4 year olds. They slept with me until right before they were one but then they slept with me after that too. There are still nights that they will wake up and crawl into bed with me due to nightmares, trouble falling back to sleep. Your child will let you know the same way with toliet training and breastfeeding or the bottle. You do what you feel is the BEST for your child don't ask strangers what to do with your child.

Answer 6

I stopped at 3 months. I wish with all my heart that i could still have my baby in my bed. A child develops their sleeping habits around the 4th or 5 month. So, to your friend: Good luck with trying to have sex later on with your kid in the bed cuz that kid isn't gonna want to sleep anywhere else. I wonder if the child will feel rejection after 1 year if forced to then sleep in his own bed?

Answer 7

I only did it for the first 3 months also. When he still woke up in the night for a nursing. Then I moved him to his crib before he got stuck in my bed. My sister has a 4 year old who still sleeps in the same bed as her. That would drive me nuts. I can't sleep comfortable when the kids are in the bed. Especially the baby, I'm afraid of SIDS.

Answer 8

My son is 22 mo, and we still cosleep. He is starting to spend more time in his crib now (we have it side-carred next to our bed) so I think he's almost ready to make the move on his own. IMO, as long as it is working for everyone involved, there isn't a time limit. In the end, it really is your friend's choice how long her baby sleeps with her.

Answer 9

By co-sleeping with a baby you are creating a habit that could be hard to break.
Also some do regard this as dangerous?
I think the best way to stop is to never start.
Our little guy slept in his own bed/cot/bassinet from the start.

Answer 10

Why do you think its too long? My son coslept until he was 6 months, and my daughter still comes to our bed after she wakes up for her middle of the night snack (she's almost 1). I don't see anything wrong with it as long as it is what works in their family.