Did you take your wedding vows to heart & understand the magnitude of their meaning or now that you're married you realize the weight of their importance & wonder if marriage is what it's all cracked up to be?
2007-05-23 17:10:49 · 29 answers · asked by eluvsdmode 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well it's not how much you spend on the wedding that shows how you care cause it only shows you are capable.
it's what you write in the vows that shows how much you are willing and going to do, shows how much you love her,shows how much you need her, shows how much you respect her........it shows everything.
so VERY serious
2007-05-23 17:15:24 · answer #1 · answered by ShICoZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took what I said the day I married seriously, but had no earthly idea in hell or heaven what I was saying!!
Lordy no. I didn't know the scope, the magnitude, nothing.
I think if you have a great example to follow, you get it. If you don't, you learn by trial and error.
Some of us just had to go thru these things to 'wake up and smell the coffee'. What a wake up call!
If this is you, don't be too hard on yourself. It happens. You're human. You are not alone. The worst part of course would be bringing a child into a marriage that is doooomed.
I found out my ex and I were waaaaay different as soon as we got married and he let his guard down; showed his real self...the demon. ha. I just hadn't noticed the major differences we had. I simply didn't have a clue before that. Too inexperienced, neive, etc.
If you have similar wants, needs, morals, etc in common, you are attracted to him - you gotta be, and you love him, you both agree on how to raise kids, how to handle money, he's not jealous, you both are stable people, then counseling might help if you're not happy right now.
If you have big red flags, PAY attention, like you are. Don't ignore them. Life is too short.
Good luck!!
2007-05-23 17:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by Marie123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took them very seriously, as if they were a "Vow" I took in front of God, my husband, my friends and my family. I think that the main problem with marriages today is that people do not put any thought into the vows before they get married and just parrot what they are told to say and only after are they married to they consider what they were really saying.
2007-05-23 17:15:29 · answer #3 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a great question! I've been sorta struggling with married life lately. I mean I love my husband, but there are times I wonder what life would be like if we weren't together anymore. I hate to admit it, but sometimes I feel stuck and unhappy and want out and away from all the stresses within our marriage. However, I continually remind myself of the commitment I made when we got married. In answer to your question...now that we are married for almost 3 years now I do look back on our wedding day and wish I would have not done it so soon because we only dated 6 months. In a way, I feel like that wasn't enough time to truly know each other. I feel like my husband is different now that we're married than he was when we were dating. I know pretty much everyone changes and shows more of their true personalities once married, but I feel like he was fake in so many ways. Anyways, I find it to be a struggle at times...not always, but I do feel like it is my responsibility to stick with it and work at it and sometimes I have to do it one day at a time. I knew marriage would require lots of work and patience and sacrafice, but no, I never knew it would require this much. It must be worth it, otherwise no one would ever get married. At least, I'll keep telling myself that!
2007-05-23 17:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by porkchopsgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take and hold my vows very seriously. My marriage to my wife is just not about the two of us. We were married into a union with God. God, is a palpable force in our marriage. I truly believe that the love that my wife and I share and the blessings that we enjoy in life start with our shared faith in Christ. I believe strongly in the responsibility of marriage and it is more than I ever thought it would be. When you share your love and your life with someone the bad times never seem as bad and the good times are just that much better. I know that not everyone out there has found what I have in my marriage. I know that I am lucky and blessed, and I work hard every day to keep our union strong.
2007-05-23 17:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married 2 months ago to a man I have been with for 6 years and it was the best thing I have ever done! I think its because even though on one level everything is the same, I feel even more deeply bonded to my husband now and its like we have become one. Not one person, but one family! I really didn't think it would be so significant, and I really can't explain don't know why exactly- I am always forgetting to wear my ring- but that matters less then the feeling in my heart of being married to my sweetheart!
2007-05-23 17:20:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married once very young and honestly didn't think about what they said, I was nervous and it didn't last more than two years so I guess I didn't. But now I am remarried and I listened to every word and I meant I do with all my heart and soul. I take my vows extremely serious and so does my husband. It is definitely more than it is cracked up to be if it is with the "right" person.
2007-05-23 17:14:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny story: My husband and I eloped. We got married at city hall, and we had no idea what the vows would be. We figured the same old "love honor, cherish, blah, blah (we aren't religious, so whatever was fine)."
Anyway, it was all pretty standard like we thought, but I had to go first with the repeating part. The "judge" or whoever told me to repeat "I will respect you..." and i looked at my husband and started laughing. Without missing a beat my sweet husband said, "just say it so we can go home and you can emasculate me in private!"
He's a good man, with a great sense of humor. I don't remember the vows except for that part, but i remember the feeling of being very happy and wanting to make him happy for the rest of our lives... I still feel that way:)
2007-05-23 17:20:14 · answer #8 · answered by Dolyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took my marriage vows very seriously. We are still married and will continue to stay married until death do us part. This is a contract that we both made unto God and without Him, nothing would be possible. I give all the glory to God and I am thankful to have a wonderful marriage with my handsome, knight and shining armor husband.
2007-05-23 17:18:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew I only wanted to be married one time, and one time only. I really took them to heart and I explained my thoughts on ending a marriage with my fiance. For me death is just about the only acceptable way out!
I think if more ppl slowed down, dated longer and took the vows as seriously as they were meant to be, the world would be a better place. Divorce would be rare, adultry would all but vanish, child support no longer and issue. I WISH!
2007-05-23 17:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy_Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married to the same woman I proposed to and married over 28 years ago. I took the vows seriously as I firmly believe there is no reason to get married if you don't. My regrets are few, and are outweighed by the positive things. It has been some work, but I feel its been worth it.
2007-05-23 17:16:44 · answer #11 · answered by Randy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋