I seriously cannot stop being jealous of othergirls. he is not a cheater and says I am the best etc..
For some reason I sabotage my own mind, into believeing things that aren't true.
He's a great guy, I don't want to ruin things, HELP!
2007-05-23 15:54:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Accepting the fact about what you are, is the first thing towards improvement. Once you have realised it just accept it before the boyfriend and he will understand and will be proud of you for your honesty and will himself try to help you to come out of your fobia. Dont be resistant to him and follow him since you agree that he is great guy.
Best luck
2007-05-23 16:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by KVISHWAS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that he is with you for a reason. If he wasn't interested, he wouldn't be with you.
If you don't trust him, then maybe he isn't the right person for you. Is there a reason you are are having these feelings? Does he flirt with the girls? Is there something he does that makes you uncomfortable when he is with them? Maybe you need to have a discussion about the way he acts if this is the case.
Also take a look at the big picture. If you do break up, guys are a dime a dozen. You could replace him in a heartbeat. It's not the end of the world if one relationship doesn't work out. You have your whole life ahead of you to meet someone you do trust.
2007-05-23 16:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by red 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop driving yourself crazy. If you keep thinking he's cheating, he's eventually going to cheat on you only because you pushed him to it.
If he's never given you a reason to not trust him, then why are you so jealous. Does he flirt with other girls? If so, then that probably is what is fueling this fire. Talk to him. There's got to be a reason why you don't trust him. If he's not doing anything, and he always has girls hanging on him, then he needs to step up and tell the girls he's taken. But either way, you need to communicate. Something must've caused you to become jealous. You just need to figure out what it is, then work from there to get over it.
2007-05-23 16:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by DH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly have the same problem, haha not gonna lie. I think the best thing you can do is to put yourself in a different state of mind, and fill your mind with thoughts of fidelity as opposed to infidelity. The way I see things, is that, your guy is obviously with you for a reason. He's not with you so he can hear you complain about other girls, he obviously sees something in you, and you don't want to drive him away because of insecurities. And hey, if all else fails, just flirt with other guys!
2007-05-23 16:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
the main question is WHY his courting ended along with his ex OR if that's over and it extremely is purely an intermission. If he extremely ended the courting because of the fact HE felt she purely wasn't the single and had to pass on then, super, you have not got any subject. whether, if the courting ended because of the fact she cheated on him or she broke it off then you definately probable might desire to subject. it extremely is what i might call an unfinished courting. the two way, i do no longer think in the ex's transforming into to be terrific friends memories (or loving one yet another as friends) and if i've got been you i might purely be very careful you don't get harm in this courting.
2016-11-05 04:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live in the present only be aware of things infront of you and around you , jealousy is all in the mind focus on something else
2014-04-02 06:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question you need to ask yourself is do you really trust your b/f? If you do then be proud that other girls are interested in your man, you got him they don't. You can't have a great relationship without trust.
2007-05-23 16:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by accebermn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i used to be that way.
i did what my mother told me to do , and it worked for me . hope it works for you.
My mother told me, you just have to tell yourself he not cheaping. that he loves you for you, and that you want him and need him in your life .
and if that not working . then even if you know that your jealous is making him upset . he is still get a rise out of you . some men while do things just to see the women to get a rise out of the women they love, but when they do sometimes they get upset .
so sometime you just have to tell yourself you are not going to show you are jeaulous even if you are . then one day it will just become second nature to you . hope this work for you.
2007-05-24 04:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is not bad to protect yourself but the point is that you need to be relaxed not too nervous. Nobody will hurt you unless you hurt them.
2007-05-23 16:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by eddie z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a great girl. There is NOTHING wrong with you. You are just protecting whats yours.
2007-05-23 15:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋