and u ask him to tell them to stop and u ask him to change his number and he did, but he keep in contact with some of his female friends,but things started to get out of hand so we both decide to cut off some of the guys and girls that's callin our phone. and then u ask him to tell them to stop calling then he said he wont. what would you do?
2007-05-23 15:33:04 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
rethink the relationship and his loyalty
2007-05-23 15:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you mean by out of hand because, if these chicks are his friends then what is the problem, same as if these guys are your friends then what is the big deal, When you have friends and they are the ones that are there for you no matter what and when you get a new girl or new guy in your life and they ask you to drop your friends you will have nothing but prombles from here on out. If you and him are talking to guys and girls you had something going on with before and still keep in touch then you are both wrong, if he has changed his number and they still call him then obviously he gave it to them and he like's talking to them, and then this relationship will be just a waste of your time
2007-05-23 22:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by CORONA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happen to me but i was doing it to the other person. I have learned that good communication in a relationship is a plus. It seems as if he said he won't stop because your doing the same thing. If this is tearing the relationship apart and there is no compromise then you have to get out of the situation. Somebody has to "make a change" always remember that.
2007-05-23 22:40:34 · answer #3 · answered by mcclarychristy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that I'm one of the few people who remembers that men have friends that are female, and vice versa. Are you one of those women do can't have her man in contact with any other female besides you and those he's related to? If you intend to cut him off from all other women, I'm afraid to say you'll never be happy in a relationship. Have you cut yourself off from the men you're friends with? How would you feel if your man expected you to have nothing to do with your male friends? Unless you know for sure that he's messing around with something else, your fears are unfounded. I think you need to reevaluate your relationship and trust issues. Loosen the reins a bit.
2007-05-23 22:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I didn't have a boyfriend myself, I would just say you're paranoid. But you're not.
I would have to question his fidelity though if he is refusing to stop contacting some of these people. Who knows what is going on when you're not around.
Do these people just call to party with him? If so, I would let him go, and follow him to be sure he's being loyal.
2007-05-23 22:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by gc_level_17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this what's happening to you? if it is, dont sweat it. girls have their guy friends, and guys have their girl friends. it doesnt mean that if a guy calls a girl then he likes her, they just want to talk to someone. Do you think he could be cheating on you, maybe? If you do, just tell him. try not to sound too protective. **Bottom line**blocking away all of his friends because they're females isnt the solution if you think the guy is cheating.
2007-05-23 22:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by ß®ïë££ë™ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Question who he's in a relationship with...you or them? If he's not ready to let go of those relationships, then maybe he's not ready to be with you. And honestly, do you really want to be with a man whose fidelity you question on a daily basis? Every girl deserves better than that.
2007-05-23 22:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by cowboynpony00 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are two good reasons for him to tell those girls to stop calling: respect for your feelings and respect for the relationship you are building together.
But - you have your answer - those girls are more important to him than your feelings.
He's not "ur man", he's playing you and everyone else.
Move on...he'll break your heart.
2007-05-23 22:38:48 · answer #8 · answered by Stan W 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Please remember a girlfriend is not a mother; you can't tell him what to do! We have free will...Though I agree this behavior is unacceptable, then you have to choose whether you want this type of person/situation in your life or not. It's your call to stay or go, not to tell another person what to do. Good luck.
2007-05-23 22:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by Artemisia G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has a hidden agenda, you have do have a serious talk with him and tell him how you feel otherwise the insecure feelings you have will never go away,
2007-05-23 22:44:14 · answer #10 · answered by stargirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get his phone and call them myself and tell them to stop calling my man's phone.
2007-05-23 22:37:35 · answer #11 · answered by Mica O 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋