What could possibly be going on with my husband?

Question

My husbband has no idea what he is doing to me, but I wanna know what else I can do to fix our sex life. we have been married for less than a year. He is out of town on "business" alot, so I see him on weekends usually, we work opposite shifts but not that different . But anyway, I have always been the kikny kind and willing to try new stuff and do things sexually for him with no problem while Im doing it. The thing is that is all he will do. He will not do anything sexual back to me. Not even have sex with me. I am not unattractive, and I am pregnant, but I still have a high libido I always have. But he will get his and not even care about mine, until the other day, he actually bought me a vibrator, instead oh just having sex with me already! Other things have happened in our relationship lately to make me think he may be having an affair. What do you guys think? I have discussed this with him and he just thinks I am over reacting. We have only had sex three times in the past mont

I dont think it is because he is frekaed out about the baby. He says he gets turned on knowing that he got me pregnant, and he does get turned on but he wont have intercourse. My friends joke and says hes cheating with a man. But I am seriosuly getting p*ssed off about this. I have had sex with him no matter how sick I feel or how much pain I feel and he cant even do it with me. He was out of town a few weeks ago and I got put in hospital for dehydration and he was in florida, I call at 1230 am their time and his boss had no idea where he was, then his mom called at 1 am their time and his boss said he was at a party. She said his ex left him because of him doing the same thing to her. He has 2 kids with her. And becasuse he was addicted ot porn, which we have had issues with that here. I mean before I got pregnant I was a stripper and I loved dressing sexy for him and still dont mind it. I have done just about everything with him to blow his mind. I am just confused.

I havent been a stripper since we first met three yrs ago, but I was cute is what I was trying to get at. I am not proud of that fact I was a stripper.

I am not fat! And I sure am not ugly! That is why I still get hit on by men, but I dont want them I want my husband.

Answer 1

You mentioned that you were pregnant. Some men have a hard time being intimate with their wives when they are pregnant. Sometimes they are either freaked out that there is a baby within the woman's body, or they are scared that by having sex they will hurt the baby. I would explore this possible explanation before I go and accuse him of having an affair. Good luck!

EDIT: Ok, now that you mentioned that you were a stripper, it sheds some light on the type of husband you possibly married. Um...I am beginning to think you are POSSIBLY right. He has POSSIBLY found himself another stripper type that isn't preggo. If you really feel so strongly that he is cheating, I would turn him loose. IF he is cheating he could give you an STD that you could pass on to your baby (when you do have sex).

Answer 2

Despite what you have done and how you have worked on your sexual life being a couple still he is too cold to appreciate and give anything in return .... then he must be cheating. A husband who has a very sensual wife must not be looking anywhere anymore. In fact he should reciprocate and most men (well I am talking on my own experience) gets turned on making love to their pregnant wife.

A man generally cant stand a day or two without sex and the fact that you only had sex 3 times in a month well thats abnormal. He must be fooling around and sorry to say that "The Other Woman" must be better than you are. I am not saying this to hurt you more but this might be a fact and there is a possibility since he is always out of town.

Better ask him bluntly if there is something going on behind your back. Man will always say we are over reacting but its a fact and hey remember a woman's instinct is very powerful. So its you who can feel as well if there is something fishy going on ...

Goodluck to you and please take care you are pregnant. God Bless.

Answer 3

If you think he is having an affair, research your checking account statements, credit cards statements and cell phone records. Try to google the number if you find some that raise your antennas. Use the transactions to place his location and to possibly identify who he was with. Remember if he placed a phone call to a number, he wasn't with the particular party. If you find anything suspicious, do not disclose this. Question his integrity, for example you research his credit card statement and you find a purchase for 3.89 at a Diamond Shamrock that occured at 11:53 pm on May 22. You know it wasn't gas or cigarettes because he doesn't smoke. Call the credit card company for detail description of the transaction. On one occasion, the company told me all that was stated was that it was medicinal. When I talked to the wife about feeling sick that day (didn't mention the transaction,time or date) while she was on her seminar she said no. When she asked why I would ask I told her that i thought she had mentioned it. Later that night, I probed again, "What time were you normally getting to bed when you were on your trip?" "Did you and the girls ever paint the town red over the weekend?" No. Finally, I got the truth...condoms. Be discreet.I won.

Answer 4

I've cheated on persons earlier than,and I've additionally been cheated on.That's why I feel that open relationships are easy methods to pass.Not that persons will have to take potential in their courting being open customarily,however a entire lot of persons in longer term relationships do have a tendency to stray at a few factor,it is simply human nature.So it is regularly well to have the dishonest finish of a courting somewhat open,in order that if/while it occurs it may not break the whole thing all in combination.I'd as a substitute forgive any one I love for his or her errors than to run away for the reason that of them and vice versa.

Answer 5

Its sad that you hear marriages tend to lower the sexual attraction rather then increase it. He probably sees himself as being spoiled. Knowing that you have a high sex drive and are willing to give without receiving will make most rather stingy. In his mind he's thinking "if I'm being taken care of with little to no efforts on my end why give anything at all?" My suggestion is to reduce the amount that you give him. I know it makes it harder on you seeing that you are getting anything in return and now you arent able to give as much as you want. However you will see in the long run that this can only improve your sex life. Use the other option he provided for you with occasional interaction with him and see if his efforts change for the better. Its unfortunate that you are in this situation and I truly wish you the best.

Answer 6

Was this pregnancy planned? If not, maybe he is having some emotional hang up about becoming a father again. Emotional problems can cause men to lose interest in sex but even then, men can still be selfish and want to get theirs, they just don't want to take the time to give you yours. It is not fair but that is the way it is a lot of times.
Stress, worry, finances can all effect your sex life too. Maybe when he does come home he is just to tired to be romantic.

Answer 7

My husband and I did it less when I was pregnant too.I think it freaks them out a little. Like they will squish the baby or poke it in the head with their you-know-what. Also, I wanted it ALOT more when I was pregnant so it felt like I was getting turned down quite a bit more than usual ( I asked for it damn near every day). That kind of freaked me out too and I overreacted too....I think it had ALOT to do with hormones too.
Hang in there. Watch for other signs of cheating. But I would say he may just be wierded out by the fact that you are pregnant.

Answer 8

It doesn't sound good, why wouldn't he want sex, mabey he's stressed over working oppisite shifts not seeing enogh of each other, he may be tired. but I would ask him why because he may just be a cheater, but try to get him to admit it so you don't pick something up that he may have contracted! It almost seems like he wants his cake and eat it too. But then again I have heard of men that don't like to do
it when their wife is pregnant, probably because of fear of hurting the baby, I really hope he isn't messing around on you!
but the sooner that you know if he is the better, no matter how heatbreaking that may be. good luck :(

Answer 9

i am gonna olnly tell u the truth it only gonna get worse

it startd out like that for me

i got pregnant
then we go to 5 months pregnant and he said i cant have sex anymore i dont wanna hurt the baby so i had no sex for 4 months (can drive a person insane especially when pregnant)

then the baby was born no sex for 3 months after that i think it was 3 or 4 maybe
then it went to now we have sex every 2 to 3 months
u have sex more then me
but i will tell u it starts when u get pregnant and only gets worse im in ur same prediciment
i wish someone could give me some advice
i love my hubby but i think i want him to give me permission or sumtin to go get some somewhere else
thats what u want it sounds like to
i willl just tell u it aint getting better go for what u want now find somone else too (i mean if u think hes cheatin he rpobably is u can do it too and have fun for me)

Answer 10

I really hope he is not cheating on you. My ex husband was doing the same thing he would get his and could care less if I got mine. He was cheating on me. He was not a good lover to begin with but he tried when we first got married. Some men are immature and cannot stand the fact that they are going to be Daddy's so they go out and have affairs. I am not saying he is but usually your instincts are correct.