Do you think having a bi-racial child is putting your child at a disadvantage?

Question

I have dated a variety of men and although my typical type is blonde hair blue eyes I have never limited myself to a particular type because I do not feel that the outside really matters. We all become ugly and wrinkly right? so who really cares? Anyways back to my question: My mom disproves of me dating outside of my race and her rational is that if you decide to one day have children who are mixed they will be socially disadvantaged ,will not idenify with a race and will be teased. I tend to disagree with her, thinking (and hoping) that it is not that big of an issue today. I am not however, not biracial so I cannot assert an argument out of my own personal experience. So just curious one everyones thoughts,particularly if you are biracial

Obviously I would love my child the same no matter what... it does not matter to me. The question is if it matters to other people and if there is still a stigma against biracial children.

Answer 1

i think it would depend on where you raised your child some areas of the country is socially tolerate and others are not the same way people will be as the child is growing up

Answer 2

Why would you even think of that? Races were created so there were no monotony . In the inside we are the same A Human Body. Will you consider your child in disadvantage because he is bi-racial. He will be your child. There will be blood and veins, a heart, arm and legs, etc. and the child will come from your womb. Do other races have less than lets say the whites or Hispanic or whatever other race you can think of? I am not bi-racial but my daughter is and I am happy with my daughter and the way everything is. And I don't care about the rest, If someone do not accept my child they are rejecting me too.

Answer 3

I don't think biracial children will be disadvantaged but there's definitley a difference. I'm mixed and I remember being younger and absolutley wanting to be white because that's what was pretty and that's what I saw growing up. Now that I'm older I'm able to look back and see how people, including my own family, treated me different from my cousins who werent mixed. I was often times paid more attention to and my grandmother loved to take me to church because the people there would always comment on my looks. So I really feel like I'm treated pretty well. I have a friend who is white and her daughter is mixed but basically looks completely white and people will actually make fun of her because they don't believe she's mixed. So depending on your skin tone you may be treated differently but worse off you may be treated as an outcast from both sides. I wouldnt discourage people to have interacial children because of that though I would just advise the child may need more support and role models.

Answer 4

Yes, there is a possibility , especially if we are talking to extremely traditional families, the child will not be accepted because of the mixed blood and considered an impure mutt and a reminder of the way the family was humiliated by bringing impure blood in the family tree. There are cases throughout the history when these disputes reach a climax, for example the Jewish genocide, when even the half blood had to suffer for their racial heritage. Mostly though, if the family is traditional , they will reject the person out of their race and, most likely, his/her off springs.
So, being rejected by the family can cause a series of issues for the biracial child.

Answer 5

To a certain degree, simply because there are people like your mom in the world. (My parents are basically the same way). But with a positive upbringing and lifelong family and friend support, a child can be anything they want to be. These kids must be told from the youngest age that although most people do not look like them, they are nonetheless the same on the inside, just like you said. Skin color is trivial; everyone has the same potential to achieve.

Answer 6

I hate stupid questions like this.
As a biracial woman, No, I do not feel socially disadvantaged in that I can't identify with a certain race. But then again, why would you? You identify with people base on other things other then race. I'm not "confuse" about who I am. (Oh woes is me, I do not know if I'm black or white. My life is sooo horrible) I'm aware that I'm BOTH black and white and I'm not ashamed of it. IT'S NOT A BIG DEAL.
I hate questions like these because I think it's BS. You can believe or not believe in many social issues, but something like interracial dating is not an "issue." It's just dating. Your mother only said what she said simply because she does not want you to date a black guy. Simple as that.

Answer 7

I am not biracial, but my child is multiracial black, white, hispanic. He has never been teased or not accepted because of this, in fact he has a lot of friends. AND he gets to leanrn about all three cultures...

i dont think people notice stuff like that anymore.
Biracial kids are beautiful too, because of their mixed features

Answer 8

I'm "multiracial" and I have no problem with it. I see it as an advantage (the different cultures and traditions). Of course, I was teased in school (just like every other kid). I identify with both of my parents, and I haven't had an identity crisis because I know that my family and friends knows who I am. There's the occasional person that has a problem, but I could careless. I embrace all sides. Your mom is probably trying to scare u.

Answer 9

Let us go through some examples of bi-racial disadvanged people shall we?

Mariah Carey
Tiger Woods
Jason Kidd
Lucie Lue
Barak Obama

I can keep going, but why? Dont have kids with someone because society is ignorant?

I need a better reason than that to no have kids with someone i love.

Answer 10

I don't think so, there are so many biracial and mutiracial kids nowadays and people are learning to accept it. My boyfriend and I are planing on biracial kids some day and I predict that they well have the best life just like any other kid.