i dont know if im just paranoid or it is a woman's instinct thats been bugging me for almost everyday. i would admit that there has been a history of cheating on his side but after dat he assured me of not doing it again. one time, he told me that hel go out with a friend who comes back from other country. then, i called him suprisingly, i dont know if he accidentally answered his fon, and i heard girls talking. so i called again, he answered again and record the conversation to be proof.the next day i ask him, denies going out with agirls, and showed him my proof, he explained to me he denies it because scared of having arguments again. after that he said that hel be honest and said that if hel be out with girls with his friends he will not lie to me, and let me hear their conversations.
2007-05-23 14:51:56 · 17 answers · asked by prettyhotchick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It IS possible for a guy who cheated to not do it again, but there is no better predictor or future behavior then past behavior.
When he cheated before, did he come clean with you or did you just bust him? If you busted him, then chances are he would have kept doing it indefinitely.
Did he cheat with one person or multiple people? If multiple people, then he's destined to keep cheating until he matures a little and figure out what issues are keeping him from being faithful. There's nothing wrong, intrinsically, with a guy having female friends, but you should know who they are, when he's out with them, and get invited out with them if you aren't already busy.
I suspect he's just a dog taking advantage of you because you keep letting him off the hook.
You have to stand up for yourself and let him know you don't deserve to be treated like that. Dump him and move on.
2007-05-23 14:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by whiskeyman510 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there it's hard to really know but fact is after they cheat they always swear up and down they won't do it again and some don't. But the fact he lied about something so little being out with a few girls thats a red flag most times he might not be cheating but maybe thinking about it. If you can't trust him that the relationship isn't worth having you should never be put through that. A relationship is built on trust among other things. I don't know if it's in your head or not but you need to think really hard and try to figure out if it's worth trying to work out or if you need to let him go.
2007-05-23 14:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by lilli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust your instincts, it doesn't seem like you're that paranoid since he has cheated before and lied to you about going out with girls even though you had proof, the trust in the relationship has already been broken and you will keep going through this cycle with him because he knows if he tells you the truth of his cheating that it will start an argument from what he says, the relationship has gone on for too long and instead of trying to find ways to catch him doing what you are already know in your gut, leave him and find someone who will be faithful to you...
2007-05-25 19:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am living with a "cheater". I know all my answers from PERSONAL EXPERIENCE.
Men are not the "one a cheater always a cheater" type. Yes my man cheated. But what are you gonna do? Make yourself crazy over it? It is not because he doesn't love you. If he didn't love you he would be gone. It isn't because you aren't attractive, if that were true, he would never touch you.
The truth is, ALL cheaters, men and women are insecure and need constant reassurance that they are attractive/desired. It has nothing to do with you.
One of my heroes,(my grandmother) told me that men will do what they will. You cannot control them. You cannot manipulate them. Accept them as they are and be happy or drive yourself crazy looking for "Mr. Right". He doesn't exist and all humans are flawed.
It boils down to this: if you love him, stay. If you don't, leave. But do not make it about his cheating. His dishonesty bothers me more.
2007-05-31 08:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by † Seeker of Truth † 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he's cheating, he probably is.
Does he tell you where he's going when he goes out? You could follow him in a friend's car.
Time to trust your instincts. You know what you have to do. Don't waste any more of your life on someone who's not willing to commit to you 100%.
2007-05-31 04:17:02 · answer #5 · answered by momma mia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First cool down and picture in case you prefer to be with a boy which you do no longer experience comfortable with and take breaths then think of each and every of the justifications why he could desire to be cheating and bypass make friends along with his ex only in case and ask her in case you like. perhaps he would not write approximately u through fact another issues are extra considerable i do no longer advise it like that I advise perhaps he's entering right into a sparkling domicile or his mothers and fathers are ill desire I helped
2016-10-13 06:51:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If in doubt honey chuck out!!
You are only doing your head in and will go crazy checking up on him all the time, life is far too short for that.
You are meant to feel loved and be able to trust your partner no matter who he is with if you cant then he is not the one for you.
Sorry and good luck.
2007-05-31 12:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was kyou i ,would be sayin well if there's gurl's there adn you aint doing any thing y cant i come.. other wise i wouldnt be letting him go there if he has a historyof cheating.. others get out and find a good guy that loves u and only wants to be with you
2007-05-23 14:59:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this has gone way too far. If you don't trust him, you need to get out of the relationship, period.
The whole letting you listen to conversations thing is childish, proves nothing, and will only build resentment.
You cannot, I repeat CANNOT prevent someone from cheating.
Work on building your confidence and self-esteem.
2007-05-23 14:56:11 · answer #9 · answered by GirlinSac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever that is a bold face lie, Ilearned that a couple amonths ago I was going through the same and I tried to deny it and trust him but there comes a time in your life when you have to be truthful and tell yourself the truth...dont do like I did...find someone who deserves you and your time
2007-05-23 14:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by cleanheart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋