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I recently took an out of state promotion in Jan. my wife who was behind me in this move, and was able to transfer to the same city with her company, has now decided to stay where she is I believe for the social life she enjoys there. Now I also need to add that I work nights and she works days, so our time together has been limited the last few years. I did not expect her to sit on the couch by herself every night. However, lately it has turned into 3-4 nights a week that she goes to the bar. If I don't make the effort to drive 7 hours on the weekend to see her, then I don't because she will not come to where I am at. Or meet me halfway. We have been married close to 10 years now. But I feel as though there is someone or something else. She gets evasive when I ask why she did not want to move with me. I made this move to better our lives. I think I made it worse. Or brought out what was going to happen sooner. Should I just go ahead and let her go?

2007-05-23 14:48:48 · 9 answers · asked by Vinsims 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

9 answers

Based on what you are saying she is acting a little childish. I would try to talk it out one more time and then if nothing is resolved just head your way and let her do her thing.

2007-05-23 15:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0 0

Ditto the first two answers, but geez, dontcha think an honest conversation with her might be in order? Sounds like you're both conflict-avoiders. Difference is, she's moved on already. I guarantee her social network includes your emotional (if not physical) replacement.

2007-05-23 15:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by Jack07 3 · 0 0

Only you can truly answer this. If you feel that thishas caused irrepairable damage to your marriage and theres no way to salvage it then time has come for you to cut your losses and just move on

2007-05-23 15:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0 0

In a normal marriage, one of the partners does not spend half their time in a bar....
a friend of mine had a husband like that.... he was cheating & walked out on her....
I think you already know the answer

2007-05-23 14:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by from HJ 7 · 0 0

Only you can decide if you want to be free of the marraige and be single . its not for us to decide. if your sure in your heart you are not happy and this is what you want, then go ahead and file.

2007-05-23 15:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

dude... if she has no iterest in being where you are, then there really isn't a relationship. Ask her if she will come with you to save the marrige, and if she says no, then let her go.

2007-05-23 14:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by B W 1 · 0 0

when she didn't move with you u should have known something was up....in order to save the marriage you will need to get back into her life...no gaurantee she wants that...so if you don't move back I'd consider divorcing.

2007-05-23 14:54:25 · answer #7 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 1 0

looks to me like she has a new one-you can't just leave her all lone. why did you take that job. to be better well look at it now. thy need you at home at night

2007-05-23 14:59:50 · answer #8 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0 0

take your promotion, file your papers and live the life you deserve

2007-05-23 15:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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