well im scared becouse of my friends,people and most importantly my family how do I say it?
2007-05-23 13:17:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Refere to Allah And prey....
2007-05-23 13:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by Al-Mothafar Al-Hasan 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I like what my cousin did about three years ago. He invited as many of the family out as he could to a dinner party at a nice restaurant in Portland, OR. one night. After the drinks and appetizers were served, he introduced us to his lover. His lover is a really nice guy and is a veterinarian assistant too. Needless to say, not a lot could be said from some of the family without alienating everyone else in the family or at the restaurant too. I thought it was perfect myself. The best advice I could give you is rather simple really. Get on a one to one basis with your friends, family members and people you know and tell them. Oh yes, you're going to sweat. Yes, you're going to what to puke right as your telling them this news. And yes, you're going to get even a few of those dreaded "looks" from some of them. As it is written in some book somewhere that I read once, "DON'T PANIC!!!" Breathe slowly and calmly. No, not that slowly! Otherwise, you'll pass out. Then, after it's all done and said, go and get a big Tequila Sunrise followed with a quadruple shot vanilla rage(it may be called differently where you live, I don't know though) and take the night off. Then, start living as you should live: One day at a time.
2007-05-23 13:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not an easy thing to do. Try coming out to someone you really trust first. Hopefully this will be comfortable enough for you to tell a few more people. How is your family social-wise? Are they conservative, liberal? You may want to keep it to yourself until you are comfortable with yoursrelf. Your family could be the harshest critics. But if you feel they can handle it just be honest and open. As far as how....I think the simpler you make it the better.
2007-05-23 13:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by boxjellÿ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh thats a tuff question.When I came out I told my sister first,she said she knew... I told my parents next,they said they knew,and when I told my friends..yep you guessed they knew to.Still it was the hardest and the most important thing I have ever done!Later my sister told me she knew I thought it was a big deal but to them it really wasnt and still isnt.So my advice if you are truly ready then just tell them that you are gay and then give them time to adjust and to react.After awhile I asked my family if they had any questions and yep they did.
I am not sayiing for you to jump out of the closet but until you do your friends and family really do not know the true you.GOOD LUCK
2007-05-23 13:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by TimboCLV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way you can come out is when you're comfortable with yourself. realistically, i doesn't matter whether people know or not, but some people just have to. so when you're comfortable and able to be real about yourself to others, you won't have a hard time. you may feel weird, but not at all bad..........
2007-05-23 13:44:18 · answer #5 · answered by Craigy Boi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them "I killed a man a year ago and cut him to pieces. I didn't why but it was the best thing that I ever did. Remember the BBQ party last year. It wasn't beef. BTW, I'm gay"
2007-05-23 15:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by Slug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be prepared for a Emotional time and let them pull you out if your not ready. There is no easy way.
2007-05-23 13:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just don't! thers no reason 4 them to assume ur str8 in the first place
2007-05-23 13:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by Temporary Sadness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋