I have a crush on my best friend, but I don't know how she feels about me! She's very open about everything...she changes in front of anyone, she'll kiss anyone on the cheek, she'll grab and tickle anyone...
I always tell her not to grab me and kiss me because I like it and she doesn't mean for me to like it. She gets mad and says I'm not open. Should I tell her the reason?
2007-05-23 13:16:00 · 6 answers · asked by Rainey L 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Um, gee, at the risk of alienating you AND possibly making you dislike me, tell your friend about you already! I mean come on! If it's making you uncomfortable to have her doing these things to you and she doesn't even know what you are sexually, then she's REALLY going to be upset when she does find out from someone else! First of all, you need to keep in mind that she's open about herself and you are rather conservative, which is absolutely fine so long as you're not anally retentive about it that is. She's basically a person who wears her heart and emotions on her sleeve and doesn't care who knows or not. You on the other hand like to be more quiet and personal about your feelings and what color your heart is at that moment. Again, nothing wrong with that at all. Best thing to do for your friend would be to take her out to coffee or the like and tell her VERY calmly what it is that's bothering you about what she is and isn't doing. Believe me me when I write that yes, she will understand. And yes, she may slip up every now and then and that's okay too. She's human, just like you are.
2007-05-23 13:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if grabs and tickles and kisses people of the same gender then she is bi so tell her u r and she will accept you and maybe even start a relationship with you
2007-05-23 13:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by hawaiian princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was a nice guy, certifiably str8, in my office who used to give me (and others) 5-second shoulder rubs. I finally told him that, "I need either a lot more than that, or nothing," and he stopped. I don't know if he realized I was gay, but since I meant that it wasn't even enough for a massage, it didn't really matter.
Of course, in your case, that line wouldn't be ambiguous. But yes, TELL her what your problem is!
2007-05-23 13:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by georgetslc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, personaly experince, she is like this, it prolly means that she is bi or bi curious. You might want to just tell her that your not open because you are bi. If she is a really true friend, she will except that and if your lucky, she may want to have a realtionship. Good luck.
2007-05-23 13:24:22 · answer #4 · answered by Eddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her use another situation too break the ice. (say something like I got a girl whom is interested in me what do you think, or what would so do). If push comes to shove just be honest. pick a time and place where she and you would have much time to think and talk with out interruptions
2007-05-24 14:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by kay b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her ur bi and if she doesnt like it... eff her! no serioiusly
2007-05-23 13:26:17 · answer #6 · answered by Temporary Sadness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋